Am I being unreasonable.....???

Blackpool_Saver

Why do adult children (in-law) still think we will finance and help then, there comes a time to tell them to P off

Poppy9

£35 is quite cheap for highlights. DD pays £80 and that's with 20% student discount.

How much were the mateirals and how long was she doing your hair?

When DD has her highlights in salon she is there 3 hours. When I have a tint I'm there almost 2 hours.

If freelancing is her job and you took her away from a paying customer I can understand her charging a bit to cover her time. After all that is how she makes her living.

Dimey

stormbreaker wrote: »

Here is perhaps different angle!

You have in the past always been happy to go elsewhere and give someone else the business. Possibly as the same hairdresser had always done your hair or like me you just like the salon experience. Or perhaps you have not wanted to impose before except for a fringe trim, which to be fair for a trained hairdresser is a menial task.

Unknown to you she has perhaps found this difficult to understand, felt hurt, untrusted but not felt comfortable enough to address the matter.

When you ask her, she is taken off guard and agrees. However by the time it comes to doing the work all the pent up hurt, anger and misunderstanding has festered and she has decided to charge you a ' normal ' clients rate.

You all need to sit down and talk. I don't think the money is the issue here. Although she may think it is as you were happy to home colour but when it came to something a bit different that a salon would charge a lot for you turned to her.

No. I'm of the opinion this should die a death now. Don't mention it again.
But I'd have my vengeance. The day will come when DIL will want something and I won't be there. I'll be quietly chuckling away to myself thinking "Pay Back Time!!".

I pay £65 for highlights at local salon. The actual products - shampoo, conditioner, dye, wrappers - are probably only worth £10 of that.

fishybusiness

Can't not comment on this one.

Self employed people get it all the time, family and friends always want special deals. That's ok, and as far as I can see, it is nice to help out.

When do you say no? When do you charge for your time, fuel and materials?

It gets difficult, and I for one wish I could have always got away with saying no without offence, especially when I needed the money, and the business and my 'other' customers wanted me.

My uncle rang my mum to get me to do a job more quickly for him, as I wouldn't play ball. Actually I was waiting on a part delivery, sometimes people expect too much.

I expect to pay family for their time and costs, because I like them, trust them, and know they will do a good job.

hannah899

My cousins a decorator and my uncles a joiner/builder who is both self employed and sometimes works with his mate who owns his own building business and when ever something has happened to my nans house or when she wants something doing my uncle will do it no questions asked but it has to be an evening or a weekend. Where as my cousin ask him to paint some doors he will do it when he has a day of buy the material at cost charge us retail cost from a shop and charge us normal rate plus and he would take his time about it. He even charges his own dad ridiculous prices. Everyone in the family just goes to someone else and refuse to go to him. I think if she did turn away business to fit you in then maybe its understandable. In my family we know who to ask for what and don't even bring up subject matters with others

hannah899

but its hard to take sides not knowing every intricate detail

Ash_McCloud

Parisian wrote: »

This really bothers me for some reason - I can't believe she did that, so so bad!

Parisian wrote: »

I am a doctor

Surely you see worse things than what the OP has posted every day then?????

Blackjack2013

It's funny how this thread has recapitulated the EXACT sentiments that kicked off the argument! a timeless quibble, perhaps.

Parisian

Ash_McCloud wrote: »

Surely you see worse things than what the OP has posted every day then?????

I think it is terrible for a daughter in law to charge her mother in law. That's my personal opinion. It has nothing to be with being a doctor. What exactly are you trying to point out by linking comments from two separate posts?

Post 1 was my personal opinion.

Post 2 was in reply to another poster who was questioning whether the people who were replying were "skilled workers".

In response to your reply - Surely you have more sense than that?????

cabriolean

The main point to me is that the DIL agreed a price with the MIL and then changed it after the job was done. I could understand saying upfront that she would like some money for her time, or she doesn't do mates' rates because it complicates things, or compensation for turning clients away or something.

Once the price was agreed, even if she hadn't thought it through properly, it was one brief job, and she should have followed through with the bargain. She essentially sold her something then changed the price afterwards, with it being non-refundable.