What would you do?

aileth

Kabazzzz wrote: »

Precisely what I thought. However, I act with the utmost professionalism whilst at work and never let my private life encroach on it.

She did have the girl that I was covering for maternity originally, pulled into our bosses office recently as there was a personality clash which was news to her! Our boss told her to be careful how she treats her and his approach is to treat her the way he does with his 12 year old daughter... the major difference here being that this girl is in her early 30's! She has him wrapped around her little finger.

I could go to him as he is my line manager at the moment although, I think would be a complete waste of time as he appears to have blinkers on or I could go to my proper line manager as at least then I know that I will be taken seriously.

Don't waste your time with someone who will most likely be sweet talked or have eyelashes fluttered at him and fall for it. Chances are it'd end up worse. Is there a central HR department? Maybe a regional manager who doesn't know who you or she are? You need to really find someone totally impartial or someone who knows who she and how she really is.

paulineb_2

You can block anyone on fb

Id just block and move on, if this girl doesnt work for your company I doubt if HR would get involved

aileth

paulineb wrote: »

You can block anyone on fb

Id just block and move on, if this girl doesnt work for your company I doubt if HR would get involved

They wouldn't get involved, but its a precautionary measure just in case this is happening for a reason, covering your back so to speak. You just never know! She has told her sister, her sister has found OP on Facebook, sister has twisted it to make it about her and relentlessly messaged her, it's all got to be for a reason. It might be a mistake or totally innocuous, but if six months down the road Madam Troublemaker starts making accusations, HR have got a note from OP.

smorie

I'd let someone higher know in work, she them the messages both sent and received. They may want to write them down or something, then block her.

krlyr

aileth wrote: »

They wouldn't get involved, but its a precautionary measure just in case this is happening for a reason, covering your back so to speak. You just never know! She has told her sister, her sister has found OP on Facebook, sister has twisted it to make it about her and relentlessly messaged her, it's all got to be for a reason. It might be a mistake or totally innocuous, but if six months down the road Madam Troublemaker starts making accusations, HR have got a note from OP.

Agree with this. I would block her and mention to HR to cover your back. She may not work there, but it is related because the sister is mentioning something that was said at work (albeit not by you), therefore she must have been told it by someone who was in your office (most likely her sister, but I wouldn't even mention that - HR will most likely come to the same assumption).

flashg67

Hmmm, skinny with big boobs....got a pic?

Kabazzzz

Ok well I've opened the final message - I say final as she has blocked me I'm guessing as it has a note saying that I can't reply - it is more of the same... with the added line about how mature she has been in coming to me directly!?!

peachyprice

aileth wrote: »

Keep a record of messages received so far, block her, let HR know or your line manager just in case something happens and she starts throwing around sexual harassment or bullying allegations. It could be the ramp up to it, god knows what goes through some people's heads!

How could somene who doesn't even work there make a sexual harassment allegation to HR?

paulineb_2

aileth wrote: »

They wouldn't get involved, but its a precautionary measure just in case this is happening for a reason, covering your back so to speak. You just never know! She has told her sister, her sister has found OP on Facebook, sister has twisted it to make it about her and relentlessly messaged her, it's all got to be for a reason. It might be a mistake or totally innocuous, but if six months down the road Madam Troublemaker starts making accusations, HR have got a note from OP.

Its got nothing to do with the workplace if someone who doesnt work with her, relative or not, sending the messages, yes it may well be for a reason but seriously as someone who has managed staff, if someone came to me and said, someone is messaging me on fb who is saying I said something about her sister 6 months ago, Id have let it go right in one ear and out the other

Accusing someone of saying something about a workmate last Christmas, any company worth their salt would tell the person where to go and stop tittle tattling

aileth

peachyprice wrote: »

How could somene who doesn't even work there make a sexual harassment allegation to HR?

I meant the woman, not the sister.