We’d like to remind Forumites to please avoid political debate on the Forum.
This is to keep it a safe and useful space for MoneySaving discussions. Threads that are – or become – political in nature may be removed in line with the Forum’s rules. Thank you for your understanding.
Debate House Prices
In order to help keep the Forum a useful, safe and friendly place for our users, discussions around non MoneySaving matters are no longer permitted. This includes wider debates about general house prices, the economy and politics. As a result, we have taken the decision to keep this board permanently closed, but it remains viewable for users who may find some useful information in it. Thank you for your understanding.
📨 Have you signed up to the Forum's new Email Digest yet? Get a selection of trending threads sent straight to your inbox daily, weekly or monthly!
The Forum now has a brand new text editor, adding a bunch of handy features to use when creating posts. Read more in our how-to guide
Nice People Thread Part 9 - and so it continues
Comments
-
vivatifosi wrote: »Lir, do they know how rough you've been recently? That's one heck of a big ask of someone who is not well and already has a menagerie. What you have said is fair, irrespective of your inclination towards that person.
'Its not as if it makes any difference to you.....one more'.
Sigh, no, because minevwon't notice or react at all!
Its a cat, not a dog, so it means keeping my cats in for six weeks or so, so they'll be grumpy, and its only been a house cat before, so when it goes back it goes from new found free range to captivity again. I don't think that's fair( though think house cats can be).
People are just used to me being ill. Because I don't talk about it in real life and don't socialise much any more people probably just think I've gone to seed and gone batty. Who knows.0 -
-
Who do NP buy for?
Mrs McT.
Parental one.
Brother and in-laws.
Assorted friends.That is £550+ which is good.
I wish.....:o
I'll be lucky if the "assorted friends" category comes to less than that.
The other three combined will be an order of magnitude greater.
The parental one is getting old and ditzy, and has been babbling endlessly about a conservatory, or summer house, or something garden-y that I don't understand the point of but will happily provide if it keeps them happy.
The (younger) brother has (finally) got his act together in life and requires many things, which I am happy to assist with if it means he can catch up.
And Mrs McT is, well, Mrs McT..... So I shall probably need to build an extension to keep up with her increasingly Esmerelda Marcos-ish collection of shoes.
Although given the fact that she puts up with me unreservedly, that's likely to be the best investment I ever make.
“The great enemy of the truth is very often not the lie – deliberate, contrived, and dishonest – but the myth, persistent, persuasive, and unrealistic.
Belief in myths allows the comfort of opinion without the discomfort of thought.”
-- President John F. Kennedy”0 -
lostinrates wrote: »In current mood, nobody :rotfl:
Scrooge!!!!!
Just kidding, we all know you're simply releasing your inner Aberdonian......
“The great enemy of the truth is very often not the lie – deliberate, contrived, and dishonest – but the myth, persistent, persuasive, and unrealistic.
Belief in myths allows the comfort of opinion without the discomfort of thought.”
-- President John F. Kennedy”0 -
vivatifosi wrote: »Lir, do they know how rough you've been recently? That's one heck of a big ask of someone who is not well and already has a menagerie. What you have said is fair, irrespective of your inclination towards that person.
LiR, you have given the best answer. There is self preservation in this. Those who think you arein the wrong are not the ones who would have the work/tie/emotional commitment/financial risk.
This is not their call and IMO they should shut up unless the voice an opinion to support you. (I never use this exprssion - NP mode well and truly off).
I am getting annoyed with people who recommend/risk/dispense others resources, be they emotional, health, assets or time .
Too often NP post of their experiences of this. May be a flaw in being a NP.
I think I am way past anyone doing it to me anymore (or I am not Nice) and I want to 'rescue' you.0 -
lostinrates wrote: »'Its not as if it makes any difference to you.....one more'.
Sigh, no, because minevwon't notice or react at all!
Its a cat, not a dog, so it means keeping my cats in for six weeks or so, so they'll be grumpy, and its only been a house cat before, so when it goes back it goes from new found free range to captivity again. I don't think that's fair( though think house cats can be).
People are just used to me being ill. Because I don't talk about it in real life and don't socialise much any more people probably just think I've gone to seed and gone batty. Who knows.
Urgh... I've tried writing a response to that 3 times but deleted for letting rip at the other person who I do not know. But you are not batty, you are not going to seed and the other person sounds insensitive and self centred for not realising how much they would be putting on both you and your home setting. Plenty of people will take in a cat. The degree of difficulty they were implying suggested to me that it was an alpaca or something a bit more exotic.Please stay safe in the sun and learn the A-E of melanoma: A = asymmetry, B = irregular borders, C= different colours, D= diameter, larger than 6mm, E = evolving, is your mole changing? Most moles are not cancerous, any doubts, please check next time you visit your GP.
0 -
Super generous, Spirit.
I've gone without a present from DH the last two years. We've agreed not to do presents with the proper grown ups in the family. DD has made a list of the grown ups and wants to spend some of her money on them/us. Her budget is £30, bless her. I will buy for my children; going to try and stick to £100 as we're going on holiday an agreed that this is our main present to each other. I will buy for younger cousins, both in 20s, probably £25 each and cousin's daughter.
We're not very popular with the neighbours, so I needn't worry about them.
Whatever we can afford on top we will spend on each other, but DH does owe me this year.
I really enjoy shopping for presents but I have terrible and almost unfailing habit of falling ill with exhaustion during the main event and I'd quite like to just enjoy it instead of listening from bed or feeling like I'm dying on the sofa.
Waitrose delivery booked for 21st.Everything that is supposed to be in heaven is already here on earth.
0 -
lostinrates wrote: »people probably just think I've gone to seed and gone batty.
If it makes you feel any better, everyone I know thinks I've gone batty, and I don't even have the excuse of being ill.... “The great enemy of the truth is very often not the lie – deliberate, contrived, and dishonest – but the myth, persistent, persuasive, and unrealistic.
Belief in myths allows the comfort of opinion without the discomfort of thought.”
-- President John F. Kennedy”0 -
lostinrates wrote: »'Its not as if it makes any difference to you.....one more'.
Sigh, no, because minevwon't notice or react at all!
Its a cat.
Aha! My cattery is not ready for opening yet, but GDB's might be? Everything that is supposed to be in heaven is already here on earth.
0 -
Who do NP buy for?
Parents, no set budget, more dependent on need.
Brother, sis in law and respective partners, we did go mad in past but have all reined in.
Nephews, more spent on child ones.
Closest cousins and their families... little pressies
Aunt, similar
Husband... depends on how flush I am but main spend is here
Friends..
I buy a lot of things abroad that the kids can't get here so this affords cool aunty status.Please stay safe in the sun and learn the A-E of melanoma: A = asymmetry, B = irregular borders, C= different colours, D= diameter, larger than 6mm, E = evolving, is your mole changing? Most moles are not cancerous, any doubts, please check next time you visit your GP.
0
This discussion has been closed.
Confirm your email address to Create Threads and Reply
Categories
- All Categories
- 353.4K Banking & Borrowing
- 254.1K Reduce Debt & Boost Income
- 455K Spending & Discounts
- 246.5K Work, Benefits & Business
- 602.8K Mortgages, Homes & Bills
- 178K Life & Family
- 260.5K Travel & Transport
- 1.5M Hobbies & Leisure
- 16K Discuss & Feedback
- 37.7K Read-Only Boards