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mae

Sounds like he manipulates to get his own way. For example 'I will stalk you' and also letting you think he had killed himself.
He is not your responsbility. He is a grown man.
Your only responsibilty is to yourself and your children.

Sounds like he has some issues he needs to work through and in my opinion (for what its worth) is that you leave him alone to sort them out and move on with your life. It sounds like he is only causing you problems anyway.

carol_a_3

Ring up and cancel the bed and let him lose his deposit! Get yourself a cheaper one after when you've sorted yourself out or a blow up mattress if you're skint at the moment. He sounds very controlling.

MortgageMamma

Oh dear the age old emotional blackmail trick. I had similar with my first husband when i tried to leave him. And whats all this !!!!!!!! with another woman if he really wants you?

My guess is that if you took him back and he did get rid of the other woman then he would only do this to you again in future. He obviously has no respect for either woman involved. He's using you both as a back up, he'll take whoever wants him but he wants to make sure someone does - doesn't matter which one.

Does he work by any chance, or does he doss around on benefits? Perhaps all this man is looking for is a roof over his head, his belly full and the security of having people around him.

He has nothing to offer you, get rid of him for all your sakes.

blinkingbank!

thanks all
Had an email off him saying he blames for our "friendship" being over, also thats its a he said she said sort of thing so I emailed back saying dont email again doesnt make sense that I done that though...only just thought :rolleyes: have taken pics down of him but have to tell kids aswell

My new free life starts today :j

procrastination_over

blinkingbank! wrote: »

thanks all
Had an email off him saying he blames for our "friendship" being over, also thats its a he said she said sort of thing so I emailed back saying dont email again doesnt make sense that I done that though...only just thought :rolleyes: have taken pics down of him but have to tell kids aswell

My new free life starts today :j

Well done you, sounds like you are taking the control back and realising you have a say in the whole 'freindship' 'relationship' thing.
I hope things works out for you.
Remember though its small steps to get to be where you want to be from a situation like that so take it a step at a time and praise yourself for them small steps and before you know it you will be where you want to be.
I wish you well you sound like you'll have it sorted without him. It sounds like he's held you back and been a hassle to you.

bloomin_freezing

why would anyone agree to stay 'friends' with a partner who cheated on them? He can't give two hoots about you.

I'd keep him well away from you, and your kids. He sounds like a bit of a weirdo. If he won't leave you alone, go to the police.

pinkshoes

if this guy had any respect for you, he'd never cheat on you, or emotionally blackmail you, or say any of the nasty things he's said, so he obviously doesn't respect you.

The best thing you can do (and well done for doing!!) is get this guy out of your life, and start afresh without him. No matter how much he begs, ignore him. If he tries harrassing you, or blackmail, then call the police and show him you're serious that you want him gone from your life.

hobo28

Dump the Chump!

djdido2

What a total idiot to treat you and your child in such an immature and disrespectful way. I was in a similar position to this aound 8 months ago and the best thing i ever did was split. You know you deserve alot better than this. Look forward! Remind yourself how lucky you are to be a mum to a wonderful little child and leave anything behind that is not enhancing your life for the better!!

Good luck and hugs!

dido
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BB. PM me if you ever need a chat.

Shineyhappy

pinkshoes wrote: »

if this guy had any respect for you, he'd never cheat on you, or emotionally blackmail you, or say any of the nasty things he's said, so he obviously doesn't respect you.

The best thing you can do (and well done for doing!!) is get this guy out of your life, and start afresh without him. No matter how much he begs, ignore him. If he tries harrassing you, or blackmail, then call the police and show him you're serious that you want him gone from your life.

:T That sounds like good advice to me.

This guy sounds like a proper nutter. Is he on any drugs to be so dillusional? I would make sure you and your kids stay as far away from him as possible and keep a record of any attempts at communication he makes so you can give it to the police as evidence. He sounds unbalanced and I honestly dont think he is safe to be around you or your kids.

Make a break now whilst he has another woman in his life to distract him(yes I know that sounds mean but the more you warn the other woman the more she will stand by her man:rolleyes: )

Make sure he cant access your house and that you have secure locks and the kids know not to let anyone in. It is better to be safe than sorry and if in doubt about his behaviour go and see the police