Two nights away without DS?

Northern78

Morning all

I appreciate the melting pot of users on this board so would be grateful for your views on the following:-

DH and I have a 20 month old DS. DH works away from home, he's works in North London, he works week on week off. When he's away and I am at work DS goes to my parents for the day, he's there from about 7:30 am to 5:30 pm 4 days a week. When DH is home he looks after DS. This has been the set-up since I returned to work in October 2012. DS has also stayed over for the night at my parents a couple of times. Never had any problems, he's not a clingy baby and enjoys his time with grandparents.

So before we had DS, DH and I used to sometimes stay in London for a few days, I can stay with him for free. Since DS came along we've been down a few times and taken him with us.

We are now thinking of having a couple of days down there on our own while DS stayed with my parents, they have already said if we want to go down they will happily have him.

I was thinking of getting the train down on a Thursday lunchtime and then both of us coming back Saturday lunch time. Would mean DS would be at grandparents from mid-morning on the Thursday till mid-afternoon on the Saturday.

Do you think this is too long to be away from DS being only 20 months?? It's not like we HAVE to go, it would just be through choice. Can't help thinking it's a bit selfish of us but then again people keep saying that you still need time together on your own.

I guess with DH working away it's harder as we don't get a lot of time together so I can't help feeling it's then a bit unfair to spend time away from DS.

Would appreciate your views.

Thanks for reading!

Daxx

I think its a good thing.

Happy parents will equal a happy DS!

kelpie35

I think it is an excellent idea. You are not leaving your DS with people who seldom see him and they are used to his ways.

You both seem to work hard for your DS's future and deserve some me time.

Hope you enjoy your time together when away.

peachyprice

Nope, I don't think it's too long at all.

I thinks it healthy for a marriage to take time out occasionally for 'couple time'.

Northern78

Thanks all, I appreciate your thoughts on this.

I think if we did go it would be me making a bigger issue of it if you know what I mean.

twigpig

Absolutely go! You should spend time together by yourselves if and when you can. Great for your relationship and your sanity. It's not selfish in the slightest.....

pink_princess

Switch off and enjoy it

BugglyB

I would definitely go! You deserve some downtime.

One thing I would be aware of: last time I was in london I missed my train home and had to pay £82 :eek: for a single home. I very much doubt you would need to get home in a hurry - but if you did I would be sure that you could afford that if you needed to, if you see what I mean.

southoftheriver

Your relationship as a couple is important too, investing in that will help your family stay strong

iammumtoone

GO

When I had DS, nobody offered to look after him EVER not even for an evening let alone a whole night. Me and the ex didn't get to spend any time alone together in 4 years, It was hard ds was not the easiest of children. I am not saying that is why we split there were other issues as well, but it certainly didn't help. So take all the opportunities you can to spend time just you and OH.

newcook

How dare you and hubby want time alone together – you knew when you got pregnant that your lives now must revolve around your son and ‘couple time’ is a thing of the past

Only joking, I think it’s a good thing for parents to get away from their kids every now and then – the parents who never leave their children seem to end up with clingy, whiney kids which in turn leaves the parents feeling (and sometimes looking) frazzled!