Nice People Thread Part 9 - and so it continues

neverdespairgirl

I'm feeling grumpy because I'm still feeling very sick, and while losing weight a bit. While I can spare it, it's not joyeous to feel vomitous all the time.

LydiaJ

bugslet wrote: »

Thanks for that direct experience NDG. If that was Mr Bugs wish, then I'd support him, however with not knowing, I'm finding it difficult to make a decision not to send him to hospital. I don't feel he has quite got to that point yet. I'd like to think he would just go quietly, but physically he is quite healthy, so I think the decision will have to be made at some point

It's certainly harder than putting a dog down and that's hard enough.:(

Bugs, my mother also sort of faded away very peacefully once she stopped eating and drinking. But she was not physically at all healthy (she had Lewy body dementia, so advanced Parkinsonism with difficulty in thinking coherently but not memory loss) with no hope of getting physically better, and at an earlier stage she had said categorically that she wanted to die at home not in hospital.

You are doing all the right things - thinking things through, making decisions in plenty of time as best as you can, and letting your friends be there for you through it. Hang in there. Sometimes there is no "right" answer, and you just have to do what seems best with the information available to you at the time.

lostinrates wrote: »

Meh, the fabric of life has these different threads in it. They are all part of its varied texture, if we didn't hear about them all it wouldn't be 'real' you know?

Mushrooms, herts, livers and life and death, houses and heartache and who to put in a bathtub. I think its all serious, even the funny stuff. The little things combined apcan pull us down terribly...(the things with my health I get most upset about are my weight and skin....not the ruddy great swelling in my brain:rotfl:) and the things that serve best to pick us up again are often the simple things too.....the little laughter a, the simple unity of smiles and conversation.

What lir said. Bugs and FC, please don't stop posting. The NP have been there for people in crisis before and will be again. Right now it's your turn. Make use of the place to have a rant or a sob. We'll be there for you, and we'll be there for GDB with his phone lines and michaels with his bath water too.

Doozergirl wrote: »

Just feeling sorry for myself. Sometimes I feel like like I'm doing a decent job, yet there's always someone to point out, on those occasions, what I haven't done for them. I feel taken for granted and like everyone else's possession.

What I signed up for, I guess.

EDIT: And there's LIR to make us feel better for trivial worries about phone lines and being grumpy.

Feeling taken for granted is pants. So sorry to hear you feel that way. Hope somebody comes along to tell you how much they appreciate you very soon!

lostinrates

Everyone want a collective groan?

I noticed that there were TWO Christmas films on tv at the weekend.

(And got out my nutcrackers and some holly lights for the cheese room mantle piece.......not Christmas decorations exactly...but seasonal. Far too early for cristmas decorations of course, but some seasonal nods? I'd normally start in December, but we were moving the Christmas stuff froma pile of junk into a cupboard (btw how does one clean dusty glittery ornaments? Lowest setting on vacuum?) and thought I might as well accept that these come out now.........

lemonjelly

LydiaJ wrote: »

It's frustrating when it does that.



Oh Spirit. Sounds like a day to knock you sideways. Hope you find the right way forward, whatever that is. Hugs.

Would like the NP's opinions about something. There's a Chinese takeaway near us - not actually our nearest but we go there sometimes. DD likes it because sometimes there used to be Chinese girls (one DD's age and one younger) playing behind the counter in the shop for her to talk to while waiting for our food. Last time we went there, the bigger girl (I think she's 10) was helping. The adult was there, but the girl took our order, entered it into the computer system, operated the credit card gadget and took the order slip through to the kitchen. This time, she was doing it again, but the adults were all out in the kitchen. The whole time we were there, the adults only appeared very briefly to deliver food through from the kitchen. The girl took all the orders (both in person and on the phone) and all the payments (both cash and card). She seemed very competent and clearly does it a lot. I don't think she's just "helping". It looks as though she's working. And surely a girl of 10 shouldn't be alone out the front dealing with the customers by herself at past 10pm, even if there is a counter between her and the customers and even if the adults are just the other side of a swing door, should she? Am I worrying unduly, or is this a problem? And if so, what if anything should I do about it?

