Do you / your partner ever give in for an easy life?

sharloid

No, if he's clearly wrong and won't admit it I tend to just ignore him.

southoftheriver

I pick my battles. If its something trivial I try and let it go. But if it means something to me ill make sure I get my point across and then drop it. I hate drama, so I don't like to draw things out. But if you don't say your piece then resentment can build. It's a delicate balance!

danih

I try to keep in mind that we are more important then whatever is bugging me, and pick my battles carefully.

I'vs discover a row doesn't achieved any thing except to make us both miserable. We resolve the problems best if I pick a time when wd are both in a good mood and we talk round it. Does mean I give in for an easy life a lot!

Had a great one last night. We are staying at his parents caravan with both our dogs, one of which we are still toilet training. They are v quite dogs at night and rarely bark, only if they need out. I was woken by a wuff, and started getting out of bed to sort them out -had to climb over hubby. Grumpy husband insisted I had been dreaming, he would have heard a wuff, both dogs sound asleep etc etc etc. Was so sure he was right he said that he would take them out during the night if they needed anything. He huffed and puffed for a couple minutes, I gave up, agreed I must have bn dreaming.

Then dog wuffed again Made grumpy husband do as he had said and take them out. He didn't put lead on new dog, who has a delightful time racing round the caravan park, with grumpy chasing after him at 5am. LOL

Molly41

We used to have some hum dingers of rows when we were younger but now we just have a quick snap and it is over and forgotten. It is what it is - my husbands new mantra - you cant argue with that!

pigpen

I just say 'yeeesss, whatever' in my best patronising tone and walk away.. I know I am right and he can think what he likes.. he is still wrong

We don't argue. Not ever.. far too much like effort.. I do occasionally bite his head off, chew it up and spit out the bits!

YoungBaker

SuzieSue wrote: »

If something like this happened to us then our first thought would be how to stop it happening again. It doesn't really matter whose fault it was as it was just one of those occasions when you both assumed that the other would lock up for different reasons, so really no-one was at fault as such. In fact I think you were both at fault for just assuming that the other had locked up without checking.

Errr... Ok well thanks for that insightful post.

Clearly this was a light hearted thread just giving a brief example of a small disagreement I had, had with my wife because we had a misunderstanding. And clearly everyone else has got on and in the spirit of it and shared their experiences.

Didn't really need your 101 on it telling me we should be making sure it doesnt happen again and who is actually weong in the situation. God forbid anyone has a bit of a light hearted thread on this board without it turning into jow we need to improve our communication or some crap to stop it happening again.

SuzieSue

al_1232 wrote: »

Errr... Ok well thanks for that insightful post.

Clearly this was a light hearted thread just giving a brief example of a small disagreement I had, had with my wife because we had a misunderstanding. And clearly everyone else has got on and in the spirit of it and shared their experiences.

Didn't really need your 101 on it telling me we should be making sure it doesnt happen again and who is actually weong in the situation. God forbid anyone has a bit of a light hearted thread on this board without it turning into jow we need to improve our communication or some crap to stop it happening again.

I was just saying what we would have done in that situation. Everyone has a different sense of humour and you might find the situation funny but I am very security conscious and wouldn't.

System

All the time with my ex, we argued about everything and it was always my fault *roll eyes* so i just let it go..

But with current bf we have little rows but nothing major, and i know when to drop something lest risking it turn into an actual argument.

SuzieSue

SuzieSue wrote: »

I was just saying what we would have done in that situation. Everyone has a different sense of humour and you might find the situation funny but I am very security conscious and wouldn't.

Also, I remember that with my ex, whenever anything went wrong the first thing he did was blame someone (usually me). I just gave up arguing with him because his behaviour was so unreasonable. If he forgot to do something, he would blame me for not reminding him.

With my husband, I don't think I have ever just stopped arguing for a quiet life. We do have arguments (sometimes quite heated) but we always manage to come to a compromise.

ilovelondontown

I tend to do all the things I know DH won't do (and I secretly don't mind doing), so when I want him to do something I don't want to do he doesn't have a leg to stand on and say no!

Meaning I do the majority of cooking and cleaning but when it's a Sunday night and I we both fancy chocolate, it's him that gets sent on the chocolate run