My Marriage

candygirl

http://www.psychopathfree.com/showthread.php?2722-Article-30-Red-Flags
I've posted this once today in another thread, and don't care if I have to post it a million time to raise awareness of abuse, be it emotional/physical.I've lived through it both, so am not being alarmist x:o

ERICS_MUM

he will only get worse. Now he's hit you once he will find it easier to do it again and again and eventually the severity will increase.

seven-day-weekend

marisco wrote: »

I disagree. There are lines you just don't cross in a relationship and violence towards a partner is one of them.

I know someone who, after thirty years of happy marriage, was hit (slap, once) by her husband. He was suffering from a mental health illness at the time and the marriage was under stress for other reasons too.

He was instantly sorry, begged her to forgive him, and ten years later has never done it again and their problems are all behind them. They are now in a happy marriage again.

I think one isolated incident CAN be forgiven,under certain circumstances, however the OP's husband does not sound like the man I mentioned above, who has never been abusive to his wife (physically or verbally) before or since.

He needs to get his anger under control. I suggest a counsellor to talk through their problems. If he won't try, it may be time to call time.

FBaby

I would be reluctant to write off a 15 year relationship solely on the basis of one incidence of violence.

I would too....maybe, depending on the whole picture, but one thing for absolutely certain, I would have moved out immediately and certainly not wipe it off as nothing. Going home with him after this gives the message that it was accepted. It is NOT acceptable in any way. Whether it can be resolved or not is another matter.

I get the feeling that OP doesn't want to save her marriage for the sake of her marriage, but because she is scared of the prospect of being on her own, hence I agree with all the advice provided here.