I really need some advice re feeling low

CustardAndPickles

Everyone who has posted has suggested useful advice - you really can get through this, you know!

I know you said you didn't believe in anti-depressants, so you didn't think visiting your GP would something you wanted to do, but given that there would appear to be some self-belief / self-confidence issues involved, it could well be that your GP might offer to refer you to a counsellor. There will probably be a bit of a wait, but you might find it really helpful.

TopQuark

geoffky wrote: »

It is very real to her..She is heartbroken and in tears..

I think it's quite unfair to compare a teenage girl's crush to an adult woman's relationship in this way.

A 14 year old girl has a couple of decades to move on, meet the right person, settle down and have a family if she so wishes. A 30-odd year old woman is in a totally different situation. The breakdown of a relationship at this point in life makes a woman start to question whether they'll have time to meet the right person, get to know them and have a family etc as the clock is ticking (not wishing to worry you OP, but I'm around your age and it's what I'd be thinking).

OP, I think you need to let go of all the 'what-ifs'. There isn't anything you could have done to change the outcome, so every time you find yourself thinking this way, make a conscious effort to block that thought.

And as difficult as it might be, you have to 'get out there'. Do some volunteering, take up a challenge to run the London marathon, study for a new qualification, start a new hobby, join the special constabulary, take judo lessons, flying lessons, anything that gets you out and about and stops you dwelling on the past. Only you can change your situation!