Mr and Mrs K's New Journey to a Debt Free Life.

arsenalbarnie

Am coming in with my tuppence worth Alex. Have been lurking here from the start. Keep on with the positives and acknowledging them. I had solution focused hypnotherapy and it's all about positive things happening in your life. Dwelling on the past is no good, it's gone, onwards and upwards Rodney as Dellboy would say. Am not going to run your mother down, but had a little chuckle to myself wondering if she watched Benefits Street on C4 Monday. Was thinking her head might have exploded with rage like my OH s nearly did! Well done on the volunteering, very brave. I worked in a school for a couple of years and every day I would come home smiling. Children are so funny even when they don't realise they are!

AlexLK

VJsmum: Why, thank you! I wouldn't have thought anybody would think so highly of me.

arsenalbarnie: I can't say I like the idea of having hypnotherapy. However, having one of those days today when I think I want to move forward and away from being miserable all the time. Unfortunately, this only ever seems to last for a couple of days at the most then I go back to having to force myself to do anything. Not sure how to overcome that in all honesty.

:rotfl: Funny you should mention Benefits Street. Yes, she watched it - I had to hear all about it this morning, along with a "what are you doing wasting more time, Alexander?" about the music in schools project. I have to admit the children made both my wife and I laugh.

littlegreenparrot

Well done on the volunteering! :j

I hope your giving yourself enough credit for getting on with the students, it isn't easy - some people get eaten alive!!

Please don't get to hung up on the clothes. Many people don't have the time/inclination/funds to spend on being well turned out. And what you/they would consider to be well turned out might be different anyway. (I would love to be gadding about in lovely things, but until the loan/cc/overdraft is paid, and the house deposit is saved I mostly only window shop)

As for the tie knots - they probably do know how to do it properly, but doing it differently is being a rebel, and therefore cool :rotfl:

As you get to know them I hope you'll find it rewarding, and that it will help to change your attitude to those in different financial circumstances to yourself.

Mara_uk7

However, having one of those days today when I think I want to move forward and away from being miserable all the time. Unfortunately, this only ever seems to last for a couple of days at the most then I go back to having to force myself to do anything. Not sure how to overcome that in all honesty."

A couple of days at a time is a good start, The AD Pills will gradually extend this, so you will feel good for longer and miserable for shorter periods. Give it time Alex, You really are doing awfully well in bursts and starts, You are already a changed man in so many ways from where you were when you started the diary.

I do love the idea of you in slightly Dr Who-ish/ Sherlock garb .. bet the kids would think that was really cool !

FlacosFloozie

Alex, the clay pigeon story made me snort my tea :rotfl:but give the young lady credit- she has an enquiring mind and asked the first person she encountered who she felt could provide the information she needed.

The 'posh' thing is very relative. When I first started work I was on quite a low salary- at one point I worked out if I spent the same number of hours stacking shelevs for minimum wage I would have earned nearly double. At the same time Mr FF was recovering from cancer and unable to work. Due to his slightly 'eccentric' mode of dress, apparent life of leisure and driving a 30 year old MG midget (bought it cheap, it broke down a lot) the rumour went around the village that he was landed gentry and owned half of Ireland :eek: I got invited to join the local boxing day hunt (managed to politely decline) and I swear I actually saw a few locals tug their cap at him :rotfl: Just goes to show appearances are very deceiving!

Well done on the volunteer work! I think it will be good for the kids and for you. Mixing with folk from different backgrounds be it the kids or the teachers will broaden your horizons. Routine also helps when the depression is bad. You may not feel like doing anything but its more likely to happen if its what you always do on a Tuesday. Good luck.

7roland8

Yes the superior attitude of either Sherlock or Sheldon from Big Bang - now he is condescending to everyone!

Gosh it was good if they even had ties Alex as these days they all have those horrid sweatshirts so don't even possess a tie.

FlacosFloozie

Oh, if it helps. Mr !!!!!! siblings all wnt to state schools and became professional musicians thanks, in part, to people like you. One violinist, one pinaist and one pianist/viola player because I know you'll ask

AlexLK

littlegreenparrot wrote: »

Well done on the volunteering! :j

I hope your giving yourself enough credit for getting on with the students, it isn't easy - some people get eaten alive!!

