Nice People Thread Part 9 - and so it continues

Kennyboy66

SingleSue wrote: »

Anyway, today is the day! James is off to university and I am both excited and a little scared...my first born is going on the next step of the journey of his life!

Best advice I was given going to University & meeting girls was;

"Please set the bar a bit higher than consent, try and aim for enthusiasm."


I'm sure he'll do really well.

neverdespairgirl

Odd how men seem to think of sex first when it comes to university, leaving aside minor details such as getting a degree......

I think that was very good advice, though.

Kennyboy66

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

Odd how men seem to think of sex first when it comes to university, leaving aside minor details such as getting a degree......

Just university ?

lostinrates

Kennyboy66 wrote: »

Just university ?

There used to be a tv advert when i was a teen that stated the old cliche that men think about sex every seven seconds.

I think I probably got an inkling then I had a higher than average sex drive.

michaels

A question for NPs

DKs school are getting very bolshie about swimming. DD1 has swimming today which she loves, however she has a cold and cough and possibly slight temperature. To me she is clearly well enough to be at school but swimming (possibly getting cold, chlorine, ingesting water) would not be a good idea. Because of the timetabling it therefore makes sense to keep her at home this morning and send her for the afternoon (rather than sending her but saying she can't swim and thus leaving the school to have to make other arrangements for her).

The school refuse to counternance that a child could be well enough to be at school but not well enough to go swimming, either you are too ill to come at all or you are well enough to swim. I am sure this policy is designed to try and make sure all pupils swim as those who don't like swimming otherwise try and get a sick note to get out of it, but to me it is patently not true. Any other NP schools with similar policies? Anyone think for a child (or an adult) being well enough for work/school means being well enough to swim/gym or whatever?

neverdespairgirl

I think that's bizarre - there are lots of times when I'm perfectly well enough to be at work / school, but swimming risks aggravating a minor sniffle. A couple of times last year, when Isaac had swimming first thing on a Tuesday and we had to drop him at the baths instead of at school, we took him to school at about 10.30am instead, when the rest got back to school, for precisely that reason.

silvercar

michaels wrote: »

A question for NPs

DKs school are getting very bolshie about swimming. DD1 has swimming today which she loves, however she has a cold and cough and possibly slight temperature. To me she is clearly well enough to be at school but swimming (possibly getting cold, chlorine, ingesting water) would not be a good idea. Because of the timetabling it therefore makes sense to keep her at home this morning and send her for the afternoon (rather than sending her but saying she can't swim and thus leaving the school to have to make other arrangements for her).

The school refuse to counternance that a child could be well enough to be at school but not well enough to go swimming, either you are too ill to come at all or you are well enough to swim. I am sure this policy is designed to try and make sure all pupils swim as those who don't like swimming otherwise try and get a sick note to get out of it, but to me it is patently not true. Any other NP schools with similar policies? Anyone think for a child (or an adult) being well enough for work/school means being well enough to swim/gym or whatever?

It is also a question of limiting the number of absences. So a child in school but not swimming is better than one arriving late. In my experience the non-swimming class mates end up accompanying the swimmers and sitting by the side watching.

I think you have to stick to your guns on this one. Tell them she is not swimming, so either they agree and she can attend school and not swim or she can arrive at school late.

Clearly they can't have this blanket policy as broken limbs/ periods are clearly reasons why someone would be well enough to be in school but not able to swim.

Doozergirl

michaels wrote:

Anyone think for a child (or an adult) being well enough for work/school means being well enough to swim/gym or whatever?

No. There is such a thing as 'desk duties' and there is such a thing as feeling well enough for some things, and not for others. There's no point exerting her and potentially making her feel worse if her immunity is down. They're only little!

I am tired of made-up on the spot school policies. I wonder if you complain to the head, if they will support what you've been told. It's what happens at DDs school. I complained to the head about DD being punished for policies that don't exist. She was made to sit out of PE one day because I had put a clean white polo shirt in her bag. They wear white polo shirts as uniform during the day, but this was separate and clean. She was made to sit out because she didn't have a t-shirt! Apart from the obvious fact that the polo shirt is intrinsically linked to sport, she was told it was unhealthy. Wearing a polo shirt is more unhealthy than being excluded from PE??

It makes me angry just thinking about it. There are more stories where this comes from.

CKhalvashi

Doozergirl wrote: »

No. There is such a thing as 'desk duties' and there is such a thing as feeling well enough for some things, and not for others. There's no point exerting her and potentially making her feel worse if her immunity is down. They're only little!

I am tired of made-up on the spot school policies. I wonder if you complain to the head, if they will support what you've been told. It's what happens at DDs school. I complained to the head about DD being punished for policies that don't exist. She was made to sit out of PE one day because I had put a clean white polo shirt in her bag. They wear white polo shirts as uniform during the day, but this was separate and clean. She was made to sit out because she didn't have a t-shirt! Apart from the obvious fact that the polo shirt is intrinsically linked to sport, she was told it was unhealthy. Wearing a polo shirt is more unhealthy than being excluded from PE??

It makes me angry just thinking about it. There are more stories where this comes from.

This is spot on!

Leaving the clothing part out (which I wholeheartedly agree with), I'm well enough to be working (I am at the moment, in a contraflow), but I'm not well enough to go out on events at the moment (as in setting up/putting away).

With regard to clothing, I'm currently wearing a pair of suit trousers with a hooded top, because I've already spent 4h in the car today (I'm going to meet a Welsh MEP in Brussels, please don't ask why, I dont know how to explain in English!), and whilst not smart, it's comfortable. The school I taught at used polo shirts for PE, so why can schools not see that for sport, they're suitable?

CK

neverdespairgirl

Trouble with that is that she'll get cold and fed up, lurking at one edge.