who would you choose

zagfles

jackomdj wrote: »

I don't know if you quoted me by accident, or just meant to quote that it was an honour, but we did not ask my sister, it is friends who are named. They will also have access to the money for our girls too.

Yes, sorry it was unclear - I was quoting you as I agreed, but replying to the OP.

BugglyB

ButterflyKisses wrote: »

I am on the opposite side of this issue. I am in my late twenties and working towards my chosen career. My OH and I have decided not to have children, for many reasons, but I have two nephews, 6 and 3. My (younger) sister has just rewritten her will, naming me as their guardian if anything happens to her and her husband. She was very hesitant when she asked me as she knows I am not planning on having children, but I was truly honoured and knew instantly I wanted to.

I love my nephews to bits and we have a great relationship. It would be a massive adjustment for me to take on a ready made family but we would cope, I would make it work. If the worst happened there is no way I could see them with anyone else because my career or social life was more important. That is just my take on the subject though.

I totally agree.

I love my nephew so much. I would drag myself over hot coals to ensure his welfare. If anything happened to my sister and her husband I would want him with me.

maman

I assume you're wanting this decided to give you peace of mind?

IMO, as it's very unlikely to happen, you could be opening up a huge can of worms and in order to plan things for after your death you'd be changing/souring your relationship with your family while you're alive.

I'd go for your parents if you must nominate someone. Make sure you have good life insurance so they can buy in any help they need.

When my children were young I did that so that DH or I (assumed we wouldn't be unlucky enough for it to be both of us!) could still work but could also afford top notch childcare. Only needed to do it until children 18 so not a huge outlay.