Do you / your partner ever give in for an easy life?

loulou26

I think I have previously been the one to make a mountain out of nothing and he is the one that gives in. I feel this may have lead to a few resentments on his half and I now regret it.

I am now trying to live by 'don't sweat the small stuff'

Gloomendoom

Life's too short so, unless it's something I feel very strongly about, yes. I'm sure she does the same.

There is a lot of truth in that old saying.. "Happy wife = Happy life."

Stephb1986_2

He's always Mr Right so I give up in the end because I can't be bothered lol.

Kayalana99

I've been on both sides coin, my Ex was a complete argumentive freak and EVERYTHING was just arguments...leaving the door unlocked would probally resulted in us having a screaming fit at each other for a couple hours, and the funniest thing is...we aren't arguing about who didn't lock the door - were arguing about the fact who started the argument... me trying to get him to see he is being unreasonable and him trying to get me to admit its all my fault were arguing..idk can't really remember much now lol.... Bleh etc...

Me and my OH, never fight about a thing. We have small disagreements but the only time he has ever heard me shout is at my ex (I admit I didn't leave it long from one to the other but it just happened.) always wondered if it was him/me or both of us but deep down I think I knew it was all him as I am a really laid back person and he isn't.

Turned out I was right :-)

Sometimes I think I should be harder on my OH... he does spend all his money on booze but he enjoys it and doesn't get drunk + drinks at home ...so I don't mind really...but isn't that my responibly to nag him as his OH?

ognum

IMO in the whole of life, partner, children, parents, work I would always pick my arguements, it simply isn't worth arguing over minor issues, sometimes not even about major issues but just sometimes there are issues that I will not back down on!

fannyanna

That would be my husband.

Generally it works quite well for us although sometimes he'll stick to his guns and other times I pressure him to tell me what he really thinks rather than what he thinks I want to hear.

shop-to-drop

Absolutely all the time and both of us. Like you say mostly for smaller things that are really unimportant on the grand scheme of things. We've needed to learn to do this more at times in our marriage but don't think we would be still married after 17 years (together total of 23) if we didn't. We are different human being that think for ourselves so don't always see eye to eye on everything and have personality flaws like we all do too.

Carl31

Yeah sometimes. Usually we have discussions, but on occasion my wife is quite opinionated on matters that I think really shouldn't be a concern

As they don't matter I don't argue. We don't argue anyway, we discuss and kind of reason things. I think we both accept that we are not always right, and in the past the other has proven us wrong

maman

ognum wrote: »

IMO in the whole of life, partner, children, parents, work I would always pick my arguements, it simply isn't worth arguing over minor issues, sometimes not even about major issues but just sometimes there are issues that I will not back down on!

I totally agree with this.

Unfortunately I made the mistake of explaining this to DH one day and used the analogy of 'it's like managing children' (i.e. you pick your arguments, ignore silly behaviour and make your point strongly on really important things). He wasn't best pleased at the thought of being managed like a child.

But then he shouldn't act like one.;):rotfl:

lillie_put

used to say what I believed
now more often than not I don't unless im standing up for someone else
but now well I just let him have his say coz words hurt me
an I've had life time of hurt