Should I report fraud? OR Just mind my own business?

bloolagoon

nw_mum wrote: »

I wouldn't report her , unless you're certain and not misunderstood there are a lot of people out there living a lie or beyond their means . For example how do you know for certain she owns this new car? I think anyone who commits benefit fraud always gets caught out in the end why risk it if you're wrong?

So no one reports a crime just in case they are wrong? This is a crime we are discussing.

letthemeatcake

Why doesn't the ex phone up to make a tax credit claim, after all the money is for his Son? That would set the ball rolling. If he is a high earner she might assume he'd never be any the wiser as he'd never make a claim himself and feels safe claiming for her Son. Is she getting child benefit too and not passing it on?

Foxn86

bloolagoon wrote: »

Sadly gossip in school yard is rife. The people in question appear to give daily updates on what I consider private issues.

How anyone can be jealous of a thief is beyond me. I could not see anyone being jealous because someone commited a crime, I do see envy over hard worked funds, its human nature, but have not met anyone who is ever jealous over criminal activity.

At no point did I say she were jealous of criminal activity. She is jealous of new man, new house, new audi, clothes shopping etc etc.

Therefore she wants to take that smug smile right off her face and get her into trouble my opinion. Like I say why list of the material possessions the woman and her partner own if that's not really the issue.

Be to the point not list everything she owns!

Oh and being male I take it yes ? you won't realise just how jealous females are ! not every female right enough but a lot

duchy

joyfull wrote: »

You could send her an anonymous letter expressing your suspicions and stating you will be reporting her in say, a month, which gives her time to clean up her act. Or not.

Oh dear God - Are you insane ?

New girlfriend sending anonymous letters to the ex

1 It's illegal
2 If she's found out or even suspected what kind of reaction do you think she'd get (whether right or wrong)
3 Wife would be completely justified in refusing to let kids near her -and by extension husband-It'd sound great in a court custody battle
4 It's a stalkerish act of the cowardly

nw_mum

bloolagoon wrote: »

So no one reports a crime just in case they are wrong? This is a crime we are discussing.

No my point was she should be sure before reporting anything!!! As someone said earlier not just out of jealously because the person has material things!!!

I do understand it is a crime by the way, if proven! As long as it doesn't affect the child concerned , of course should be reported

FBaby

It's surprising though what some people you hardly know will tell you about their lives. I became friendly with my partner's friend new girlfriend when she moved with him and knew no-one locally. I didn't particularly like her, but respected that she felt a bit lonely especially since her boyfriend worked a lot. After only a few meetings, she was telling me very specific details of her life, including how much she was receiving in benefits.

I do agree that if this person is a close friend of the OP, letting her know her feelings to her face would be the right thing to do, but I get from OP that she is not a close friend. Doesn't have to mean she is jealous.

tomtom256

nw_mum wrote: »

No my point was she should be sure before reporting anything!!! As someone said earlier not just out of jealously because the person has material things!!!

I do understand it is a crime by the way, if proven! As long as it doesn't affect the child concerned , of course should be reported

How can you ever be 100% sure though!

Unlikely they would stop the tax credits without checks, same way they tend no to stop other benefits just on a referral alone.

Report it, let HMRC investigate and deal with it. If they find nothing wrong so be it.

joyfull

duchy wrote: »

Oh dear God - Are you insane ?

New girlfriend sending anonymous letters to the ex

1 It's illegal
2 If she's found out or even suspected what kind of reaction do you think she'd get (whether right or wrong)
3 Wife would be completely justified in refusing to let kids near her -and by extension husband-It'd sound great in a court custody battle
4 It's a stalkerish act of the cowardly

Have no idea what you're talking about.

I was responding to the OPs original post.

'New girlfriend' 'ex' , where did they come in?

Care to clarify?

duchy

joyfull wrote: »

Have no idea what you're talking about.

I was responding to the OPs original post.

'New girlfriend' 'ex' , where did they come in?

Care to clarify?

Best you read the thread (the OP is the jealous new girlfriend) ...although why you think it would be a normal or sane act to send a threatening and anonymous letter to ANYONE is beyond the understanding of anyone with a shred of decency.

duchy

FBaby wrote: »

It's surprising though what some people you hardly know will tell you about their lives. I became friendly with my partner's friend new girlfriend when she moved with him and knew no-one locally. I didn't particularly like her, but respected that she felt a bit lonely especially since her boyfriend worked a lot. After only a few meetings, she was telling me very specific details of her life, including how much she was receiving in benefits.

I do agree that if this person is a close friend of the OP, letting her know her feelings to her face would be the right thing to do, but I get from OP that she is not a close friend. Doesn't have to mean she is jealous.

That's true - however it's also astounding what people will assume about others without a shred of evidence.

I heard today that as I'm unemployed (I'm not) I and my son are moving in with my boyfriend when he moves to a bigger house next week (He's downsizing -there isn't even a spare room for my son and we have no intention of moving in together until after our still unbooked wedding next year :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Give some people a crumb and they make an entire cake !