Do you / your partner ever give in for an easy life?

Tiglath

Yes we both do - tends to be little things like 'I TOLD you we needed more loo roll.' We never actually argue, but occasionally we'll snip once or twice each before we go quiet and it gets forgotten. We both like an easygoing life, except he gets himself embroiled in online arguments and then gets grumpy in real life, at which point I just ignore him.

teamshepherd

All the flipping time... unless i get into one of my stubborn moments, then he gets it!

mellymoo74

Hell yes all the time. My OH is never ever wrong and when he is he still isnt I am just mistaken

pollypenny

I often call my OH St. M.

He's always right and always gets his own way, not by arguing or quarrelling, but by wearing me down.

Bangton

Oh yes..I do this. To be fair to him he isn't the sort of person who *needs* to be right all the time but there are the odd occasions where I'm blamed for something or there's been a misunderstanding and I just let him believe it is my fault for an easy life.

Our most common things are that I have lost items of his whilst cleaning (probably true but then he shouldn't leave them out!!)

and

I'll tell him something I feel he needs to know but he claims I haven't. Most recently we had plastering done in our hall and I decided to extend this to the bedroom ceiling in our spare room as it was a horrid artex effect. I told him my plan but on the day we started clearing out ready for the plasterers he claimed no knowledge 'well I told you' (my response). His response 'Did I reply? Did I acknowledge what you said?' I CAN'T REMEMBER BUT WHY AREN'T YOU LISTENING AT ALL TIMES? 'You talk ALOT, sometimes I have to weed out what's pointless from the necessary info'!! THIS is the common one in our house!

Lunar_Eclipse

Yes. I'm sure most married couples do, unless they are in the <1% category of couples who hold the same opinion about everything.

I also think it's the right thing to do though, as opposed to a 'giving up' strategy, since most things in life are insignificant. Compromise is another strategy we adopt all the time.

As hard as it is, I try to remember that it's critical to mantain respect and courtesy at all times. I won't continue a discussion without it. Thankfully my husband upholds this much better than I, but probably feels he gives in more than I do, essentially because he is much easier going than I am so doesn't get hung up on the smaller things as much. For example, he doesn't care where he eats lunch, as long as he eats. And he definitely agrees with the 'happy wife, happy family' saying.

hot.chick

I'm sure we all do this & whatever the situation no matter how big or small it is of course always the husbands fault

Except when I leave the iron on for 4 days - that one was all me - I'm not allowed to use the iron any more - WIN!!!

busiscoming2

**Patty** wrote: »

Yes.... a lot.

Because my husband is the sort that would argue black is white whether he was right or not.:rotfl:

I just cba.

Mine too. I've learnt its OK for me to know I'm right and just let him believe what he wants.

pukkamum

After 18 yrs dh and I feel that if we concentrate on making each other happy then everyones a winner.
As I tell my children being happy is more important than being right.
Neither dh or I sweat the small stuff, he accepts that I know more about certain things and I accept that he doesn't hahaha.
So we don't argue, I can't remember the last time we had a row, and besides being brought up in a volatile home with constant screaming matches I will never allow my children to see us screaming at each other.
When my friends tell me about rows I just cannot understand what there is to argue about, lifes too short.

SuzieSue

al_1232 wrote: »

My example is today me and my wife left the house together. I went and put the bin out whilst she locked the fromt door. Turns out she didnt lock the door after all as she thought I was running back in and so would have. Nothing was taken etc. so nothing serious, but had a little joke about who'se fault it was (ie she says mine!)

If something like this happened to us then our first thought would be how to stop it happening again. It doesn't really matter whose fault it was as it was just one of those occasions when you both assumed that the other would lock up for different reasons, so really no-one was at fault as such. In fact I think you were both at fault for just assuming that the other had locked up without checking.