Should I report fraud? OR Just mind my own business?

StormyWeather_2

Why did he open a letter that would have been addressed to his wife?

thebigstillmeister

Report them... and let them investigate,.. if there is nothing wrong then thats fine,..

Its not up to you to determine whether they are guilty or not, but you have reasonable suspicions, so report it to the experts to take it from here!

Foxn86

duchy wrote: »

Ah you're the new partner of her ex.... most likely, (close family "friends" don't snoop through paperwork -it's inappropriate)

Frankly if she is investigated -either you or your boyfriend will be prime suspects and that could impact on his relationship with his children if it all turns nasty-As you're obviously if not jealous then at best resentful of her you'll be credited with the worst motives possible regardless of if true or not.

Could your boyfriend not just man up -take the letter to her and ask her about it. I realize it's the adult thing to do and won't create as much drama or trouble for her but if it IS a misunderstanding (tax credits do make mistakes at times) or if you have mis-understood the circumstances as you are looking for a bad scenario as you obviously don't like her then it could save a lot of problems later. Best scenario -you've made a mistake and can apologize- worst scenario -she is claiming wrongly and can make a new declaration.

If you are as concerned for the children as you claim why would you want to cause trouble between the parents ?

That's exactly what I thought

duchy

lovetolaugh wrote: »

Yes 100% The father received an award letter at his home address,he opened it assuming it was his, only to find out it's his x wifes claim, he wasn't aware of her claiming, He is now concerned that he will look guilty of fraudulently claiming.

None of the wife's change of circumstances have been supplied to TC

He opened her post ? The award letter was addressed to her ....or to him as part of a joint claim ?

If he was on good enough terms with her that she could return to the previous marital home then how come he can't talk to her. If he feels there is a problem then HE should be talking to tax credits not some random "close friend" with no involvement. I'd tell him to sort it out -none of your business. He may have more knowledge of the situation than he's telling you especially if correspondence is still going to HIS home.

FBaby

How come he isn't claiming himself? Is it because he earns over the threshold? Even for child benefit (over £60K)

FBaby

Regardless of OP's reasons for considering to report, or her relationship, she should report if all she has stated is accurate. It is disgusting that someone could abuse the system so blatantly. It has nothing to do with jealousy. I don't know that person, don't have any reasons to be envious of anyone on benefits, and yet I want to report them (but the issue is whether all this is accurate, or conclusions the OP came to being misinformed or misguided).

joyfull

You could send her an anonymous letter expressing your suspicions and stating you will be reporting her in say, a month, which gives her time to clean up her act. Or not.

StormyWeather_2

Surely the first step is the ex husband speaking to her and giving her a chance to register the correct details. Her claim will be reassessed and she'll have to pay back over payments and possibly fined.

Candy53

Well I would have thought it would have natural, especially as he's worried about being accused of fraud, to go straight to his ex wife and sort it out with her.

So, why did he go and see you about it OP, and tell you instead?

And, instead of you having to think about reporting her, didn't you advise him to go and talk to his ex?


Candy

flutterby_lil

davehughes182 wrote: »

Do it. But dont claim it isnt jelousy thats making you do it becasue there is no reason to come onto a forum and post the details if you already know its morally correct.

Just a quick side note too, my mother in law still has her married name and is divorced from her ex husband. Why would that ring alarm bells?

Good point, my mum is divorced but never changed her name back, didn't think of that.