Similar was happening in a friends local chinese takeaway.
Not long after, it was discovered that about 10 people were livning/sleeping in the kitchens.
Cue closure, new signs/re-opening within 3 days under someone else's name. (husband is already in prison, & that was wifes last chance!)

lemonjelly

lostinrates wrote: »

HDTV and I share baths when we can. I can assure you no happy kids sharing baths have been a fraction as disgusting a us.

Little kids who are cleaning of the normal day...not mud or filth and who are not unwell, no 'open wounds' ..seems ok to me. Went in with a variety of friends as a kid.

Edit Sorry, I don't share the bath with HDTV.....just DH!

That. Is. Hilarious!!!:D

GDB2222 wrote: »

Somehow, I feel that my personal difficulty about not having phone lines does not seem all that serious. It all falls into perspective when I hear about real problems and dilemmas. My love to both of you, and Bugs you can only make the best decision you can at the time.

It is amazing that digital technology has taken off so much in africa etc.
Were you aware there are more mobile phone users in africa than US & europe combined?
The growth of the mobile & digital tech is amazing!
(I've been reading a book this weekend about it...:o)

lemonjelly

silvercar wrote: »

I'm quoting myself I know. Bad form. But we all have the habit of thanking every post and I wanted to seriously share this.




You can thank and ignore again if you wish and I won't mention again.

I found it from getting referred to this

http://www.ted.com/talks/alain_de_botton_atheism_2_0.html

in my constant quest for anti atheism matter to use in discussion with the kids. It could be subtitled "why atheists need religion".

His "religion for Atheists" book is a superb read. Highly recommended.
I do think de Botton's style has improved the more he's written. I still really like status anxiety - great book.

lemonjelly

lostinrates wrote: »

Everyone want a collective groan?

I noticed that there were TWO Christmas films on tv at the weekend.

(And got out my nutcrackers and some holly lights for the cheese room mantle piece.......not Christmas decorations exactly...but seasonal. Far too early for cristmas decorations of course, but some seasonal nods? I'd normally start in December, but we were moving the Christmas stuff froma pile of junk into a cupboard (btw how does one clean dusty glittery ornaments? Lowest setting on vacuum?) and thought I might as well accept that these come out now.........

It's getting ludicrous.

Even the coca cola ad was on at the weekend.

Waaaaaaay too early!

lostinrates

lemonjelly wrote: »

It's getting ludicrous.

Even the coca cola ad was on at the weekend.

Waaaaaaay too early!

Because we do (or at least nod to ) thanksgiving we tend to think after that is when Christmas planning ramps up a bit. I have thought about getting the stuffing in the freezer. If we are having a. Big Christmas I start buying stuff about October and putting it away...extra ingredients for cooking. We don't tend to eat too much junk food, but DH does like some, so a couple of bags of crips, making sure we have popcorn in. That sort of thing. A clue of extra things a week means the Christmas grocery shop is not too 'expensive' despite being meat heavy with an overpriced bird and a ham. (In fact, I usually look for hams for the freezer if I don't have them and I do not now. Its just the two of us this year, so shouldn't need much extra. Funnily enough those often work out as more expensive meals ....

PasturesNew

OMG ... I'll be quick in case I "disappear" again. About 2 hours ago I suddenly lost the Internet, found the book, read it, looked at the display etc.... rebooted everything a few times..... waited, tried again. No Internet.

Something made me try the phone - no phone. Tried phoning it, it didn't ring.

Phoned the 0800 number, they said to call an 0330 number from a mobile. Phoned that and got an auto answer. They said key in the phone number, did that - they said they were running tests.

Something wrong with the line. If it's something that's my fault there's a £130 charge. Do I want to book an engineer, Yes, or No. Had to choose Yes as there's no "real person" to speak to ..... so panicked about the potential bill. I've done nothing, I'd been using it and it'd dropped.

They then said it'd be up to 3 days to be fixed

So .... had a big cry about how !!!!!! my life is .... and how I can't be offline/without a phone for 3 days ..... and went outside for a rollie. Had another big cry about how !!!!!! my life is ...... and came inside.

Looked at the equipment .... and there was a magical blue light ..... so I turned on the PC again and here I am!

Hope it's fixed and it's not me, so there's no bill!

PasturesNew

michaels wrote: »

I am being called disgusting elsewhere because I let my kids share bath water. It is what we did when I was growing up (we are talking under 8s). Is it just me being weird or do siblings generally share bath water (when they were smaller they even used to share the bath).

I think most kids share until they're 8-9