Mr and Mrs K's New Journey to a Debt Free Life.

AlexLK

7roland8 wrote: »

Yes Happy Birthday too Alex - hope you have a whole week of celebrations.

Yes I think the role of proper parent always seems to fall on one person - be that male or female. There is always one who can be depended upon no matter what. And while sometimes it can be a bit of a bind the rewards are priceless. the bonds forged are something that no amount of money can buy.

Its hard work and often easier if we could also have run away - but stayed and did the hard slog of illnesses and worry etc but hopefully we reap the rewards and a firm relationship in later years.

One thing son always says to me in cards is 'thanks for being there for me' which is something I always have and will be - no matter what - which I hope means more than anything. My boys always know they come first with me.


Your day out sounds lovely - have seen a pic od snow in Derbyshire on Facebook and it looks magically like Narnia!

Thank you, Roland.


Your comments about parenting have cheered me a great deal, thanks. I'd like to think that my efforts spending time with my son will be rewarded by his appreciation one day but even if that doesn't happen, I'm glad I've bothered to be the best parent I can be. Unfortunately, I couldn't say I've had the experience of knowing one of my parents would always be there for me. They believed that throwing money at the problem was enough, yet with less money being spent on the problem (me) things are a lot better.


I've learnt a lot recently, including that without really thinking I was judging others before getting to know them. I hope I won't be the one to blindly make comments about the lives of others anymore. One of my New Years resolutions is to be more tolerant of others no matter their background, something I hope will be passed on to my son when he is older.


As for the snow here, it's very beautiful and makes me feel very fortunate to live in such a nice part of the country.

7roland8

Oh gosh glad the words helped Amex - wasn't sure if I was saying the right thing.


Think the most important thing for a child is to feel unconditionally loved. That means someone is there through the nights, when they are ill, being naughty (and annoying!), and the 'boring' bits when you would like to be somewhere else maybe.


You don't always feel in the mood to play a certain game but I'm glad I was always there and did - even though things like Captain Scarlet was not always my thing!


Actually if you think of the effect of how you behaviour does affect your son you may find it easier to be more tolerant. Your behaviour, rather than your words, does have an amazing impact on your children - its what you 'do' that teaches them, rather than what you 'say'. So if you want them to have certain values then you have to act that way too.

AlexLK

Thanks, Roland. I can certainly relate to all of that and so could my wife to quite a few points.

Ultimately, I want him to be happy which is something I don't think I will experience myself. Not sure whether that fits into "do as I say and not as I do" though.

maman

AlexLK wrote: »

Thank you all ... knew I shouldn't have mentioned the birthday. :rotfl:

So glad you did, many happy returns from me too.:) Delighted you've been enjoying your time off together.


Your son is going the right way in mixing with others from his nursery, whatever their backgrounds I'm sure he doesn't differentiate. And you can help him build on this.

AlexLK

maman: thank you. Another week of no work for my wife and a few things planned, if so far is anything to go by it should be good. I'm working for a couple of hours tomorrow and Tuesday but can't really call 5 hours in a week "work".


My son doesn't differentiate and is generally kind, though does struggle to share sometimes.

patanne

All very young children struggle to share. That is why we teach them to. They are amazingly accepting (unfortunately this is how people get away with abusing them - not going there tonight). So it's now belated happy birthday. Happy birthday to you happy birthday to you ......enjoy!! Okay I am off to enjoy what is supposed to be ripe brie on whatever I can find - toast biscuits - whatever. I'll let you know if the brie was actually ripe - keep your fingers crossed.

heartbreak_star

Many happy returns - hope you had a great birthday and also a great Christmas

If it's any help re : Little K and sharing, I'm an only child and it took me until I was nearly 10 to learn to share some things. I never had a problem with my dance stuff as we kind of had a costume/hairpiece "pool", but toys - NO way! I used to like to keep sets of things together too.

I'm generous almost to a fault now so it does improve sounds like you're doing all the right things for him!

HBS x

maman

I'd agree with the sharing thing too Alex. It's perfectly normal. When my DD1 started nursery she couldn't understand why she couldn't commandeer a bike/scooter for the whole morning! At home, all her toys were her own so it was a new experience for her.
What about playing a few board games at home to encourage turn taking?
Sounds like he's bright enough to understand the principle if you explain it t him anyway. Especially from your newfound egalitarian standpoint?;)

gallygirl

maman wrote: »

Especially from your newfound egalitarian standpoint?;)

All toys are theft .

Muser1

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