meeting first love years on - any experiences?

Troutwrestler

pukkamum wrote: »

I was contacted by my first love via facebook and it caused all sorts of ructions.
It started out as a friendly chat but he began to get quite heavy, talking about when we were together how wonderful it was etc.
I put an end to the conversation then sent an email saying I would be removing him as a friend as dh would be upset at how the conversation was going etc, but that is was nice to hear from him and relive old memories but thats all they were memories.
Dh found said email and hit the roof, imagining the worst.
It all came good in the end but it could have been a very different story had I arranged to meet him etc.
Leave the past in the past enjoy the memories and cut all ties.

I doubt my first ex would ever get in touch he was so happy to have got rid:rotfl: but I agree with this post..for me things are in the past for a reason...you don't want to risk what you have now for something that didn't work then...

marisco_2

I think it is best to leave the past alone. People usually become an ex for a reason. As there are also bad memories linked to the time you were with this guy I think it would be best to decline his offer to meet up.

geoffky

They are all ex-s for a reason...Play with fire at your peril..

classy69

I was with my first love at age 17, split up just after 18 years old. 10 Years down the line, we got back in contact and are now living together with our 1 year old daughter!

burnoutbabe

I have my few early loves all on facebook, all break ups quite amicable and all were amongst the first to wish me congrats on my engagement. and its funny when someone comments about something you forgot about 20 years ago. you forget that your memories are also there ones (which also applies to old school mates)

if you feel weird then don't meet up.

sovilla

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neverdespairgirl

Prothet_of_Doom wrote: »

My first Love comes to the house. Well she would. She's my wife's longest friend and introduced us, whilst trying to finish with me.

My first love comes to the house, too. Well, he would. He lives here, with me, and our 8 year old son (-:

As OH charmingly puts it, "home is the place where, if you have to go there, they have to let you in"

vodkachick68

I am back with my first love after 20 years! His marriage ended 3 years ago and mine last April. I have to say things haven't been easy,we have lots of issues going on regarding commitment and kids. We are trying to work things out but it's a challenge. We both love each other deeply and if truth been known always have. It can work second time around but only if you are both out of relationships.

It's tempting to go and see if the grass is greener but sometimes it's not!

tinkerbell28

Better to stay away IMO. I have a couple of ex's on my fb, including my first bf. No feeling there at all. I'd happily have a coffee with them, no issues.

I have only ever loved one person before my husband. It was raw, we both kinda broke up, too much, too young.

I would not meet him, my first real love. As I don't know how I would feel. I really would not want to risk my marriage by having all these feelings for him come flooding back. As I don't think you ever really stop having feelings for your first true love. I think they stay buried. He was a total weed in comparison to my OH but the mind does funny things!

System

Personally, I wouldn't go but that's me.