Husband has to give up job to look after me

hngrymummy

When I was pregnant with my daughter and had HG I had lots of 'tv days' with my son. It was all I could manage. He's not suffered from it, and probably can't really remember that Mummy was too ill to do anything for 6 months. I was very lucky and had friends come round to visit and play with him for an hour or so once or twice a week.

I hope your HG goes quickly. Your daughter won't suffer if you have lots of tv days. You can also do lots of reading with her, maybe some colouring, games like snap etc.

My son usually ended up eating what I could bear to look at, and he didn't seem to mind that much (especially on days when I could only manage cake!)

Don't be afraid of asking people for help - neighbours, friends, your daughter's friends' parents, toddler group leaders etc etc.

SingleSue

Mine lasted until I was 18 weeks with 2 children under 5 (the youngest one at the time it finished was just over a year old, eldest was 4) and a husband who didn't drive, god knows how we managed but we did...my memory is literally of hanging over a bowl or the toilet for what seemed like 24/7 and felling pretty urgh.

Hubby carried on working, I think I may have spent a lot of time watching the Tellytubbies with the boys and trying to get the older one to nursery without throwing up in the car along the way (I always had a handy plastic bag available).....

Eldest particularly remembers with fondness our times having 'duvet' days when I was too sick to move anywhere.

tiny_courageous

Also worth speaking to your local adult services department as if some of your health needs are long term you may meet the criteria for assessment for some support at home, or your partner for a carers assessment (although I know these services can be rarer than hens teeth in some areas). Or, they may know of local independent agencies or charities that might be able to offer some help.

Also, is there Homestart in your area? Even if they can offer a couple of hours a week/fortnight support or just someone to talk to that might help.

kettlefish

Assuming he has been with his company over 1 year, your DH can take up to 18 weeks parental leave (unpaid) as your daughter is under 5. They may not let him take it all in one go, and it may need a few weeks notice. It may be worth looking into this as a way round it, as it could be argued that he is needed to care for DD and not specifically you.

hawk30

kettlefish wrote: »

Assuming he has been with his company over 1 year, your DH can take up to 18 weeks parental leave (unpaid) as your daughter is under 5. They may not let him take it all in one go, and it may need a few weeks notice. It may be worth looking into this as a way round it, as it could be argued that he is needed to care for DD and not specifically you.

Good idea, it's a shame there is a limit of 4 weeks per year, unless the employer agrees otherwise.

Bigmoney2

I was also going to suggest taking upaid leave, not neccessarily 'parental leave' , other options would be to take any unused holidays, ask for a temp reduction of hours, or a short term carear break, depending on what the employer is most likely to be amenable to , if anything.

hardpressed

You may not be a church goer but if you contact a local church there may be mums or grannies that would be willing to help out, there's nothing to lose by asking.

quintwins

I had HG in my first pregnancy, I ended up in hospital at around 20 weeks and was given meds which helped a huge amount (the ones my dr gave me didn't and I just accepted that and struggled one) please go see someone they can help control it.

In my second pregnancy I had spd which meant I couldn't walk, by the end I was on triple strength co-codomol just to get me threw the day. Now try doing that with twins! Alot of the time we all bundled into my bed, you can still read books and play with puzzles and lego or watch a dvd. I felt a complete failure as a mother so I do understand, however they are no worse off for it, sadly it was the deciding factor in us having no more children, if I ever considered more children it would not be until mine were alot more independent.

Hannahxxx

I always try to be polite, I left these boards after suffering pre eclampsia 3 years or so ago I just couldn't remember my username. But I knew where to come for advise! Been in hospital all day again. Still hg still bleeding they want me to stay in bed! Likely with a child I would crawl to spend time with! Just wish she wouldn't jump on me
I will do my best to drink a bit and try to be a bit more involved around the house it can't get any worse

Hannahxxx

I am on cyclizine ranitidine and steroids I am under a consultant they alow me to drink water and a little lucozade my keystones are plus 4 but because I can drink small amounts I am considerd ok