Someone in my team just got engaged!!! Man I'm jealous!

marisco_2

When you are in a relationship with someone, it is not what you wear on your finger that really matters, but how you both feel about each other. Are you jealous of these ladies getting engaged because you are left questioning how committed to you your partner is due to him not having proposed yet?

jackieblack

sterl1ng wrote: »

I'm not interested in a rock as quite frankly something so expensive on my finger would be dangerous, especially in London! Something simple really plus a very very low key wedding as I'm not into the big thing in all honesty!

Does he know this? Have you discussed getting married at all?
TBH a mutual decision that you want to be married to each other is more important than getting a romantic proposal. Also if you're not 'on the same page' you need to know.

With regards to not asking him because you want him to be one who asks, someone I know played this game with her OH, they'd been together for years, lived together and knew how they both felt but she wanted him to ask and he wanted to do it when she wasn't expecting it. She was like a cat on hot bricks every birthday/Christmas/holiday thinking he was going to propose. Eventually he did, but her Dad passed away before the wedding. If they hadn't played games and just got on with it, she'd have had her Dad at her wedding.

CH27

sterl1ng wrote: »

sorry sorry I meant my BF, most times I call him hubby (perhaps wishful thinking!). HOnestly I'm not interested in a rock as quite frankly something so expensive on my finger would be dangerous, especially in London! Something simple really plus a very very low key wedding as I'm not into the big thing in all honesty!

Doe he know how you feel? Have you discussed marriage?

jackieblack

So, could you clarify what it is you're jealous of?
If it's not the ring, is it the fact that they've got engaged?

Torry_Quine

We never discussed marriage at all before he proposed. Is that the norm now that you talk about it first?

If you want to be married then there is nothing stopping you from proposing to him.

ViolaLass

Percy1983 wrote: »

Also confused by the whole hubby bit.

Anyway my now wife did admit at point she did get a little bunny boiler about me not proposing, she admitted a few times she thought I was going to and I didn't and seh got really mad at me, of course she didn't have a go at me as you can't do the whole "why haven't you proposed yet" can you.

Well, you probably shouldn't...

I did but the man clearly loves me as he responded with "I'm waiting for you to shut up so I can propose to you". I burst into tears convinced there was no way he'd ask now.

Been married 5 years.

pukkamum

My proposal was when I was 19 and dh 22 it went like this
My mum said now we are , iving together I should buy you a ring do you want one?
We chose a beautiful cluster ring together it cost £300 al lot to us at the time.
I can't wear it now as the settings are loose and I've lost a couple of stones I could have them all replaced but I want the original stones to stay in.
I now wear my mum's engagement ring which is quite a big stone and I got a beautiful eternity ring after the birth of our 3rd child, but that £300 ring is my most precious.

neverdespairgirl

You can get the settings tightened to stop the stones falling out, pukka - any decent jeweller could do it.

fluffnutter

sterl1ng wrote: »

sorry sorry I meant my BF, most times I call him hubby (perhaps wishful thinking!). HOnestly I'm not interested in a rock as quite frankly something so expensive on my finger would be dangerous, especially in London! Something simple really plus a very very low key wedding as I'm not into the big thing in all honesty!

Does he actually know you want to get married?

Gloomendoom

fluffnutter wrote: »

Does he actually know you want to get married?

Good point. He may be totally unaware. Especially if she is relying on ESP on his part.