Bully dad

ecgirl07

Do not open the door. Sounds like you are better off without him - easy for others to say but just cut him out now.

rosie_78

Thank you for all your replies.

I had a mini breakdown yesterday morning. I really don't know what happened. Felt awful.

He came. I left the curtains shut and just stayed on the sofa under my blanket. He made a cup of tea for us, chatted for a bit. Stayed a couple of hours in the end. I don't know half of what he said.

He then said the house was looking nice and something about some paintings i'd hung(!) and went.

Surreal weird visit.
Am exhausted today.

I'll answer some of the questions that are on here later but my head is too fuzzy at the moment.

thank you xx

BitterAndTwisted

I'm not surprised that you feel you had a "mini-breakdown" yesterday, the pressure you felt must have been immense.

Once you are feeling stronger perhaps you can contact your father and tell him that you're not wiling to have any contact except under certain circumstances, if you are willing to have any contact whatsoever.

There's a lot to be said for clearing out the trash from your life when that trash is having a poor effect on your emotions and your mental well-being. I recommend it entirely. This father sounds like a heartless and selfish git and I'd be thinking about getting shot of him once and for all.

All the best rosie_78!

hannah899

Best thing I did in my life was cut my dad out of my life. theres 3 of us and its only the youngest that speaks to him. my dad was mentally, verbally and physically abusive, he also was to my mum and his second wife. He would even do in it public. I left a very strong worded message on his voicemail at Christmas and about february we met up and he said he knew he was in the wrong and tthings would change. i saw him beginning of may the day after my 19th and by the end of the day he had dropped me off in tears, i have not seen him since im 24 now. And as i say the best thing ive done. hope you have the strength to see you through your decision.

rosie_78

Thank you very much for your replies.
I'm unable to cut off contact with him as he'll then stop me being able to see my sister.

I barely slept last night after he'd gone - just so stressed about it all.

Due back at work Tuesday. Whilst I'm not yet 100% healthy yet from MMC, I think the distraction will do me some good.

Thanks again xx

ttc39

Hi Rosie,

I do think you should try to get the rest of the week off, with what you have been through a few more days could make all the difference Hun x