Mr and Mrs K's New Journey to a Debt Free Life.

Granariesgirl

AlexLK wrote: »

Granaries: He's not trying to screw me over, at least I don't think so.

I'm sure HE isn't but I'm thinking more along the lines of this:

" So it comes that Man, the coward, when he gathers to confer
With his fellow-braves in council, dare not leave a place for her
Where, at war with Life and Conscience, he uplifts his erring hands
To some God of Abstract Justice—which no woman understands. And Man knows it! Knows, moreover, that the Woman that God gave him
Must command but may not govern—shall enthral but not enslave him.
And She knows, because She warns him, and Her instincts never fail,
That the Female of Her Species is more deadly than the Male"
(Complete poem here: http://www.potw.org/archive/potw96.html )

SHE probably won't be planning to screw you over BUT she WILL be thinking of her family & won't hesitate to run you over if she feels it is in her family's best interests (Kipling got it dead right, there).
As for him, who do you think he would rather keep happy, you or his Missis? :cool:
(or put another way, who is better placed to make his life Hell?;))

Better safe than sorry & if your own highly capable Female of the Species cannot be with you, at least take your Dad (who seems to be quite financially savvy) OR just say it's between the partners & the accountant, nobody from outside the company - end of!

:huh: In fact, looking back, why is this not a "company only" job?
WHY is his missis coming anyway? In what capacity? Is she a partner in the business, an employee...? :huh:

If she is not directly involved with the company, she has NO business being there at a company meeting... do you bring Mrs K along to your business meetings, does she bring you along to hers - OF COURSE NOT!

Anyway it's your call this is just my considered opinion.

Good luck with today & congrats on the watch sale. You're doing just fine!:T

wegle

Good luck today Alex. I too am slightly confused as to why your business partner's wife would be attending. Seems strange to me, but I hope it goes well.

Personally I think you are sensible to leave the money in the business until you have fully tackled your reasons for overspending and come to terms with how to deal with it. You pay yourself enough to live off and make some repayment to debt and you also have plenty of other options for reducing debt so I don't think paying yourself more is the first option you should be heading to. If you remove the temptation then you can't be tempted and all that.

mum2one

hope the meeting went ok and something has moved forward even only if in principle.

Kissjen - hope your feeling better - think its catching, - started last ngt as well, at least do the diet good! x

AlexLK

Meeting was not today, well THAT meeting wasn't. Only just got in from work (been there since 9am) and music teaching 6.30-7.30pm, so I will respond later. It seems I've got a full time job! :rotfl:

7roland8

Well done Alex - thats the way - busy earning money and also no time to think and dwell on things - two bonuses.

AlexLK

In response:

kissjenn: Managed to get more sleep than I thought I would. Hope you are feeling better? I do paperwork at home but not possible when I've got to play salesman.

HBS: I'm an only child too but didn't spend much time with my parents when younger for they were always working. Today, I'm actually looking forward to him going to nursery because I know he won't have to spend hours upon hours being quiet for his grandparents (know that sounds bad but both my wife and I have got to work).

Granaries: I smiled at the poem (had seen it before). As for business partner's wife; she's got nothing to do with the company at all. I didn't want her to come as I mentioned it's as much her business as it is Mrs. K.'s (that is not much at all). However, they seem to think because this is their MAIN income that she ought to come. Mrs. K. will not take a day off work to come to my business meeting (she says I do not need "babysitting" nor would she want me to come to her meeting) and I doubt my father will be feeling up to sitting in a meeting for what could be hours (he's got a health problem that whilst not life threatening can cause him discomfort).

I am going to try and push for business partner to come alone. Though he is aware nothing is to be agreed / signed there and then.

wegle: Thank you for the positive post. I do not get the urge to spend the businesses money, thankfully. Not even had the time to spend money today, still Mrs. K. won't let me have a drink to unwind reminding me that we agreed to weekends only.

mum2one: That meeting is on Wednesday but something has indeed moved forwards in terms of gaining a contract .

Roland: I have indeed been a good boy today. Actually feeling great this evening despite probably needing an early night.

Mara_uk7

Way to go Alex, a lovely positive post. I like the man you're changing into .

gallygirl

Nice post Alex, have a good night's sleep :T.

kissjenn

All sounding good. Have a good sleep.

AlexLK

Here goes:

Monday 23rd September, 2013.
Day 22.

Dear Diary,

Why is it that I can do a full day's work, cook dinner and finish off the day by giving a pupil a music lesson and feel more alive than I do usually at this time of night? Yes, I'm tired and I'm aware that this diary entry will most likely display a standard less than satisfactory but for once I do not feel in the doldrums or as if all of life's ills are caving in on me at once; I feel rather relaxed and somewhat at peace with myself. Admittedly, I've missed time with my son.

On the debt-busting front, nothing has happened apart from me managing a no spend day due to not even having time to so much as have lunch, never mind go buying things. However, Mrs. K. spoke to her current employer who has set a date next week for a "review" and to the potential new employer about having an interview for the new job. Tomorrow is more of the same work wise but not so many hours, thank goodness; whilst I'm OK with a few hectic days, I cannot do it day in day out.

Summary:
No Spend Day....this being busy lark seems to be working well.

Yours Faithfully,
Alex.