shaking like hell!

ecogirl1

thank you Toniq didn't think of womensaid will def contact them i have previously spoken to a local charity called leeway who have helped lots before too it is such a hard thing to deal with esp as it seems his family are either blissfully unaware or don't care i would love to think i could talk to them without them thinking that i was making it all up or just being plain nasty.

toniq

Here's the link http://www.womensaid.org.uk/

Don't worry about what his family think, just do what you think is right for youself and your children. There is an awful stigma around mental health issues and many just bury their head in the sand about it.

It seems you are trying to do the right thing by everyone, which makes you a nice, decent person not nasty, let them think what they want, you are just trying to help him.

x

ecogirl1

thank you so much Toniq xx

paulineb_2

Its very unlikely that someone would be sectioned on the basis of one episode like this. I know what its like to live with schizophrenia, my uncle had it, hes now dead. He was more of a risk to himself than he was to us, he ended his own life. I do know theres little support for people with mental health issues, doctors often dont want to misdiagnose people and people slip through the net

Ive also worked with numerous young people with mental health issues, some are dead now.

It does not matter whether people think you are a bad person or whether he will get in trouble, your safety and your kids safety is the most important thing and if you feel your safety and your kids safety is seriously at risk, you do not go near him until there are supports in place so that he gets supervised access.

Please take this incident as a warning and get some help and get advice about what to do next even if it makes you unpopular.

You have people to think about in this scenario who are too young to deal with all of this and who need your support going forward.

Gilla_2

Just read this thread.

Hope you are able to get things sorted out.

Focus on what is best for you and the children. Sounds to me as though much contact with your ex would be detrimental to the children, especially if he 'flips' like last night again.

Tell your family. They may not be able to do much, but they need to know.

Hugs.

Elsbells21

Blimey, I feel for you ecogirl, it sounds absolutely terrifying. I'm glad you called the police... do you have to have contact with him? I hope you feel better soon (also agree with Gilla - you should let your family know too) x

ecogirl1

have spoken to the ex now i have tried my best and i hope it all sank in he made no promises about going to get help though and as much as i want to think he will i am not hopeful we shall see.

ecogirl1

the kids are so tired they have both fallen asleep!

hannonle

Personally I would be getting some sort of legal standing that prevents him being in contact with the children and you until he is medicated and stable and not a danger to you all.

He's ill and needs medicine and if he isn't going to do it then you need to protect yourself. Do whatever you can to get him assessed and treated.

ecogirl1

i will try my best Hannonle his contact with the children is limited he knows that if he does not get help there will be no next visit until im happy he is getting help it was hard to say that to him esp when he is so unstable was scared in case it set him off etc have to tread carefully with him but it was a relief also for me to tell him how much he scares me and how he is going to lose everything if he does not get help - however his words were i will see how i go i will be ok - does not leave me with much faith he will - the next stops are charities going to talk to them tomorrow - im getting there thanks xxx