Mr and Mrs K's New Journey to a Debt Free Life.

7roland8

Yes when visiualising a future you need to make it a positive happy one - not some dark gloomy place - 'what you think you become'.

Also not good dragging the past behind you either - let it go.

gallygirl

AlexLK wrote: »

If somebody had told me ten, even seven years ago what would happen to me over these past five, I would not have believed them.

I know. Who'd have thought you'd end up jacking in that well paid job that was destroying you, doing something you enjoy and having Little K :T:T:T.

Oh, was that not what you meant :whistle:. Seriously, look at it from a different perspective, things are much more positive than they were 5 years ago aren't they?

AlexLK

heartbreak_star wrote: »

*kicks backside* Doooon't you go twisting what I'm saying Mr LK!! I definitely know what it's like being stuck in the past - I won't go into it but suffice to say if I remained there I would be sectioned or dead by now having gone through losing 3 grandparents, a parent, a cousin, several beloved pets, going through an abusive relationship, self-harming and battling an eating disorder!

That's the kind of thinking that pushes people away. You subconsciously push her away, she leaves then you can go "see, told you that you'd leave. See, I was right! Told you!!"

You REALLY need to get out of the negative mindset. THAT's what I mean by using visualisation and you very well know it!

Come on, get that counselling booked. Let's see if between us and them we can get you through this

HBS x

I didn't mean to bring up bad memories, sorry.

Yes, that seems familiar, I have in the past pushed Mrs. K. away. Now, I try not to.

And, I've booked the counselling, my first session is on Thursday.

7roland8 wrote: »

Yes when visiualising a future you need to make it a positive happy one - not some dark gloomy place - 'what you think you become'.

Also not good dragging the past behind you either - let it go.

Thank you.

If things could stay as they are now, I think the future will be a positive happy one. One can hope!

gallygirl wrote: »

I know. Who'd have thought you'd end up jacking in that well paid job that was destroying you, doing something you enjoy and having Little K :T:T:T.

Oh, was that not what you meant :whistle:. Seriously, look at it from a different perspective, things are much more positive than they were 5 years ago aren't they?

Most things are much better now. Including my work situation and "Little K" means the world to me. Strangely enough, I actually think I'm a much better father than I would have been if things hadn't happened this way.

heartbreak_star

Glad to hear you have booked the counselling And you certainly didn't bring up bad memories, they're kinda always there but mentally locked in a glass box so they can't bother me.

Keep us posted and make sure you are ABSOLUTELY open and honest with the counsellor - get what you're paying for

HBS x

AlexLK

HBS: I plan on getting my "money's worth" from the counselling, not going to know what's hit them is the phrase that comes to mind.

7roland8

AlexLK wrote: »

HBS: I plan on getting my "money's worth" from the counselling, not going to know what's hit them is the phrase that comes to mind.

Had to laugh - have they been warned?? Perhaps they'll end up needing counselling themselves!! (only joking!)

AlexLK

Roland: Well, I've spoken to them on the 'phone, I'm sure they've got an idea that I'm perhaps a bit of a "unique" case. :rotfl:

AlexLK

Tuesday 12th November, 2013.
Day 73.

Dear Diary,

Today has also been a busy one, I seem to have a ridiculous amount of work to do at the moment and only so much time to fit everything into. On days like these running a small business can seem a never ending amount of tasks to complete. However, I would not give it up, just perhaps request a break a little more often than at present.

On the positive side, my son was at nursery today making things a little easier and Mrs. K. has ended up only having a four hour day due to only having to complete a site visit. Work seems to be getting somewhat more positive for her, even though both she and her colleagues believe they are being kept in the dark by the company over something. Having a short day has allowed my wife time to find transportation to bring the new project car home and order a few parts for it.

On the debt busting front, I have sent another Full and Final letter. However, nothing else has been done. Unfortunately, I think things not getting done is going to be a bit of a theme this week, though should quieten down somewhat after our son's birthday party - who knew making our house into a "rain forest" theme could be so time consuming!

Summary:
-£50.00 Diesel - LR.
-£30.00 Petrol - Triumph.
-£8.95 Groceries.

Yours Faithfully,
Alex.

mum2one

So glad you have got the counselling booked, may be hard at first but once the pandoras box open, it will certainly be better in the long run.

Pleased work getting better for Mrs K, if something is going on, then at least she is keeping her ear to the ground, and as you said before she has options to work for herself or look for another position.

Glad work busy, just tackle a small bit at a time - hows the new arrangement working out.

I'm offically stalking my dentist - infection in tooth so he could only do 1 extraction this time, go again start Dec - all be healed before Xmas.

You take care, your a strong person, unique in character, which is enduring, I look things have been rough, but you can get through it, time is a healer, I had a tear when I read what heartbreak star had wrote, the tear wasn't for what she had been through, but the fact she has come through the otherside, lot stronger, lot wiser and an inspiration xxx

AlexLK

mum2one wrote: »

So glad you have got the counselling booked, may be hard at first but once the pandoras box open, it will certainly be better in the long run.

I hope so, I've tried counselling before and gave up. However, I have a little more motivation now. Last time was before son was born and I'd just started the business. I went because my wife told me to sometimes. Frankly, there was not a cat in hell's chance of it working back then.

mum2one wrote: »

Pleased work getting better for Mrs K, if something is going on, then at least she is keeping her ear to the ground, and as you said before she has options to work for herself or look for another position.

:rotfl: If you knew my wife, you'd realise her ear is never away from the ground, she's a bit of a gossip and the reason I'd one day decided I was doing music teaching and the next day got 2 pupils.

She has applied for another position which she thinks would suit her well; I'd rather she didn't become self employed at the moment, one day it may work for us but for the now I think it is perhaps wishful thinking to have both of us self employed.

mum2one wrote: »

Glad work busy, just tackle a small bit at a time - hows the new arrangement working out.

Rather well!

Ex business partner and I are actually getting along much better now.

mum2one wrote: »

I'm offically stalking my dentist - infection in tooth so he could only do 1 extraction this time, go again start Dec - all be healed before Xmas.

Get well soon! And don't worry about stalking your dentist, make sure you get the best work for your money - they're not cheap, dentists.:mad::mad: Last time I went and if I recall correctly it was £30 for just a check-up.

mum2one wrote: »

You take care, your a strong person, unique in character, which is enduring, I look things have been rough, but you can get through it, time is a healer, I had a tear when I read what heartbreak star had wrote, the tear wasn't for what she had been through, but the fact she has come through the otherside, lot stronger, lot wiser and an inspiration xxx

Thank you.

I'll second Heartbreak Star being an inspiration, lot of people on here seem to be. You only need to worry if anyone reckons I'm their inspiration.:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: