How do I plan or arrange my disposal when I dont want a funeral/service or anything?

Mojisola

pelirocco wrote: »

Funerals aren't for the dead they are for the living, they help with the grieving process.

Biggles wrote: »

A friend of mine died last year and gave his body to science and instructed that there should be no service or ceremony of any kind. That's fine by me, but I found that many of his old friends were quite upset at this and debated holding a memorial service of some kind. I doubt he'd have wanted that, but nothing came of it in the end.

You can leave instructions and your executor should take notice of your wishes but even that's not guaranteed. You certainly won't be able to stop people arranging some kind of memorial get-together - as pelirocco says, the funeral and the wake are for the living, not the dead.

chesky

Absolutely Margaret - hypocrisy on wheels most of them. I've been to funerals where the vicar has really no idea who he's talking about, where relatives of the deceased feel obliged to speak, regardless of whether or not they're articulate and where half the congregation are thinking 'well I thought he/she was an absolute

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And I don't want any of that humanist claptrap either. Or a green burial - I'm a born and bred Londoner and don't do country-type things. I'd quite like to be buried in my garden but I guess the new owners might not be so keen on that!

As I said, a miserable old bat.

GwylimT

You don't need to be healthy to donate your body to science, any deemed 'unfit' are used by medical students, you do however need to be within a certain distance of a collection centre when you die.

Errata

The most dignified funeral I have ever attended was that of a chap who was a committed communist. Coffin wheeled into the crem, funeral director announced his full name, date of birth, date of death ........... and that was it.

margaretclare

I don't mind anyone organising a get-together among themselves - the few people who are interested would probably do that anyway! I agree with chesky's first paragraph, but I am a country person, as is DH (from choice, although born a Cockney!)

pollypenny

I don't care what happens to my corpse. OH, of course, wants the works, with a huge booze up in the rugby club.

Actually, I'd like a non-religious something, with hymns. But as sister says, by the time we kick the bucket, the next generation won't know the hymns.

oldhenry

I am sure funerals were invented by capitalists as the funeral directors make a good living out of the dead ( so to speak). You could collect the body from the hospital , or wherever the person died, and take this to a crematorium to be cremated. You would need the documentaion of course from a ( or two) doctor and the registered death certificate.
This type of arrangement has been done using an estate car to transport the body. The crematorium do not care about a service as long as they get their fee. It is not illegal to be buried in the garden either as long as the environmental services are happy with the location. Whether this fact was reported when the house is sold is not a problem. On selling three houses I have yet to be asked whether I buried anybody in the garden!
You need to arrange for someone to do it ,that's all.

Mojisola

oldhenry wrote: »

This type of arrangement has been done using an estate car to transport the body.

Or a skip lorry -

https://www.thisismoney.co.uk/money/news/article-2357576/My-father-thought-price-funerals-astronomical-waste-money-A-DIY-coffin-shaped-like-skip-burial-garden-dad.html

Savvy_Sue

oldhenry wrote: »

It is not illegal to be buried in the garden either as long as the environmental services are happy with the location. Whether this fact was reported when the house is sold is not a problem. On selling three houses I have yet to be asked whether I buried anybody in the garden!

:rotfl: Must admit I've never thought to ask that question either!

However, here's a couple of quotes from that article, for those considering it ...

As long as the mortgage is paid off and the land is privately owned, it can be easier to bury a relative in the garden than to seek planning permission for building work.

There are no laws preventing burials in back gardens, although an Environment Agency authorisation form must be completed because decomposing corpses pose a health risk to the living.

(next bit is about how far away from various things you have to dig the hole.)

The grave’s position must be recorded and included in the deeds to the property. And bear in mind that when the house is eventually sold it could adversely affect the price and a new owner has the right to exhume the body.

Ergo, I don't have to ask, and you don't have to say, but the deeds will give it away!

Biggles

chesky wrote: »

And I don't want any of that humanist claptrap either.

I'm not sure what it is that you are thinking of, but our reason for using the humanist guy was specifically because there was no claptrap. You just get what you want/need, without the religious claptrap (now that is claptrap!), but they help achieve a format that is slightly more dignified than shoving the deceased in a hole in the ground.

Let's face it, I hadn't buried anyone before but they've done it before and know the ropes.