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Nice People Thread Part 9 - and so it continues
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lostinrates wrote: »Congratulations!
What are her plans now spirit?:T:T Congrats.
When do go PT?
I am sure it will be a good one but not as good as the meet up.;)neverdespairgirl wrote: »
I didn't want to tell OH any of it really,.
No idea what her plans are, and being a NP mum trying not to ask.
OH has kept his wallet in check this evening, we went out for dinner and he did not make extravagant promises. The day of her undergrad results he offered her a gap year RTW trip. I have made OH in charge of asking the what next questions.
Still want to go PT from after Christmas, but rather floored by the prospect of ill health retirement which Occ Health suggested and I am still mulling over. Not spoken to my boss yet as I feel very uncomfortable about this unexpected development.
I understand you not wanting to tell your OH...but he may want to know.0 -
But, mothers can be amazing under those circumstances. Mine was superb when I found myself a single parent with two kids under five. I'm so glad yours will be there to look after you and stop Isaac pestering you when it's the last thing you need.
Hugs
That makes me feel like such a wimp - you cope with your 2 all the time, and don't make a fuss about it!
My mother's great - she manages to make you feel both that it's not as bad as you think it is, but that it's quite reasonable for you to feel down / upset / cross. Which is a great combination.
When Isaac was 4 weeks old, and suffering badly from reflux (which we didn't know at the time) he screamed solidly for about 48 hours with only short breaks for 20 minute naps. It was terribly upsetting - something was obviously wrong, but I didn't know what it was or how to fix it or even help a bit - but it was also incredibly wearing, I just didn't know what to do or how to help it.
My mother's comment (when she came round) was that sometimes being a good mother is managing not to throw the baby out of the window, and just surviving, which helped an awful lot. And she insisted the GP see him that day, and not the following evening, which had been suggested.
This evening, I read him various Kipling poems, and some Edward Lear (poetry often works when he's in bee-in-bottle mode) and then we made some progress on a balsa wood bi-plane.
I don't want to drag Mama here unless I really do need her - she and Dad completed on their new flat in Greenwich last week, and she's up to her eyeballs in sorting stuff out. My Dad's idea of sorting is to ask when he can turn up wtih his toothbrush and stay there, I think!...much enquiry having been made concerning a gentleman, who had quitted a company where Johnson was, and no information being obtained; at last Johnson observed, that 'he did not care to speak ill of any man behind his back, but he believed the gentleman was an attorney'.0 -
I've not had my hair trimmed for over a year - I've been trying to grow it as I'd had "carer hair" (short/easy) before .... so I'll need to at least get it trimmed if I'm to go out in public. And if I can't .... then I'll need to find my beanie hat and only go where I can keep it on and not look strange
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Our DD heard she has her MA today.
We are one happy pair of parents.
:j:beer::T Congratulations!neverdespairgirl wrote: »I've verged on dehydration, but not too badly, yet, so I've not needed a drip.
Do be careful, and if you do need to go on a drip, just go and get them to do it, whether it disrupts a case or not. Dehydration can be a big deal. Be glad you live in a century when drips are available - some great-great-great aunt or other on my mum's side of the family got pregnant in the 19th century, got hyperemesis, dehyrated (with no drip available at that time), and died. 21st century medicine has a lot to be said for it. Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.0 -
There's posh .....neverdespairgirl wrote: »I read him various Kipling poems, and some Edward Lear
I'd imagine I'd have been read some Noddy.0 -
PasturesNew wrote: »I was always taught "if you have to ask, you can't afford it"
I know I know and we can't really but it's free to ask...and then say How Much?! I do love them though.
I keep seeing Nice Tings everywhere and as we haven't spent significant ££ on Nice Tings for about 20 years plus there is so much choice out there too....it's all hard to resist.No idea what her plans are, and being a NP mum trying not to ask.
