Am I being unreasonable.....???

Parisian

Wow, that's awful

Callie22

redwineguzzler wrote: »

She has been paid already...... I just let her know that I thought she was being very unreasonable with the cost, I certainly don't want the money back, it's just the cheek of it all now! but now she's got the huff big time....... she even sent our son round to us to let us know SHE was upset and that's what the products cost, so the following day (just in case I was in the wrong) nipped into the wholesalers to check it out for my own piece of mind, totally ripped off......

I can be a bit of a moo so I wouldn't be able to resist sweetly saying to your son 'oh gosh, that's terrible that she's paying so much. Tell her she ought to go to x wholesalers as they only cost £x there' .... But like I said, I'm a moo

Saint_Chris

I would be fuming.

My son in law is a painter and decorator, and it causes so much trouble in the family, he does our decorating and his parents decorating for nothing...............as we child mind all week, take the kids on holiday, have them over for tea lots etc, which I say I never mind doing,
but as a thank you I always give him a couple of pounds when he's done my decorating.

Toothsmith

It would be interesting to know how many of the people who are saying she's bad for charging you that much actually work in a 'skilled service' job like hairdresser, decorator, plumber, dentist, vet, etc - and how many are in other jobs that aren't of any use to friends & relations!

I absolutely HATE treating people I'm related to or people that were friends first. (As opposed to people who are patients first, but then I get to know them later as social acquaintances/friends.)

If anything is going to go wrong, it will always be with these patients. The phrase "can you just quickly look at this......" is the bane of my life - NO I cannot just look at it quickly - because even just looking at it quickly means we still have to go through the same cross infection procedures between patients, and that takes TIME!

Fair play to her for charging you a proper amount.

As for 'doing favours' - I have no problem with watering a neighbours plants whilst they're on holiday, running them to the airport or station, I clear the elderly neighbours drives when it snows.

But teeth - that's my job and if you want me to do that, then I charge, I charge the same as I charge everybody else, and you will get the same good service and my best efforts just like everybody else does.

redwineguzzler

Saint_Chris wrote: »

I would be fuming.

My son in law is a painter and decorator, and it causes so much trouble in the family, he does our decorating and his parents decorating for nothing...............as we child mind all week, take the kids on holiday, have them over for tea lots etc, which I say I never mind doing,
but as a thank you I always give him a couple of pounds when he's done my decorating.

Thankyou, yes I have been left feeling fuming............ but I know that she'll make things awkward for my son, so at this point, I'm just going to have to put it down to experience........ never again! & next time she asks for favours, I might just be busy that day!!!!

Toothsmith

Saint_Chris wrote: »

a couple of pounds

Really? And do you say 'get yourself an ice-cream?'

Toothsmith

Having said that, I do do my Mum, Dad, Wife, kids and Father in Law's.

notanewuser

Toothsmith wrote: »

It would be interesting to know how many of the people who are saying she's bad for charging you that much actually work in a 'skilled service' job like hairdresser, decorator, plumber, dentist, vet, etc - and how many are in other jobs that aren't of any use to friends & relations!

I absolutely HATE treating people I'm related to or people that were friends first. (As opposed to people who are patients first, but then I get to know them later as social acquaintances/friends.)

If anything is going to go wrong, it will always be with these patients. The phrase "can you just quickly look at this......" is the bane of my life - NO I cannot just look at it quickly - because even just looking at it quickly means we still have to go through the same cross infection procedures between patients, and that takes TIME!

Fair play to her for charging you a proper amount.

As for 'doing favours' - I have no problem with watering a neighbours plants whilst they're on holiday, running them to the airport or station, I clear the elderly neighbours drives when it snows.

But teeth - that's my job and if you want me to do that, then I charge, I charge the same as I charge everybody else, and you will get the same good service and my best efforts just like everybody else does.

I don't charge friends or family for HR advice (as employees). I have reciprocal arrangements in place for friends and family that use me as their HR adviser - eg, I advise them, they provide my business with something else for the same rate.

redwineguzzler

Toothsmith wrote: »

It would be interesting to know how many of the people who are saying she's bad for charging you that much actually work in a 'skilled service' job like hairdresser, decorator, plumber, dentist, vet, etc - and how many are in other jobs that aren't of any use to friends & relations!

I absolutely HATE treating people I'm related to or people that were friends first. (As opposed to people who are patients first, but then I get to know them later as social acquaintances/friends.)

If anything is going to go wrong, it will always be with these patients. The phrase "can you just quickly look at this......" is the bane of my life - NO I cannot just look at it quickly - because even just looking at it quickly means we still have to go through the same cross infection procedures between patients, and that









takes TIME!

Fair play to her for charging you a proper amount.

As for 'doing favours' - I have no problem with watering a neighbours plants whilst they're on holiday, running them to the airport or station, I clear the elderly neighbours drives when it snows.

But teeth - that's my job and if you want me to do that, then I charge, I charge the same as I charge everybody else, and you will get the same good service and my best efforts just like everybody else does.

But, I asked her, she had a choice - she could have said no...

redwineguzzler

Toothsmith wrote: »

Having said that, I do do my Mum, Dad, Wife, kids and Father in Law's.

Exactly my point!