Should I report fraud? OR Just mind my own business?

flutterby_lil

Candy53 wrote: »

Well I would have thought it would have natural, especially as he's worried about being accused of fraud, to go straight to his ex wife and sort it out with her.

So, why did he go and see you about it OP, and tell you instead?

And, instead of you having to think about reporting her, didn't you advise him to go and talk to his ex?


Candy

Mmmm something fishy!!

Jobseeeker

joyfull wrote: »

You could send her an anonymous letter expressing your suspicions and stating you will be reporting her in say, a month, which gives her time to clean up her act. Or not.

OMG do not do that, that is a threat she could go to the police.

Just report it anonymously and forget about it. If theres nothing untoward she will have nothing to worry about

bloolagoon

Foxn86 wrote: »

Although what she is doing is 100% wrong and I do not agree with it at all ! I truly think your close to this woman to know all her business in such great detail. To know this much about someone elses lives is quite extreme.

I believe in your case its not morals that's the issue but its jealously, I think the new car bigger house etc has really got up your nose. I'm pretty sure when her ex does his renewal he will mention both boys! I can't imagine it will take long before she is caught and gets her comeuppance ! but if it makes you feel better call up and tell them. And its true what they say keep your friends close and your enemies closer !!

It's not jealousy it's surely annoyance. Why should hard workers often on the breadline pay? It's bad enough repeatedly paying for families to churn out children we cannot afford to have, without fraudulent claims. I see frustration not jealousy, few people are jealous of ill gotten gains.

Foxn86

bloolagoon wrote: »

It's not jealousy it's surely annoyance. Why should hard workers often on the breadline pay? It's bad enough repeatedly paying for families to churn out children we cannot afford to have, without fraudulent claims. I see frustration not jealousy, few people are jealous of ill gotten gains.

As in my opinion this is 100% jealousy, how can she possibly know that much detail about some family friend ???

Car make model, previous car make model. Photos on facebook what the boyfriends company is how many properties he owns where she shops the fact she's buying a new house. Jealousy I wonder where I got that impression.

Tell you something if a family friend knew that much about me I would be picking up the phone myself. And that would be to get a restraining order border line stalking comes to mind. Block her on facebook if its an issue !

I made my point clear I do not agree with what this woman is supposedly doing, nor do I agree on her leaving her children. My point was the poster is clearly a friend to know this much and I feel she is just as sneaky going about it like this. Tell her straight to her face that she has a problem with it. Sneaky people who do things for the wrong reason I don't like or agree with that's all !

bloolagoon

Foxn86 wrote: »

As in my opinion this is 100% jealousy, how can she possibly know that much detail about some family friend ???

Car make model, previous car make model. Photos on facebook what the boyfriends company is how many properties he owns where she shops the fact she's buying a new house. Jealousy I wonder where I got that impression.

Tell you something if a family friend knew that much about me I would be picking up the phone myself. And that would be to get a restraining order border line stalking comes to mind. Block her on facebook if its an issue !

I made my point clear I do not agree with what this woman is supposedly doing, nor do I agree on her leaving her children. My point was the poster is clearly a friend to know this much and I feel she is just as sneaky going about it like this. Tell her straight to her face that she has a problem with it. Sneaky people who do things for the wrong reason I don't like or agree with that's all !

I do not use Facebook but from things friends say, you'd be surprised what is put on there. Hardly stalking if you let the world know your business. I know a neighbour has debt issues (poor budgeting), I know another has marital issues, purely from Facebook posts.

Foxn86

bloolagoon wrote: »

I do not use Facebook but from things friends say, you'd be surprised what is put on there. Hardly stalking if you let the world know your business. I know a neighbour has debt issues (poor budgeting), I know another has marital issues, purely from Facebook posts.

I am aware what info people put on their I had my opinion and I gave it as have you. Neither can say the other is right or wrong as its an individual opinion. However I can guarantee if you let 100 people read her post and ask them if they think its jealously I would be confident the majority would agree.

And if you do not have or use facebook I am confused by how you know your neighbours business ??

And also this has been going on for a while why now is she wanting to call up, not the new audi ??? not the new house ??? not the wedding ???? like I say I just found that screams out jealously

clearingout

Jobseeeker wrote: »

OMG do not do that, that is a threat she could go to the police.

Just report it anonymously and forget about it. If theres nothing untoward she will have nothing to worry about

that's not quite true, though, is it? potentially, her tax credits could be stopped pending investigation. If she has done nothing wrong this could cause considerable hardship for her children unnecessarily.

as for Facebook....I can put what I want on Facebook. I could google high end cars right this minute and post one of the photos on Facebook and tell people I was going to buy it...I could tell the whole world my business was doing well when it was falling flat on it's face....I could tell people my boyfriend was amazing when in fact he's beating me so carefully the bruises don't show....

I am not suggesting that the person the OP mentions isn't doing anything wrong. She may well be. And she may be lying. And the OP may well be seeing things that don't exist.

Foxn86

clearingout wrote: »

that's not quite true, though, is it? potentially, her tax credits could be stopped pending investigation. If she has done nothing wrong this could cause considerable hardship for her children unnecessarily.

as for Facebook....I can put what I want on Facebook. I could google high end cars right this minute and post one of the photos on Facebook and tell people I was going to buy it...I could tell the whole world my business was doing well when it was falling flat on it's face....I could tell people my boyfriend was amazing when in fact he's beating me so carefully the bruises don't show....

I am not suggesting that the person the OP mentions isn't doing anything wrong. She may well be. And she may be lying. And the OP may well be seeing things that don't exist.

You hit the nail on the head people make their lives sound amazing on Facebook and exaggerate. Ive seen it a million times before.

nw_mum

I wouldn't report her , unless you're certain and not misunderstood there are a lot of people out there living a lie or beyond their means . For example how do you know for certain she owns this new car? I think anyone who commits benefit fraud always gets caught out in the end why risk it if you're wrong?

bloolagoon

Foxn86 wrote: »

I am aware what info people put on their I had my opinion and I gave it as have you. Neither can say the other is right or wrong as its an individual opinion. However I can guarantee if you let 100 people read her post and ask them if they think its jealously I would be confident the majority would agree.

And if you do not have or use facebook I am confused by how you know your neighbours business ??

And also this has been going on for a while why now is she wanting to call up, not the new audi ??? not the new house ??? not the wedding ???? like I say I just found that screams out jealously

Sadly gossip in school yard is rife. The people in question appear to give daily updates on what I consider private issues.

How anyone can be jealous of a thief is beyond me. I could not see anyone being jealous because someone commited a crime, I do see envy over hard worked funds, its human nature, but have not met anyone who is ever jealous over criminal activity.