meeting first love years on - any experiences?

cup_of_tea?

As title.

Has any body any experience or advice on whether this is a good idea or not. I have recently been contacted by my '1st love' and asked to meet. I have mixed feelings about this. Are memories better off staying as memories?

tea_lover

Depends whether either of you are in a relationship at the moment.

LEJC

Do you want to meet up with them....and on what terms?

A catch up...Ive done that a few times with old school friends who were very important in my life once....
It was actually quite nice remembering and having a good chuckle about the past...but to me thats all it was.

As long as you both want the same out of your encounter then thats fine....and it doesnt take over the life you have now!

cup_of_tea?

I had not even thought of any thing other than a friendly catch up. I am married. I have some bad memories attached and was thinking more along the lines of me re-living some bad times rather than a relationship angle.

Think I perhaps need to look at this from a wider viewpoint.

Thank you.

Bazey

Chances are he is in a relationship (which has been a bit rocky recently). He will make lots of inappropriate comments and you will come away feeling flattered that although he is in a relationship, he'd quite like to cheat with you. He'll text you lots of sleazy stuff and you'll eventually start to ignore him.

Come on brothers! We're better than this.

Troutwrestler

Mine would run a mile...I'm about 4 stones heavier

fawd1

Troutwrestler wrote: »

Mine would run a mile...I'm about 4 stones heavier

Ha! I have this exact thing at the moment. There's the potential for me to meet up with my first love at a reunion thing but I just can't do it. Not just because my DH wouldn't like it (although I've told him that I wouldn't go out of respect to him) but actually it's because I'm sooo much fatter now. If I'm going to meet up with my first love, I'm going to do it looking better than ever. I wouldn't want him to leave thinking he'd had a lucky escape!
:rotfl:

cup_of_tea?

I hadn't even thought about the looks thing . Haha. Oh dear. There are too many issues arising now.
I have decided not to go. It's just too complicated.

LEJC

Is it just you this person wants to meet up with or are you part of a wider circle of old friends who you are still in contact with....perhaps if a group of you met up you would feel much more comfortable...

A couple of years ago we had a meeting up involving a few people I went to junior school with...most of us hadnt seen each other for 30 years or so and it was a little daunting at first but its actually quite surprising how quickly you all regress to being about 8 years old in the playground...and all thoughts of first love were were forgotten!

We now all try to meet at least annually and actually I do feel that I've got or rediscovered some very good friendships that now interlock with my life!

Troutwrestler

fawd1 wrote: »

Ha! I have this exact thing at the moment. There's the potential for me to meet up with my first love at a reunion thing but I just can't do it. Not just because my DH wouldn't like it (although I've told him that I wouldn't go out of respect to him) but actually it's because I'm sooo much fatter now. If I'm going to meet up with my first love, I'm going to do it looking better than ever. I wouldn't want him to leave thinking he'd had a lucky escape!
:rotfl:

I doubt mine would recognise me....so yeah, I would only want to see mine if I looked better than when we dated..otherwise...I have actually turned into my mother ( that was always his worry...) :rotfl:

cup_of_tea?

This seems to be one on one meeting. He does not live in the UK any more. I am not going. I have far too much else on to start thinking about the past, my appearance (thanks people I hadn't even considered that before coming on board).
I think the present is enough to cope with.