Positive Changes and Life's Lessons

johnwilliam_2

Thats great my dr, i will try hard to find happiness in my life and make my days a memorable once and thanks for starting thread which made fell better by reading all the problems of our friends and gave me courage in leading my life.

mintymoneysaver

I asked my husband to leave after 23 years of marriage. Some of them had been happy, the last 7 hadn't, at all. He didn't love me, and much as I had wanted to make it work I couldn't.
It was a massive change, for all of us, but I'm happier and more content than those days when I used to dread him walking through the door knowing that I was in for another lonely evening where I'd often end up crying.
It's not all great, but it's good....

marisco_2

Counting_Pennies your post is so inspiring. I am really glad for you that you have found a way to help yourself, which is gradually improving your life and enabling you to feel happier. That takes such strength and courage. Well done :T

The_Hurricane

Some inspiring stories - are there any self help books that people really recommend?

johnwilliam_2

Just recommend so important books to get motivated .

TopQuark

PinkLipgloss wrote: »

Despite having a close (and huge!) family as well as friends in Scotland I wasn't happy living there. So I travelled.

I've lived in Australia for one year, Spain for 2 years, Mainland Japan for 5 years and have now permanently settled in the little island of Okinawa.

Key lessons include:

- it's amazing how much you can communicate without speaking a language (this applies to when I first moved to Japan - I've since learned to speak Japanese!)

- travel really does broaden the mind!

- there are, unfortunately, some people in life who seem resigned to sticking to their daily routines despite being completely unhappy with their lives. When challenged to make changes they react like you are insane. It's better (for all involved) to accept this and leave them to get on with it.

- don't concern yourself with what other people think of you (I was told I was "mad" for not wanting to stay in the UK). It's YOUR life, live it. “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”

- waking up across the road from a beautiful beach every day is awesome :cool:

- it is possible to get lots of home treats (e.g. Irn Bru) online

Good on you!

I have done something similar and also received the 'you're crazy, why do you want to leave Ingerrland' remarks (and still do sometimes)!

I went to work in the far east (Philippines, Malaysia) for a few years after my PhD and returned to the UK for a while before deciding that I prefer working and living abroad and moving to Switzerland. The choices of country have largely been dictated by work and OH's work, but I'm generally fairly relaxed and will go anywhere, within reason. I'm not sure how exactly how long we'll stay here, but I expect to move outside of Europe again in the next 4-5 years.

I love this life and totally agree that travel broadens the mind! I also agree that arguing with certain others over improving their lot is a fruitless exercise and best left alone. I'm sure there are some people who won't change just so they've got something to moan about!

I'd say that my own personal life lesson is that its better to regret doing something than to regret not doing it, otherwise you are left with endless 'what-ifs' and wondering.

I wish everyone well on their journeys! :beer: