How do I plan or arrange my disposal when I dont want a funeral/service or anything?

longforgotten

Yes, what with funerals running at about £3500 + I must say I think they are a waste of money unless you have money to waste.

I dont't want a funeral because I don't think many people will turn up and it will be embarrassing for all involved !

Mojisola

You could donate your body for research or training - https://www.hta.gov.uk/index.cfm - but you need a back-up plan in case they don't want the body when the time comes.

mouseymousey99

I did a little research re donation. It came back that you needed to find your local teaching hospital. I found mine and it said if you were not within 50 miles at time of death your estate would be asked to pay to take your body to the hospital.

SailorSam

pelirocco wrote: »

Funerals aren't for the dead they are for the living, they help with the grieving process. I k

I'm not sure there'd be that many people to grieve. You only have to read some of the regular posters on these Forums and many are alone with no family or none that they ever see, and few close friends.

zaksmum

When my uncle died aged 80 there was a "silent" service. Something to do with his beliefs, or lack of. He might have been Quaker, but not sure about that.

It was awful. Anybody who wished to was invited to speak, by the officiating person...but nobody did. We sat in toe curling silence for a full 30 minutes. He had moved away decades ago and never married or had kids so we didn't know enough about him to say anything. Then a nun stood up and said what a passionate and loving man he had been...!

As far as I'm concerned, they can chuck me in the river when my time's up. I won't be worrying!

Mojisola

zaksmum wrote: »

As far as I'm concerned, they can chuck me in the river when my time's up. I won't be worrying!

But unless you've left some money and some plans in place, others will be worrying.

It's much kinder on those you leave behind to put your wishes down on paper (being thrown in the river isn't legal!) - if you're really not worried you can put down your ideas and then give them the authority to do something different if it would make them feel better.

Gers

Writing down your wishes is a good idea, however it is entirely down to your next of kin/ executor what happens to your body after death and your wishes can be ignored totally. Your stated wishes have no legal standing and your next of kin/executor is free to do exactly what she/he wants, even if it is directly opposite of what you wanted.

So if you have a choice choose well and hope that your views are well known and followed.

zaksmum

Mojisola wrote: »

But unless you've left some money and some plans in place, others will be worrying.

It's much kinder on those you leave behind to put your wishes down on paper (being thrown in the river isn't legal!) - if you're really not worried you can put down your ideas and then give them the authority to do something different if it would make them feel better.

No, I'm joking. I wouldn't REALLY expect my kids to trundle me down to the Mersey on an old handcart and throw me in while one kept a sharp eye out for the cops:rotfl:

I'll leave more than enough money and have specified cremation in my will.

Mojisola

zaksmum wrote: »

No, I'm joking. I wouldn't REALLY expect my kids to trundle me down to the Mersey on an old handcart and throw me in while one kept a sharp eye out for the cops:rotfl:

I'll leave more than enough money and have specified cremation in my will.

I did realise that - but your description has given me a laugh! - althoug a lot of people do have this attitude of not caring "because they're going to be dead".

My lovely Dad's funeral was last week and it made everything so much easier for us knowing we were giving him the kind of send-off he wanted and that the majority of the costs had been pre-paid.

yangptangkipperbang

Mojisola wrote: »

You could donate your body for research or training - https://www.hta.gov.uk/index.cfm - but you need a back-up plan in case they don't want the body when the time comes.

Resurrection ????