A carer for the day

jewelly

I wonder if it might be kinder to your grandfather to leave him out of it. As others have suggested, maybe some of you could go to him for photos etc.

My next door neighbour has dementia and grandaughter got married recently. Although the family would have loved her to be part of it, they realised it would be too much for her as she does get unsettled by change. On the day, the family left a bottle of champagne and some food treats. My neighbour and I toasted the couple from the comfort of her living room, and had a jolly nice time.

On reflection, the family were pleased they made the right decision for the grandmother. Later on they were able to show her photographs of the day, which she enjoyed.

My neighbour is probably not as affected by her condition as your grandfather as she is able to remain living alone with carers coming in several times a day.

Mojisola

The other benefit of taking the wedding to the care home for some photos is that the wedding will be shared by the other residents and the staff who will then talk about it with him in the weeks to come.

Violetta_2

jen1301 wrote: »

We've spoken to the home and they weren't very helpful to be honest. They said that their staff don't do 'outings' and that it is our responsibility to arrange something. We just want a bit of extra support on the day as as much as we all love him, his condition is difficult to deal with. Thanks for the replies.

They don't do outings? So they keep them all in the home & they never see the light of day again? Surely they should support your granddad especially with such an important family event. I would ask a different member of staff, hopefully you get something sorted.

System

When my friend got married on the way to the church they did a detour to the nursing home where her Nan was. Her Nan got to see her in her beautiful dress before the groom did.

Her Nan died not long after and she is so glad she had them taken.