Online dating sites

maintenanceman

You see some profiles and they are so very attractive and you think> what are you doing on a dating site'. I reckon they are a con. I really don't believe them.I mean some of the girls are absolutely stunning, although thet do seem like ' I want this and have been there type'

DUTR

Dating sites are not just for less attractive folk, besides Kylie Minogue is attractive to some but not others.... anyways some do pics up when they are at their best with all the war paint on etc but on the whole maybe a leggings and t-shirt on a daily basis, it's upto you as the viewer to sift through the chaff and the wheat.

marisco_2

When women are attractive they can meet men anywhere. I guess some create profiles on dating sites because they lead very busy lives. For others it may be a case of validation. They crave the attention of men and enjoy receiving messages from them, many of which they don't respond to. You just have to approach online dating with an open mind and be selective.

paulineb_2

marisco wrote: »

When women are attractive they can meet men anywhere. I guess some create profiles on dating sites because they lead very busy lives. For others it may be a case of validation. They crave the attention of men and enjoy receiving messages from them, many of which they don't respond to. You just have to approach online dating with an open mind and be selective.

I dont agree with that at all. Attractiveness doesnt mean that people will find it easy to meet men anywhere. Otherwise there would be very few attractive people of both sexes single and thats certainly not the case.

I do agree that some people will be busy but a lot of people will post a profile on a dating site because by the time many people are 30 something or 40 something they arent necessarily going out clubbing or to pubs where a lot of people do meet up when they are younger for instance, or they have families that take up their time.
And younger people use sites as well, my friends son met his gf on POF and hes 23.

And yes, you'll always get people who put a profile on and waste peoples time but on the flip side of that, if someone messages you and you arent interested, some people might send back a thanks but no thanks mail, others will think I wont waste their time and reply.

Attractiveness is subjective anyway. Ive been told Im attractive, Ive been single a good few years, I certainly havent found it easy to meet people of the opposite sex, I live in a small town where the highlight of people's social lives is the local wetherspoons.

I certainly wouldnt think if an attractive man was on a dating site it was too good to be true, lots of people dont find it easy to meet people.

southoftheriver

Gosh you're a charmer aren't you? Lots of my beautiful, intelligent and financially stable friends have used internet dating. In fact they persuaded me to! It isn't always easy to meet someone regardless of looks and sometimes it may be a disadvantage (can't say I would know). Try looking beyond physical beauty, they are now all in long term relationships with men who value them for who they are as well as how beautiful they are.

aileth

Few pints again, Maintenance man?

Anyway, there was a BBC documentary on a few months ago which covered this and how many 'fake' profiles there were. There were people who hadn't even joined the dating site, their friend saw them on there, and it wasn't even them.

The website had effectively 'cloned' them onto the site, and someone from the website would respond to messages from free users, lead them on, the free trial would run out, and they would end up paying to continue talking but the 'cloned' account would stop responding. You have to be very careful.

As for attractive people, lots of attractive people use it. Just because they're attractive doesn't mean they're confident enough to 'pull' in a bar or in a face to face social situation, or they could simply like hand-picking people and getting to know them before meeting!

kittybangbang

I met my fiance on a dating site, and it's not because neither of us is 'unattractive'. We've both got good jobs, similar values and are totally compatible.

When it comes to meeting guys, I don't want to meet them in bars/clubs/work/the supermarket...So I took my time, created an honest profile, and went on a few dates until I found the right guy. Yes, there were a few disappointments, mainly due to guys lying about their height!! (i'm taller than average, and find it awkward when a guy is tiny compared to me!)

If you're prepared to put a bit of work in, then it's a great way to meet people. I also found, that after a couple of weeks, I became very skilled at spotting the fake/half-arsed profiles.

thewildthings

Sigh.

This is one of my biggest irks if im honest. I have never met anyone on a dating website- but my brother has. Sure he met a few weird ones before finding his Mrs Right- but nobody who lied all about who they were. I'm not saying it doesn't happen, because it does, but why do people have to assume because a girl is pretty and on a dating website- that there must be something fishy about it?!

Take me for example- I care for my grandparents 3 days a week, volunteer in a charity shop 2 days a week and I am starting an OU degree. I don't have that many friends I can "go out with" and I don't believe in mixing business with pleasure- so when am I suppose to meet these people I could so obviously meet if I was pretty as a picture? Hell..I barely have enough time to sit down and eat my Cheerios some mornings.

bluenoseam

Bearing in mind that for most attractive women, a night in the pub/club will usually entail being leered at, propositioned & get all the cheesy one liners that any sane person can handle. Some of them prefer dating websites as they can essentially say "hey, so I don't want to hear about one nighters or any of that rubbish and if that's what you're after jog on".

RuthnJasper

maintenanceman wrote: »

You see some profiles and they are so very attractive and you think> what are you doing on a dating site'. I reckon they are a con. I really don't believe them.I mean some of the girls are absolutely stunning, although thet do seem like ' I want this and have been there type'

If you're going on looks alone, you'll be waiting a LONG time for Ms. Right.

kittybangbang

I think a lot of people who've never used it, see it as a last resort. I.E if you can't pull on a night out/in a pub, you must be a big ugly geek and can only meet people online...

I always get shocked responses when people discover that I met my partner online. In this day and age of technology, I think the dating scene is a bit behind the times!