Partner not introduced me to friends

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Person_one

Why haven't you asked her about it?

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Alikay

Perhaps her friends are a particularly cliquey bunch? I've tended to find that mixed sex groups tend to be more welcoming of the males' new girlfriends than any boyfriends the girls in the group may bring along. Don't know why, but it's certainly been the case: Maybe girls are more accepting of "non-pack" females than the boys are of "non-pack" men?

Or maybe she has a significant ex amongst her friendship group whom she wants to keep you apart from. Or maybe she just hasn't got many friends. Or maybe she thinks it's too early in your relationship. Personally I don't think it's that significant, as you've already met her family, so I'd be careful you don't make too much of a big deal of it.

Tiddlywinks

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I did in a "joking" way, asked her if she was ashamed of me and laughed, she said not to be silly.


Still...nothing!

Rather than trying to make a joke of it... which minimises it in a way... why not just ask properly?

If the relationship is serious then you should be able to talk about this without worrying about her reaction.

quidsy

Maybe she is concerned that her friends will spill some secrets about her? Or possibly her friends are super judgmental & she is scared they will put a downer on the relationship by highlighting any faults they may have with you.

Who knows?. I suggest being a grown up about it & asking her in a non jokey way.

Or suggest arranging a night out with her mates so you can meet them all, then if she stalls you can raise the issue that way.

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stir_crazy

Ask to tag along next time she meets them for drinks/ coffee etc. I dont think 5 months is actually too long to wait. I think it was about 7-8 months before I met most of DH's friends and he mine.

pogofish

Not wanting to sound too doom and gloom about it but I've been here in the past and it was very much a sign of her not being into me as much as I was into her.

As time went-on, it did emerge that the picture she painted of me to her pals was very different to the one she gave me in private, with her/my family or around my friends. And the speed with which she integrated her next guy/victim with her friends spoke volumes about the way she was stringing me along.

It wouldn't surprise me at all to find there is someone else in her circle that she still holds a candle for or has outright designs-on, so keep yourself strong. Sorry.

FBaby

How often does she sees her best friend? My OH has only met my best friend twice because we don't see each other often and when we do, it is to spend girlie time together. Still I couldn't believe it when I did the invitation to our wedding that her husband (who I know very well) had never met my hubby to be.

Sometimes it is just a matter of circumstances. If you've met her family, I would be worried.

Kayalana99

Didn't meet my Ex partners family for 6months +....

Turns out he wasnt embrassed of me (which I was getting to point I was 100% thinking it was me!) he was embrassed about his family!!

They didn't have alot of money and he shared a box room with his 9 year old brother... etc... he was actally really suprized how 'ok' I was with everything.

Saying that I think people get the wrong idea about me cause I was brought up without money so to speak and my Dad got rich whist I was in my teen years so people think Im really posh when actally Im not as I was never spoilt and not brought up that way -.-