Not in love after a year....

meritaten

If you know this guy enjoys your company, enjoys the sex (I assume), and after a year he still cant say he loves you. I think you should cut your losses - you say you want a loving relationship - and you are not getting that - you are getting 'friendship with benefits'.
the most telling part to me is that you feel he isn't verbally or physically affectionate. to me if you are feeling that lack in him after a year - then he isn't going to change and you will ALWAYS feel shortchanged in this relationship.
I am NOT saying to end the relationship right now - but, some straight talking may be required! it may be he has difficulty showing affection or even saying those little words. You need to find out if the 'feeling' is there though!

FBaby

I understand your insecurities if he has indeed said that.

When we discussed it in May he said that he will not say it unless he means it

How long ago was his previous relationship? Could he still be in love with her?

themull1

If you have to have a discussion about love with your partner,its time to move on.

System

I must admit i'd find it hard maintaining a relationship with a man who couldn't tell me that he loves me.

'I love you' is three words for goodness sake.

Errata

I certainly wouldn't be playing hide the sausage with a man unable to be verbally and physically affectionate.

System

hide the sausage

hahahaha Love it!

hgotsparkle

If after a year he doesn't open up, love you, isn't very affectionate then if I were you, I'd go.

Me and OH said we loved each other - and fully meant it - after a few months together and we are very affectionate with each other, if I didn't have that then I just wouldn't be happy, and you're not.


If you're not happy in the relationship and you want to feel loved but you don't, then whats the point in the relationship?

hlw1810

Well I finally summoned the guts to bring it up again last night. Upshot is - he doesn't love me (just loves spending time with me :mad:) and is not sure he ever will. He also can't see us ever moving in together.
So it's over.

hgotsparkle

hlw1810 wrote: »

Well I finally summoned the guts to bring it up again last night. Upshot is - he doesn't love me (just loves spending time with me :mad:) and is not sure he ever will. He also can't see us ever moving in together.
So it's over.

Its for the best.
Now you can find someone who will love you and give you everything you want.

pops5588

hlw1810 wrote: »

Well I finally summoned the guts to bring it up again last night. Upshot is - he doesn't love me (just loves spending time with me :mad:) and is not sure he ever will. He also can't see us ever moving in together.
So it's over.

Good for you. These things happen for a reason and I know it stings right now but it will heal. You deserve more than that! Time to give yourself a bit of attention, instead of that absolute time-waster.