Rent or buy?

mummyroysof3

thorsoak wrote: »

What is the age difference between DD and oldest son? Could they not share a bedroom? Let youngest boy have smallest room - or does he need medical equipment that would preclude him using tht room?

His sleep pattern and frequent waking up in the night is impacting on eldest and it needs solving. I don't like the idea of a downstairs bedroom for anyone and they never put a floor plan on even though they measured up for it.

notanewuser

mummyroysof3 wrote: »

His sleep pattern and frequent waking up in the night is impacting on eldest and it needs solving. I don't like the idea of a downstairs bedroom for anyone and they never put a floor plan on even though they measured up for it.

Can you knock one up and post it?

aliasojo

mummyroysof3 wrote: »

His sleep pattern and frequent waking up in the night is impacting on eldest and it needs solving. I don't like the idea of a downstairs bedroom for anyone and they never put a floor plan on even though they measured up for it.

It's a matter of importance. List the things that are most important to you in order of importance.

Your situation means you are not likely to get exactly what you want, so consider what else there is.

List space, security, costs, anything else that's important to you. Where would the thought of a downstairs bedroom sit in the list?

Money = do what you want.

Not enough money to do what you want = compromise.

What do you compromise on?

I can understand (and agree the disturbed sleep is a big issue) btw.

Dunroamin

What's wrong with a downstairs bedroom?

mummyroysof3

Downstairs bedroom wouldn't be as much of a problem if the layout was different. I don't know how to do a floor plan. We don't have a hall that rooms come off so a room put on back of the house would be too far away from other bedrooms in the event of a fire etc

ognum

mummyroysof3 wrote: »

Downstairs bedroom wouldn't be as much of a problem if the layout was different. I don't know how to do a floor plan. We don't have a hall that rooms come off so a room put on back of the house would be too far away from other bedrooms in the event of a fire etc

I am sorry if I sound harsh but somewhere at the back of my mind is a creeping annoyance that you only want the 'perfect' solution and in fact can only afford a comprimise.

We all would love the perfect house for our families but some of us have to compromise to make things work.

You have been given some fantastic solutions, you children are getting older and your elder son will soon be quite capable and probably enjoy a downstairs bedroom which you could achieve from a single story relatively cheap extension but then suddenly the parking becomes an issue!

Until you are willing to really compromise you will not find a solution, you have a home and in an area you appear to like, location is the key. Your children will be far more disrupted from constant moving while renting than sharing a room. Life is not perfect!

Could you move your daughter in bunk beds with your son so they both sleep and put your wakeful son in a small room. just another possible solution.

Your mortgage will not go up in price ( unless there is an interest change) your rent will go up and up and you will have to continue to pay it when you are a pensioner.

By the way what does your partner think is the solution?

Tommelise

Mongrel wrote: »

I may have overlooked posts similar to my own, but is it not possible to look into using a downstairs room as a part-time bedroom for the adults of the house, that way you can give the two boys their own space? It would be an adjustment, but it's what my parents did while they were waiting to find the right house

I agree with this

We have a very small house. (79 m2), in a nice area with a large garden.

We are 5, DD 15, DD2 12 and DS 6.

The girls have shared a room until 2 years ago, when we renovated the older part of the house. Now our daughters have a room each, and we still share with our son.

We hope to be able to extend the house within the next year, but if that fail we would rather buy a new couch for the living room and use that as our bed for a few years until our daughters leave home.

My parents did the same for several years in my youth. Now they have a 200 m2 home just to themselves :rotfl:

I would take a look a the rooms you have downstairs, and see if you could not use them differently than you do today.

notanewuser

mummyroysof3 wrote: »

. I don't know how to do a floor plan.

Pen, paper, draw boxes for rooms and label them.

We only need to see what's next to what.

ognum

Tommelise wrote: »

I agree with this

We have a very small house. (79 m2), in a nice area with a large garden.

We are 5, DD 15, DD2 12 and DS 6.

The girls have shared a room until 2 years ago, when we renovated the older part of the house. Now our daughters have a room each, and we still share with our son.

We hope to be able to extend the house within the next year, but if that fail we would rather buy a new couch for the living room and use that as our bed for a few years until our daughters leave home.

My parents did the same for several years in my youth. Now they have a 200 m2 home just to themselves :rotfl:

I would take a look a the rooms you have downstairs, and see if you could not use them differently than you do today.

Great post and an excellent compromise for your family, not great for you and hubby but you made it work for you!

Funky_Bold_Ribena

We put a garden room in the back courtyard; we knocked down a garage to do it. It gives us 3x4m extra space, and it has an office in there and a sofa that can be made into a double bed when guests stay. We also have a day bed that can be made into a double in DSD's room.

My aunt had the issue of how to fit her, 3 sons and my grandad into a 3 bed house; the son's room she ended up putting a divider down the middle to separate the eldest and the two youngest. So you could maybe do that letting the eldest one have one space and your DD have the other; and make sure they get dressed etc in the bathroom.