Child care responsibility once separated

supersaver2

Guest101 wrote: »

You didnt work because you looking after your child, whilst she worked? And you have to take days off whilst she works?

You need to go back home, take possesion of your child, as you are the primary carer in this case. ask your ex to leave and contact the csa.

Spot on! Get back home, take care off your child as you have been doing all his life, you are the main carer so your wife should be the one to move out, you claim child related benefits, child support and maybe even spousal support, you need to see a solicitor asap.

cte1111

supersaver2 wrote: »

Spot on! Get back home, take care off your child as you have been doing all his life, you are the main carer so your wife should be the one to move out, you claim child related benefits, child support and maybe even spousal support, you need to see a solicitor asap.

The OP only says that 'latterly' he has been doing the childcare. For all we know that could have been for just a few months after he lost his last job and before he found his new one.

They also don't seem to have been married, so 'spousal' support is pretty unlikely.

Finally - did I miss the bit where the OP said he wanted to give up his job, try to claim his ex's house and become a full time Dad? Strikes me that people would be best advised to answer the questions asked, if they have any help to offer, rather than go all man's lib and tell him to take his ex for everything he can get.

supersaver2

cte1111 wrote: »

The OP only says that 'latterly' he has been doing the childcare. For all we know that could have been for just a few months after he lost his last job and before he found his new one.

They also don't seem to have been married, so 'spousal' support is pretty unlikely.

Finally - did I miss the bit where the OP said he wanted to give up his job, try to claim his ex's house and become a full time Dad? Strikes me that people would be best advised to answer the questions asked, if they have any help to offer, rather than go all man's lib and tell him to take his ex for everything he can get.

I presume the house is jointly owned as she wants him to sign it over to her, so obviously not just the ex' s house and he is just as entitled to continue living there as opposed to kipping on a mates sofa.

supersaver2

Also the poster does say he's brought no money into the house for a few years which suggest he hadn't had a job for a while and has been doing the child raising.

Gigglepig

Perhaps OP was able to stay home with kids when his partner was the breadwinner, but after the split needed to work and support himself, so it is no longer practicable for him to have the kids full time and be a stay at home dad?

Guest101

Gigglepig wrote: »

Perhaps OP was able to stay home with kids when his partner was the breadwinner, but after the split needed to work and support himself, so it is no longer practicable for him to have the kids full time and be a stay at home dad?

Plenty of benefits to help OP, child should have stability. If OP been looking after for years, it should continue.

Gigglepig

Stability is all well and good, but with a mortgage to pay, many formerly stay at home parents are pretty much forced to work after divorce. Anyway we don't know OP's circumstances orif that was the case here.

Guest101

Hmm perhaps people should avoid debt which cannot be repaid in changes of circumstances (but thats another topic)

I encourage the OP to use his rights, children > money, every time!

GwylimT

If you're the one who normally arranges childcare on those days this should carry on, responsibilities don't change or disappear when a relationship breaks down if you're putting your children first.

rpc

Mojisola wrote: »

Why aren't you in the family home with your son? You were the Parent With Care!

Because he's a man and men often get shafted.

OP - you should be in the family home with primary care of your son. You should be receiving all the benefits and ex should be paying you child support.