Partner not introduced me to friends

Principia_2

I've been with my partner for over 10 years and I've only met one of his friends (and he had to introduce him because they shared a place together). When we met, he lived about 3 hours away in his university town so we spent 2 years in a long distance relationship before he moved to live with me. We have been living together for 8 years and we are very happy.

A couple of times a year he goes back to his old haunts and his old friends for a couple of weeks and it seems acts like aging students (we're mid 30s).

I am an old fashioned girl, don't like swearing, drunkenness etc. None of his old friends have, or ever any kind of long term committed girlfriends. One old friend is no longer in contact with them because a few years back he introduced his new girlfriend to them and they apparently regaled this girl with tales of the excesses he got up to. She was shy but I would probably have told them to stop being idiots.

In short, he loves his friends to bits and he loves me to bits but we are obviously all very different people. From my perspective they seem like idiots who have never grown up and I assume from their perspective they would consider me up myself and a snob.

My bloke obviously behaves in very different way when he is with me or them and I think he would find it very difficult to deal with the fact that his very best friends and his partner dislike each other as well as trying to be these two different people at the same time. I also think that he is well aware how I see people like his friends and he is scared that I might see him in the same light. Add to that who knows what they might say or even worse I might tell them he likes to knit!! :eek:

I'm happy with the situation though, he's with me 90% of the time and is kind, respectful and sober - if he wants to take a holiday and act like a bit of an @$$ a few times a year then go for it. I respect his judgement on the matter and accept that I will probably never meet his friends socially and that's probably for the best.

I do regularly meet his family (who also only have a passing relationship with his friends) and we all have a great relationship, we've even been on holiday together

Not meeting friends could be a problem, or it might not. Talk to your girl about it

pops5588

Are her friends in relationships themselves? It took a very long time for me to meet OH's friends, they didn't seem particularly bothered about getting to know me until they were in relationships themselves and then suddenly they want to do the whole "double-dating" thing!!

andygb

Judi wrote: »

I stuck out like a sore thumb in a dress and heels when the other women wore jeans and leather but he didn't leave my side except to go to the bathroom... In the space of a few short minutes i'd been 'hit on' by 4 of his friends!:rotfl:

I wonder if the other, leather clad women started dressing a bit "girly" after that.
I used to be a biker, and the one thing which put me off, was biker women who wore scruffy leathers and jeans all the time - I much preferred my women to look feminine.;)

fluffnutter

My first thought is that she's not out to all her friends.