Still want to go PT from after Christmas, but rather floored by the prospect of ill health retirement which Occ Health suggested and I am still mulling over. Not spoken to my boss yet as I feel very uncomfortable about this unexpected development.
I understand you not wanting to tell your OH...but he may want to know.
Sorry to read this. I guess you have to stop completely if you take the IH retirement?0 -
PasturesNew wrote: »There's posh .....
I'd imagine I'd have been read some Noddy.
From when I was very small I knew I'd all else's failed the copy of 'other men's flowers ' by the side of my mother's bed would be opened and yield some gem up. Its such a wonderful collection.
Funnily enough I just bought Edward Lear for new niece.
The other thing I ha at bedtime, when tiny than Isaac, was the trout. I must have wriggled off to sleep listening o that. Its hardly restful.0 -
neverdespairgirl wrote: »That makes me feel like such a wimp - you cope with your 2 all the time, and don't make a fuss about it!
You are not a wimp. That was absolutely NOT the conclusion you were meant to draw from my post.
a) I do not have pregnancy hormones as an excuse for being weepy.
b) I am not being sick several times a day or even feeling nauseous.
c) Mine are now 13 and 10 and reasonably able to mind their own business if I need them to so that I can work or sleep or make an important phone call or whatever.
d) I've only ever been sick when ill, and therefore entitled to take time off work for it. I am consequently in awe of anybody who can even contemplate a week as unaided parent to somebody Isaac's age, while working full time, feeling constantly nauseous, and without proper nutrition because too much is being thrown up.
And finally,
e) I do not cope as well as you think I do. My kids frequently get fed not very healthy food at random times of day, or else left to forage for themselves in the fridge, for example, and I only work half a job.neverdespairgirl wrote: »My mother's great - she manages to make you feel both that it's not as bad as you think it is, but that it's quite reasonable for you to feel down / upset / cross. Which is a great combination.
That made me smile. Happy memories of my mum, who was like that too. Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.0 -
lostinrates wrote: »From when I was very small I knew I'd all else's failed the copy of 'other men's flowers ' by the side of my mother's bed would be opened and yield some gem up. Its such a wonderful collection.
Funnily enough I just bought Edward Lear for new niece.
The other thing I ha at bedtime, when tiny than Isaac, was the trout. I must have wriggled off to sleep listening o that. Its hardly restful.
Whenever one of us was ill as a kid, my mum used to get her mum to come to stay to look after the ill child, while Mum kept the show on the road for the remaining family who were still well and therefore busy. Granny used to read me "Granny's wonderful chair." I've been introducing it to DD recently. She liked it. Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.0 -
You are not a wimp. That was absolutely NOT the conclusion you were meant to draw from my post.
a) I do not have pregnancy hormones as an excuse for being weepy.
b) I am not being sick several times a day or even feeling nauseous.
c) Mine are now 13 and 10 and reasonably able to mind their own business if I need them to so that I can work or sleep or make an important phone call or whatever.
d) I've only ever been sick when ill, and therefore entitled to take time off work for it. I am consequently in awe of anybody who can even contemplate a week as unaided parent to somebody Isaac's age, while working full time, feeling constantly nauseous, and without proper nutrition because too much is being thrown up.
And finally,
e) I do not cope as well as you think I do. My kids frequently get fed not very healthy food at random times of day, or else left to forage for themselves in the fridge, for example, and I only work half a job.
That made me smile. Happy memories of my mum, who was like that too.
Meh, NDG is great, Isaac is a doll, but I hereby issue a new commandment. Thou shall not sell thyself short as a parent. NDG is doing well, spirit is being more than nice and You are raising two kids I'd borrow any day. S they feed themselves from the fridge, I see that as teaching them self reliance and a positive.
You work half a job? But you also a parent a full time one.....alone and produce lovlier results than many people manage with a lot more human resource.
Stop it, all you lovely nice parents. I won't hear it any more, the nice children I know are delicious, and its not an accident.0
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