Lenny v the girls (+ Z, lmw and James) challenge lose the fat and the debt

Lucy1982_2

postingalwaysposting wrote: »

hes recomeded a lady from another driving school and will pass my details across if i fail but talk about pressure :mad:

Don't worry about it. When my Mum was learning to drive she did all her lessons in one town and then my Dad had to move (he was in the army) and she had to sit her test in a town she didn't know :eek: . She passed first time, and if she could do it then you'll be fine.

Just don't panic. And if you do fail then you can just join us wonderful people who took 2 attempts or more

ZTD

postingalwaysposting wrote: »

:mad: if my week couldnt get any worse... my driving instructor now has decided he doesnt want to teach anyone on my area :mad: even though he promised last week he would come over set days to teach those who have there tests aproching to make sure they pass... so if i dont pass in 2 weeks time i have to find another school :mad: oh and my 7th driving instructor :mad: i am sooo not happy :mad:

Why? He's shown he isn't committed to you - and now has shown he isn't committed to those who live around you.

You all are better off without him - inconvienience notwithstanding.

postingalwaysposting

snaggles thanks but i wouldnt hold my breath... the problem is i prommised myself if i didnt pass with this instructor i would give up... i know i can drive its just the manovers and the day i suppose :rolleyes:

thanks lucy... its just a pain, also the increase in lesson charge, the different car etc etc i dont think i could handle it... what happens if this next instructror drops me like the numerous have done before i really cant beleive it :mad:

ZTD

postingalwaysposting wrote: »

hes recomeded a lady from another driving school and will pass my details across if i fail but talk about pressure :mad:

Why are you looking with the assumption of failure?

If you pass - no problem.

If you fail - you have all the time in the world - no problem.

Why is there pressure?

You're not looking at passing your driving test as a problem because it will mean change - are you?

postingalwaysposting

ZTD wrote: »

Why? He's shown he isn't committed to you - and now has shown he isn't committed to those who live around you.

You all are better off without him - inconvienience notwithstanding.

i dont think its not commited i just think hes fed up... he is leaving the school he is with and setting up on his own in his home town, then he can do another job he used to do to get more points to emmigrate to australia :rolleyes: he is just being very selfish but at the end of the day there is nothing i can do... its just really got my goat!

postingalwaysposting

ZTD wrote: »

Why are you looking with the assumption of failure? because i think i will fail

If you pass - no problem.

If you fail - you have all the time in the world - no problem. Actully i havent got all the time in the world... i have payed over 3k on driving lesson if i stop i will forget things, i did when i was ran over and didnt drive for months

Why is there pressure? because if i fail i need another driving instructor, i dont get on well with people, i stress so much in new situations that i am pyhsical sick. I have had 6 driving instructors~ dont that tell you something

You're not looking at passing your driving test as a problem because it will mean change - are you?

no i want to pass i would give anything to pass... mainly because i will have over £180 per month to myself again :rolleyes: i hate learning to drive and wish i have never started.... my test and passing it is the way out it cant come quick enough but if i dont pass then technically i will have to start from scrath... how many more lessons will i need before the next instructor allows me to enter for my next test?

ZTD

postingalwaysposting wrote: »

because i think i will fail

Is the the thinking leading to the doing? Of course it is.

postingalwaysposting wrote: »

Actully i havent got all the time in the world... i have payed over 3k on driving lesson if i stop i will forget things, i did when i was ran over and didnt drive for months

You will forget things yes, but just things like the stopping distance of a private car at 30 mph. Nobody who drives "remembers" how to drive. It's all "muscle memory". You can't forget that.

I drive home some nights across unlit country lanes, avoiding the local rabbits, and stray sheep. Do I remember any part of that journey? No - why should I? That's what practice is for - so you don't need to remember anything.

postingalwaysposting wrote: »

if i dont pass then technically i will have to start from scrath...

No you won't.

postingalwaysposting wrote: »

how many more lessons will i need before the next instructor allows me to enter for my next test?

As many as you chose. Including zero. You *DO NOT NEED* the permission of anyone to go in for a driving test. You are the customer. It is your money. Your current instructor has seen you as a cash cow and has milked your bank account dry.

Did you tell him you were giving up after this? Is that when he started to make alternative plans?

ZTD

postingalwaysposting wrote: »

i dont think its not commited i just think hes fed up... he is leaving the school he is with and setting up on his own in his home town, then he can do another job he used to do to get more points to emmigrate to australia :rolleyes: he is just being very selfish but at the end of the day there is nothing i can do... its just really got my goat!

You're making excuses for him. He can't be commmitted to you and simultanously selfish - it's logically impossible.

postingalwaysposting

this is all making me feel worse and as if i am doing something wrong ~ i am not i have been fooled by another instructor... i cant change this i cant make this better. at the end of the day if i fail i will have to find another instructor and go through all the 'stuff' i have had to cope with before... nothing new there :rolleyes: thanks anyway everyone

Lucy1982_2

try not to feel to bad, you'll be ok.