Nice People Thread Part 9 - and so it continues

lostinrates

fc123 wrote: »

When did prescribing HRT become routine?

Apparently we get really moody and it's meant to 'cure' that....but I figure if I get moody now it's because I can have a good old grumble and it doesn't matter so much.

I actually have no idea on what menopause symptoms are apart from that you get 'hot'.

Periods still as regular as clockwork too so guess it's not kicked in yet.

Going my moody my mum and sister have been in menopause for most of my life. Mother definitely mellowed in her seventies.

PasturesNew

zagubov wrote: »

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How would you know if you needed HRT in the first place?

zagubov

PasturesNew wrote: »

How would you know if you needed HRT in the first place?

I don't know. Speak to your doc to see whether it would be helpful. It doesn't sound like it's meant for everybody.

I feel perilously close to sounding like I'm giving medical advice here, and I'm not qualified and this isn't the right forum. Needs to be talked through by somebody that knows this insisde out.

silvercar

LydiaJ wrote: »

It varies depending on how many children somebody wants, how old their friends and family members were when they had theirs, and what else they want to fit into their life before getting tied down. How old were you when you got married?

Just 23.

zagubov wrote: »

Re: Biological clocks, they say a woman starts becoming less fertile about (on average) 20 years before the menopause ......

Retrospectively, I can say that I'd finished getting pregnant by then. DS2 is 19.5 and no sign of the menopause yet.

michaels

PasturesNew wrote: »

Just got the telly on and Alan Titchmarsh show started... hadn't got round to turning it over.... anyway...

They just had a piece on facials - snail facials - and they had a woman lying down with 3 garden snails on her face.

Then ... it got worse.....

The camera angle changed and was a close up of her face/the snails, but an "up the nostrils" shot - and she had a booger up there

Thanks for sharing that with us PN

chewmylegoff wrote: »

Long distance relationships are the best. As long as you never have to meet. Cheap as chips.

I find the people i only know by text/email have just as many birthdays and Christmases as the ones I know in real life

Ideally I think kids mid-late 20s would give you the energy to do the whole thang justice but after uni and a few years out you are not really in a position financially to do so. It worries me how old I will be before we are no longer responsible for them. DW's family are 'renowned' for how late they remain fertile so we have a lot more years of avoiding getting pregnant as it seemed to happen extremely easily. I had one friend who was going to ask me for a gene donation if she was not sorted by a certain age but not suprisingly she has gone off the whole idea now the age has been reached and anyway I think I would feel responsible for them even if the agreement was that I would play no part.

silvercar

Ideally I think kids mid-late 20s would give you the energy to do the whole thang justice but after uni and a few years out you are not really in a position financially to do so.

Young kids are cheaper than older ones.

It worries me how old I will be before we are no longer responsible for them.

It does seem weird that we are empty nesters (tern time only) and still (just) in our 40s. We have also managed to holiday without kids for the the last 3 years.

Yorkie1

PasturesNew wrote: »

Did you read the whole thread? The bit where I said I've reluctantly made a page - and there's precious little on it - and I just need 30 likes to see the stats (in case any real traffic ever actually comes)?

If you did - and you have zero expectations of seeing anything wonderful I can PM you.

More than happy to 'like' it on the expectation of seeing nothing and purely to help you out - if it would help that is

Yorkie1

One of my friends had always wanted children but the 'bloke' side of the equation just wasn't happening.

So, straight after her 40th birthday, she started IVF as a single mother. It worked the first time and the twins are now 7.

She had a further child (naturally, with a partner) 4 years later so all is not lost for those pre-40

LydiaJ

zagubov wrote: »

Are late children common among family members? My sister had a baby in her mid-40s (I'll be 70 when the baby's 18). That makes me feel really a bit old.

I think my mother's menopause was quite late, but she didn't tell me about it at the time and she's dead now so I can't ask her. I suppose my dad might remember, but I doubt it. He'd very likely remember what symptoms she had and whether she found it tough, but not when it happened. I do know she decided that she didn't want HRT and managed fine without it.

I would not want to have a child in my mid-40s (ie now). My mum always conceived easily (as I did) but had several miscarriages (and I had one) and went overdue (as I did), didn't get stretch marks (as I didn't) and didn't "show" she was pregnant until really late on (just like me). Do you see a theme here? She had easy pregnancies and easy births in her late 20s and early 30s, and a complete nightmare with me at the age of 39, with the birth putting both her and me in danger. So there's no way I'd want to put myself at risk of a pregnancy over 40. Not that I want any more kids, or have anybody to have them with, anyway, and I don't think new half-siblings would be helpful for my existing kids, either.

PasturesNew

zagubov wrote: »

I....

I'd have had to have had that conversation over 10 years ago