Sad and lonely

Sugarplumfairy_2

Hi Dan,

Know how you feel, think you responded to one of my threads.

Had my future all planned out, and suddenly everything in the air. But now I feel so much better. I know that I came into this world on my own and will also go out that way so I am damn sure I am not going to waste any time worrying about being on my own now. Of course I would love to meet someone special, as I am 34 and feel as though I have lived half my life already. I know my time will come to meet someone else, I'm not a bad catch, if i say so myself. So in the meantime I am going to get my life organised and start enjoying it.

If you ever need a chat or someone to cheer you up then look no further, you can always pm me, I can be witty sometimes.

Love
Sugar xxx

reheat

bookemdano wrote: »

thankyou, made me feel that I'm not alone. I will write down my goals and stop feeling so sorry for myself. What a fantastic bunch of people on this site.;)

You writing this reminded me of a book I read back in the '70s when I felt much the same as you ... down but not out. The book title makes it sound like a really scam product, but actually it helped me change my life ~ I'm truly not joking. The book is called "The Lazy Man's Way to Riches" by Joe Karbo ... the slightly sexist title betrays its vintage. But only the 2nd part of the book is about material riches, the first half is all about the riches that are inside you and how to tap into them. And I promise you I'm not on commission! The fact it's still on sale over 30 years later speaks for itself ... The Lazy Man's Way to Riches

Edit: The original version I read was written just by Joe Karbo, I just spotted this version is co-authored. Hopefully just as good or better.

I could go on and talk about other things, but I'd only be repeating what so many other good people have already said here. Good luck.

wifeforlife

Sugarplumfairy wrote: »

Think I may try and get a job on a checkout !!!

Yeah me too!!!! I hope they mean 'fit' as in pretty and not 'fit' as in actually fit :rotfl:

Cate

scoobysue_4

bookemdano wrote: »

thx for your reply, bought a little smile to my face;). Number one worry is money but thinking rationally about it, all bills are paid, I have food, somewhere to sleep so why worry. I know I should get out there and make more friends but not sure how to go about it yet. Job gets me down but it pays fairly well and it is easy so for now I will stick it out until my debts are low enough to try something new, money really is my main priority at the moment.

hi dan, i could also have written your post in my sleep, as im sure thousands of others could have done so also. I know that when im at my lowest everything is an effort and i always seem to think that everyone else i know are happy and living worry free lives but of course im wrong and just like you, i will see something on the tv or read something in a newspaper/magazinbe that reminds me that i am far far better off than millions of other people, yes! i have problems, i too am in debt and was widowed young, but i have my health and memories and a roof over my head and two healthy sons and so im blessed in so many ways, its common for our self esteem to hit rock bottom too and imagine others think we are ugly or worthless but WE ourselves know different and that counts for a lot.Like you have so wisely said,once you feel you are in a financial position to change jobs then you will feel differently again, theres nothing worse in my opinion than having to do a job you dislike because you have to. You sound to have a good, sensible head on your shoulders and though at times you wont think you are, you are giving great thought to your future and making positive steps towards making it a brighter and better one for yourself. i wish you well i really do. take care. p.s evening classes/night school worled for me, as well as learning i made many many good friends. just thought i would mention it. good luck.

TheWaltons_3

Hi Dan

You're not alone.. many people feel like this... I for one find it very hard to make eye contact with 'fit' strangers.

You need to learn to love yourself mate, before anyone will love you. When we really look at ourselves and what we have got, we're not all that bad - there will be someone out there who would give their left leg to have your life. Honestly!

You will make friends on here, even though it is a forum, it is a nice place which will keep you amused and keep you from thinking negative thoughts about yourself!

bookemdano

TheWaltons wrote: »

Hi Dan

You're not alone.. many people feel like this... I for one find it very hard to make eye contact with 'fit' strangers.

You need to learn to love yourself mate, before anyone will love you. When we really look at ourselves and what we have got, we're not all that bad - there will be someone out there who would give their left leg to have your life. Honestly!

You will make friends on here, even though it is a forum, it is a nice place which will keep you amused and keep you from thinking negative thoughts about yourself!

Thankyou for your reply. Thanks to everyone on here who have given me support. Your one in a million :T

scoobysue_4

bookemdano wrote: »

Thankyou for your reply. Thanks to everyone on here who have given me support. Your one in a million :T

and YOU are one in a million too dan. thank you very much for your lovely replies. good luck and take care.

wifeforlife

scoobysue wrote: »

and YOU are one in a million too dan. thank you very much for your lovely replies. good luck and take care.

Here here :beer: :j :beer:

Cate

scoobydo_2

Hi dan , thanks for the replys and i've pm'd you

reheat

TheWaltons wrote: »

You need to learn to love yourself mate, before anyone will love you. When we really look at ourselves and what we have got, we're not all that bad - there will be someone out there who would give their left leg to have your life. Honestly!

Yep! The way others treat us is in many ways a reflection of how we treat ourselves, as well as how we treat others. And learning to love ourselves is not about conceit or arrogance, but about being as fair to ourselves as we would be to others. "Desiderata" is good on this ~ google will get you loads of hits on it if you've not read it already.