Struggling :-(

tesuhoha

If your husband is indifferent and doesn't mind either way surely the way to go is with what you want.

He is probably saying not to have children because its the easy way for him but if you had children he would feel responsible and have to make more of an effort with his job.

Why not pay off your debts and wait till he has finished the course, then discuss your options with him.

alias*alibi

Hi

When I fell pregnant in 2004 I hadn't long come out of an abusive marriage; met my now OH who was living 200 miles from me at the time and fell pregnant within 3 months of starting a relationship after believing for many years I probably would have trouble conceiving due to possible pcos. Timing couldn't be worse as I was still living in the marital home, ex husband was threatening to return to it; OH wasn't in a position to move 200 miles so I was left with the prospect of 1. Dealing with a long awaited pregnancy or 2. Aborting. Well there was no way on hell I was going to abort so I looked at my options. My options were to make the best of a bad situation and moved out of my marital home in to rented accommodation and look at what I was entitled too. I had 6 months to plan as I found out I was pg at 10 weeks. I also had debt. It was a scary time as I never planned on being a single parent, let alone find myself in the predicament I did but there you go.

Life is far too short to be full of regrets. My DD is now 8; I'm still in rented accommodation (which feels like a life sentence to me), now married to my DD's dad (although things have been far less than perfect on that score) and im still in debt but the one thing I would never ever change is making the choice to have my DD. Houses, jobs and relationships come and go but your children are there (if you're lucky) for a lifetime.

Think carefully; babies & young children don't need much money spent on them. Would I replace everything that I don't have and crave for for what I do have? Not in a million years.