Husband Cheated, Pregnant, want a divorce

peachyprice

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

In a "short marriage", usually of two years or less, the courts generally seek to leave each partner with what they entered the marriage with. Three years puts you firmly on the borderline. Get legal advice and do it NOW

Especially so with an asset acquired during the marriage.

RandomUser wrote: »

The other I have just bought.

Lucy_Lastic

If the BTL properties are "hundreds of miles away" I doubt the OP will be able to move in while still working at her present location.

Legal advice ASAP would be my first thought.

Good luck OP.

BitterAndTwisted

RandomUser wrote: »

I want a divorce but am terrified I will lose everything. He is terrible with money and has nothing to his name except debt. Whereas I have two properties and a pension. I don't want to stay with him just because of the baby or through fear that I will lose all my assets.

If you're determined to leave this marriage then you must accept that you could lose some of your assets, but not all of them. The newly acquired property is a joint one, even if it is in your sole name. Presumably the plan was to have both of your incomes used to pay the mortgage if you failed to acquire tenants or there was a void between tenancies?

mummy86_2

Hi, it sounds like he probably needs you more than you need him. You sound like an independent person and you shouldn't be tied down to someone who cheats on you. Personally i don't believe people change. Once a cheat probably always a cheat and thats from past experiences.

Work out what you want and don't let anyone divert you from getting what you want. If you want to keep the baby I would say leave/divorce get sorted asap before the baby is born and set firm boundaries with your ex. Be the bigger person - take control - its only his loss and he will know it! x

twigpig

I'm so sorry to read your post and wish you the best in whatever you decide.

If it weren't for your pension and properties, it sounds like you'd have probably left him already if there weren't the money issues and how this would be divided. Prioritise your happiness over the cash, you'll be ok financially....... at worst, you'll take half but you'll have chosen what you wanted from life - money can always be replaced in time.......

whitewing

Also, even if you do get divorced, that in itself doesn't stop you in the future from rekindling a relationship with the baby's father, if that is what you both want.

What I think I would do in your situation is press ahead with a divorce and sort the financials out before the situation gets even worse. (But what I think I would do may not be what I could actually drag myself out of the house to do).

Do definitely make a clean break on the finances, or you may find yourself trapped into an even worse situation where you lose more.

DKLS

Get legal advice asap, and please dont choose a wet lettuce to represent you, ask around there is usually a rottweiler solictor in the area who can help you protect your interests.