Please don't get to hung up on the clothes. Many people don't have the time/inclination/funds to spend on being well turned out. And what you/they would consider to be well turned out might be different anyway. (I would love to be gadding about in lovely things, but until the loan/cc/overdraft is paid, and the house deposit is saved I mostly only window shop)

As for the tie knots - they probably do know how to do it properly, but doing it differently is being a rebel, and therefore cool :rotfl:

As you get to know them I hope you'll find it rewarding, and that it will help to change your attitude to those in different financial circumstances to yourself.

I'm not convinced we are quite "getting on" just yet.

Hope I didn't come across as being "hung up" on their dress sense, I'm not, how they choose to present themselves is up to them. Well, in the pupils' cases up to the school, in the teachers cases up to them. I found it somewhat amusing.

Sadly, I'm not convinced that was the case with some of them. However, there were a certain number of "rebels".

Mara_uk7 wrote: »

A couple of days at a time is a good start, The AD Pills will gradually extend this, so you will feel good for longer and miserable for shorter periods. Give it time Alex, You really are doing awfully well in bursts and starts, You are already a changed man in so many ways from where you were when you started the diary.

I do love the idea of you in slightly Dr Who-ish/ Sherlock garb .. bet the kids would think that was really cool !

I hope that is the case, by the same token I do not want to be taking pills for the rest of my life. I've got to get back onto the debt busting today as I've some time to do a few eBay listings in between sorting some paperwork out for my business. Any surprise I'm avoiding it and have thus far been out for a walk and am now on here? No idea how to stay away from it this afternoon.

I've never been so "cool" in the "real world" as a few years ago when Barbour was all the rage.

FlacosFloozie wrote: »

Alex, the clay pigeon story made me snort my tea :rotfl:but give the young lady credit- she has an enquiring mind and asked the first person she encountered who she felt could provide the information she needed.

The 'posh' thing is very relative. When I first started work I was on quite a low salary- at one point I worked out if I spent the same number of hours stacking shelevs for minimum wage I would have earned nearly double. At the same time Mr FF was recovering from cancer and unable to work. Due to his slightly 'eccentric' mode of dress, apparent life of leisure and driving a 30 year old MG midget (bought it cheap, it broke down a lot) the rumour went around the village that he was landed gentry and owned half of Ireland :eek: I got invited to join the local boxing day hunt (managed to politely decline) and I swear I actually saw a few locals tug their cap at him :rotfl: Just goes to show appearances are very deceiving!

Well done on the volunteer work! I think it will be good for the kids and for you. Mixing with folk from different backgrounds be it the kids or the teachers will broaden your horizons. Routine also helps when the depression is bad. You may not feel like doing anything but its more likely to happen if its what you always do on a Tuesday. Good luck.

Glad I made you smile. She was OK, didn't really have any trouble from her. Frankly, I'll take "well posh" as a compliment.

:rotfl: I've been in a similar position to your Mr. FF, when I was a student, many a person told me "but surely, you don't NEED to work, ever". Well, at the time I didn't but they had no clue how quickly the money from my parents was running out (neither did the parents, though that's a whole other story). My mother is from a farming family so I've been to a fair number of country events over the years.

Routine will be good for me, I think. At the moment I can all too often say I'm not doing anything because of the nature of my work, even though I am aware if I got on with it on a day to day basis, I'd earn much more.

AlexLK

Roland: The uniform left a little to be desired in my humble opinion but it was not as bad as some I've seen.

Flacos: Thank you.

heartbreak_star

Yep, my school had sweatshirts...but they were brought in after a spate of ties being used as bullying tools!

You'd have hated me in high school, Alex. Heavy eyeliner, purple hair, long swooshy skirt or short suede one, Doc Martens and a fitted shirt

Mind you, I still dress in black, wear eyeliner, and prefer boots to shoes...I'm just fatter these days but look more groomed

HBS x