Seperating from my wife

Vicky123

I got the impression he was planning on taking the children, why else would he think it would be good for them?

tinkerbell28

Vicky123 wrote: »

I got the impression he was planning on taking the children, why else would he think it would be good for them?

Well that's my point entirely.....

He actually says, at the end of September I will be moving out. Not me and the kids.

So how exactly is he doing it for the kids if he is moving out?

It's all about him, he only mentions the kids as an after thought...."now the kids are noticing"....

He hasn't even spoke to her, she thinks everything is alright. Why would he just do a flit without even working out with her the best way to do it for the kids sake, or even tell her what the problem is?

smorie

sell the Xbox,

On a more serious note, my partner has just walked out on me for nothing more than his own selfish reasons, I would have appreciated him coming to talk things through with me to see if there was any thing either or both of us could have done, With children involved its always best to have a proper conversation.
Thats just my opinion though

Kabazzzz

Well the advice that is normally given in this type of situation is not to move out, although I appreciate that this is easier said than done if you are no longer living together as a married couple.

I am curious about the 'end of September' bit though.. is there someone else in the picture?

If you are sure that there is no saving the marriage, then considerations needs to be made about contact regarding the children (I am assuming from your post that you were planning on the children living with their mother?). Is your home owned (jointly with a mortgage) or do you rent? Agreement on maintenance for the children etc..

As a side note, divorce and finances are treated separately.

I would also suggest posting on the wikivorce site, there is a wealth of people on there that will advise you accordingly.

Having said all of that, are you adamant that it is over? Could you not try a counselling service such as Relate? At least then you could satisfy yourself that you have at least tried to save your marriage... you could go as a couple or individually.

Personally, I found couples counselling a waste of time but that was mainly due to the fact that my ExH didn't have the b4lls to tell me to my face that he was seeing someone else... and left it to the counsellor to inform me that my marriage was over. I did continue with individual counselling though and it was very beneficial and helped me cope with what was a very devastating time.

danih

Is this a message to the wife, who is a regular on this part of the forum, in the hope she will recognise herself and nick, 37?

A kick up the backside for her? Last resort attempt to encourage her to address her own issues?

tinkerbell28

danih wrote: »

Is this a message to the wife, who is a regular on this part of the forum, in the hope she will recognise herself and nick, 37?

A kick up the backside for her? Last resort attempt to encourage her to address her own issues?

If it is, it is pretty pathetic. Just speak to her.

Tropez

aileth wrote: »

Probably because A LOT more men game than women and so the issue has a higher probability of being more widespread in men.

Some studies, including one carried out by the Entertainment Software Association, have debunked this as a myth. According to an ESA study this year, 45% of all gamers in the United States are women, adult women represent a larger proportion of active video game players than teenage boys and women make up 46% of the most habitual video game purchasers.

Now while this particular study deals with Americans, similar studies in the UK have provided similar numbers of female players in the UK. A BBC report on the video gaming industry commented that by the end of 2013, at current trends, there will be more female gamers in the UK than men.

What people forget is that while it is indeed men who are more likely, at present, to own a dedicated video games console or computer, women are by far the larger market when it comes to games through social networking sites and on tablets and smartphones. Consumer studies have shown that women spend much more time and money on games from "app stores" than men.

With the increase of gaming consoles acting as home media centres there is also an increase in women who play games on what were previously considered male dominated platforms.

It has also been estimated that 30% of all World of Warcraft players are female although Blizzard have not released statistics of the demographics of their player base.

http://www.theesa.com/facts/pdfs/ESA_EF_2013.pdf

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/technology-21039062

alleycat`

Tropez wrote: »

and women make up 46% of the most habitual video game purchasers.

Made me chuckle this part of the line.

When i was younger my mum used to buy my games as i couldn't afford to.
She didn't play them
My wife now does the same for DS, again she isn't much for playing them.

Some times statistics don't tell you what you think they mean or in this case, are loaded to get to an answer they were looking for.

Tropez

alleycat` wrote: »

Made me chuckle this part of the line.

When i was younger my mum used to buy my games as i couldn't afford to.
She didn't play them
My wife now does the same for DS, again she isn't much for playing them.

Some times statistics don't tell you what you think they mean or in this case, are loaded to get to an answer they were looking for.

But the statistics are referring to "habitual" game purchasers.

Presumably buying you a video game wasn't "habitual" on the part of your mother, it is something she did. Furthermore, the study was questioning people who specifically played and bought games for their own enjoyment, not for other people.

There have been several studies into this producing similar results. There is enough of a correlation between studies to believe that the level of accuracy is within acceptable margins for determining the extent to which women buy and play games. There's certainly enough evidence from consumer and market research groups for developers to increasingly and specifically target female gamers with games that have proven popular for them.

carolan78

I know certainly for FB games that number is probably been kind. My Mum never ever played condoles and in her 50's she discovered Facebook and it's games becoming addicted lol

She adds a lot of people for these games (farmville ect) and they are predominantly females. I just thank god she never puts her own money into them. She has quite a few thank sink hundreds a month into these games and one lady had to deactivate her fb after running up over $20k on her credit card.