Colleague off sick due to 'stress' when she is partying

Takeaway_Addict

AP007 wrote: »

Not in all jobs no as in some you have it on your desk when you get back, I know I have at all jobs unless it was urgent and the boss did it.

It is obviously no problem to the company that this person is off sick so its up to the OP what they want to do but I think its telling tales.

Its not like the OP has seen them out nightclubbing when they were off sick - the net is all hearsay and the person and the OP are mad to be 'friends' on FB anyway

I didn't say it was a given that they would pick the work up...read what I put.

The employer can only do what they can on the scant information they have. If another employee sends them some information then they could look into it.

Its not telling tales, we are not at primary school and if anything the OP could argue that self preservation, mental well being etc are more important to them in helping the OP's employer act on this if they feel neccersary.

I've mentioned how the OP could do it anonymously if they wished to and with that I am out of this thread.

AP007

Takeaway_Addict wrote: »

I didn't say it was a given that they would pick the work up...read what I put.

The employer can only do what they can on the scant information they have. If another employee sends them some information then they could look into it.

Its not telling tales, we are not at primary school and if anything the OP could argue that self preservation, mental well being etc are more important to them in helping the OP's employer act on this if they feel neccersary.

I've mentioned how the OP could do it anonymously if they wished to and with that I am out of this thread.

So if its not telling tales do not do it anonymously

Takeaway_Addict

AP007 wrote: »

So if its not telling tales do not do it anonymously

If the repercussions if found out are felt to be bad enough then doing it anonymously is wise.

Protecting the OP's mental/physical health makes it not telling tales pure and simple.

AP007

Takeaway_Addict wrote: »

If the repercussions if found out are felt to be bad enough then doing it anonymously is wise.

Protecting the OP's mental/physical health makes it not telling tales pure and simple.

anyone would think the OP is at risk lol

beckysbobbles1

It's a difficult one as it does seem very convinent that she has called in sick when she can't take annual leave etc.

If it bothers you that much you have two ways to deal with it. The first, is the direct route of speaking to your manager and voicing your concerns.

Be honest and say you don't like the idea of 'grassing her up' however it is unfair on the affect this has on the team.

The second way would be more sneaky and be by printing off some of these Facebook things and leaving them on your bosses desk.

Either be prepared for some back-lash if it does come to light that you have done this.

Also you can be stressed and still go out and try to lead a semi normal life.

paddyrg

Whistleblowers/'grasses' frequently end up attracting trouble, so be anonymous about it if you're going to do it, even if that's just a case of printing off the facebook link for the colleague and dropping it on the manager's/HR's desk discretely. When they find it, they'll look, they'll put 2 and 2 together.

Goldiegirl

I've worked with people like that. Part timers who always manage to be ill on the days they are due in to work, and people who are signed off long term, but seem to be out and about having the time of their life.

Has this person been signed off by the doctor for stress? Because if she has a doctors certificate, I don't think there's much the managers can do about it really

Coraline

Strange one for me, reading through this thread.

I am stressed and had a breakdown, but just had an appointment with mental health services and agreed to a treatment plan to help me work through the stress and stay in the job.

On the other hand, I can see if someone was genuinely signed off for work-related stress, of course they would want to engage in non-stressful activities such as going out and having fun.

But I am not sure how it works here in the UK, if you are signed off for stress, are you expected to be housebound? I don't know.

In terms of grassing in colleagues, it can be treading dangerous ground. From all the offices I've worked in word always gets back, somehow, and can wind up landing you in more trouble than the person who might be taking the !!!! by manipulating the sickness policy.

jacques_chirac

Coraline wrote: »

Strange one for me, reading through this thread.

I am stressed and had a breakdown, but just had an appointment with mental health services and agreed to a treatment plan to help me work through the stress and stay in the job.

On the other hand, I can see if someone was genuinely signed off for work-related stress, of course they would want to engage in non-stressful activities such as going out and having fun.

But I am not sure how it works here in the UK, if you are signed off for stress, are you expected to be housebound? I don't know.

In terms of grassing in colleagues, it can be treading dangerous ground. From all the offices I've worked in word always gets back, somehow, and can wind up landing you in more trouble than the person who might be taking the !!!! by manipulating the sickness policy.

You're right Coraline, work related stress does not mean the individual should have to stay at home - a day at the seaside could assist in their recovery. We (and the OP) are not in a position to judge.

The OP strikes me as a busybody - repeatedly prying into the business of others. Only a matter of time before her colleagues catch on to this and she receives a taste of her own medicine.

Goldiegirl

I don't think a person who is off work with stress should stay incarcerated in the house ......... But I don't think it's appropriate for the person described in the original post to be plastering all her fun activities all over Facebook, when she's off work sick.