A carer for the day

celinepatricia

If the carehome isnt to far would you be able to do a short detour with the photographer and have some photos taken with your Grandad if no other solution can be found?

meritaten

I would ask the home if someone could take him - and if it would be ok for HIM to be there. you may want him there, but, if his dementia was advanced enough that he had no idea why he was there and it upset him - it may not be kind to include him.
a good home would assess this and if he was thought competent to attend, send him with a carer he felt comfortable with. (you may offer to pay for that).
an alternative would be to go visit him after the ceremony and have pictures taken.
Speak to his carers - they will know which is the best route.

bestpud

Did you offer to pay for a carer from the home to accompany him?

They may have a tight staff to resident ratio, especially at this time of year, and can't afford to lose one person for the day.

However, if you offer to pay a day's wage to one of them to come in, they will probably be more helpful.

pmlindyloo

bestpud wrote: »

Did you offer to pay for a carer from the home to accompany him?

They may have a tight staff to resident ratio, especially at this time of year, and can't afford to lose one person for the day.

However, if you offer to pay a day's wage to one of them to come in, they will probably be more helpful.

I agree. They probably think you were asking one of the staff on duty that day to go with your grandad and couldn't spare that person.


Is there a particular carer that your grandad likes? You could wait til nearer the time when the rotas have been worked out and see if anyone isn't on duty that day but would be willing to accompany him for some financial incentive.

Pee

I would try talking to the home again. Otherwise Age Concern locally may be able to help. I know a man who had mild dementia who needed a carer to escort him to the odd hospital appointment and it was hard to find someone but we did. Carers are quite low paid so if you talk to them direct you may well find they are willing.

mentaljessie

As a nurse I have actively suppported service users to attend staff weddings through which this has bought me personal and professional pleasure. I have been the hat bearer ie which hat of such and suches wedding would you like to hat borrow from me.

The last service user whom I cared for, my team ensured the familiy recieved a photo of me, my seniour staff and the bride at her wedding. Moments like this are priceless.

As I reiterate your only as good as your team!

bestpud

mentaljessie wrote: »

As a nurse I have actively suppported service users to attend staff weddings through which this has bought me personal and professional pleasure. I have been the hat bearer ie which hat of such and suches wedding would you like to hat borrow from me.

The last service user whom I cared for, my team ensured the familiy recieved a photo of me, my seniour staff and the bride at her wedding. Moments like this are priceless.

As I reiterate your only as good as your team!

We have done similar in the home I work in too.

It's possible there is a carer there who would volunteer but I don't know about insurance if the home haven't arranged it?

When we do things like this, we go as a friend rather than a carer so that's different I guess?

Poppy_Jane_Parka

Hi Jen- don't know where you are but where we are in Scotland there is an agency called Crossroads Care which offers short term i.e. a few hours of 'respite care' at home for older adults- this is usually in the patients home to allow family members a break, but they may also do support outwith the home? or try the Richmond fellowship or even the Red Cross?

Poppy

Kynthia

When the hospital wouldn't let my nan attend my sister's wedding as she was on oxygen, we all popped in after the meal and speaches. We made a great sight with the bride, groom, mother if the bride and bridesmaid all walking through the halls of the Victorian hospital. My nan loved it and we took a few photos too.

carolan78

If your in Yorkshire there' a fantastic agency called Local Careforce they will do one offs for you. I can't see the cost been astronomical because your only requiring them for a few hours.