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Getting abuse for "pretending to be disabled"
LimeLight
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I am disabled. Yet these 2 men I know, seem to think they know better than my consultants.
They keep telling people there's nothing wrong with me because I try and fight the pain and keep doing whatever I want to do.
If I use my scooter, I'm just lazy.
It's really upsetting and have become really anxious about seeing them in town.
Rant over, thanks for listening/reading
They keep telling people there's nothing wrong with me because I try and fight the pain and keep doing whatever I want to do.
If I use my scooter, I'm just lazy.
It's really upsetting and have become really anxious about seeing them in town.
Rant over, thanks for listening/reading
just passing through.... Nothing to see....
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what 2 men??0
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Sorry but what is 'doing wantever I want to do' ?0
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Sorry to say, but in today's intolerant climate, that kind of abuse is a hazard of being disabled. I have something wrong with my knee so started to use a stick recently. OMG, the comments! Total strangers saying things like "Why don't you get a job?" ( I work full time and have done forever, it feels like.) and "Did that stick help you at ATOS?" I have never had the need to claim disability, not even so much as a blue badge, but the animosity out there towards people with any kind of disability, even just limping along with a stick, really did surprise me.0
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what 2 men??
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whatever it is I'm trying to do, from going to the shops to watching a show.Own_My_Own wrote: »Sorry but what is 'doing wantever I want to do' ?Sorry to say, but in today's intolerant climate, that kind of abuse is a hazard of being diabled. I have something wrong with my knee so started to use a stick recently. OMG, the comments! Total strangers saying things like "Why don't you get a job?" ( I work full time and have done forever, it feels like.) and "Did that stick help you at ATOS?" I have never had the need to claim disability, not even so much as a blue badge, but the animosity out there towards people with any kind of disability, even just limping along with a stick, really did surprise me.
Most people have a good understanding, but some don't
just passing through.... Nothing to see....0 -
Sorry to say, but in today's intolerant climate, that kind of abuse is a hazard of being diabled. I have something wrong with my knee so started to use a stick recently. OMG, the comments! Total strangers saying things like "Why don't you get a job?" ( I work full time and have done forever, it feels like.) and "Did that stick help you at ATOS?" I have never had the need to claim disability, not even so much as a blue badge, but the animosity out there towards people with any kind of disability, even just limping along with a stick, really did surprise me.
:eek: That's Absolutely disgusting, I really do despair of this country.
OP you shouldn't have to put up with this. Take a look at this link http://www.adviceguide.org.uk/england/discrimination_e/discrimination_discrimination_because_of_disability_e/disability_discrimination.htm#harassment_because_of_disability. It's a Citizens Advice link, I thought it might help.I SUPPORT CAT RESCUE! Visit Cat Chat to support cat rescue too.
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Sorry to say, but in today's intolerant climate, that kind of abuse is a hazard of being diabled. I have something wrong with my knee so started to use a stick recently. OMG, the comments! Total strangers saying things like "Why don't you get a job?" ( I work full time and have done forever, it feels like.) and "Did that stick help you at ATOS?" I have never had the need to claim disability, not even so much as a blue badge, but the animosity out there towards people with any kind of disability, even just limping along with a stick, really did surprise me.
Really? what sort of place do you live that complete strangers make uncalled for comments like that?
I'd move or grow a thicker skin!
Or exercise my right to call a wank3r a wank3r and tell them to mind their own flipping business.
Maybe they have mental health issues of their own such as masochistic tendencies - after all a stick is a weapon;)
I have never been treated like that despite having far uglier and more obvious signs of illness and 'not-normalness' than a mere walking aid.0 -
OldMotherTucker wrote: »Maybe they have mental health issues of their own such as masochistic tendencies - after all a stick is a weapon;)
In a discussion about the ignorance and abuse directed towards people with disabilities, you suggest it is the result of a mental illness. Oh the irony.0 -
OldMotherTucker wrote: »Really? what sort of place do you live that complete strangers make uncalled for comments like that?
I'd move or grow a thicker skin!
Tempting to move, but beautiful cities built right next to the sea with great weather are hard to come by in Britain :-)
Tempting. I'm usually outnumbered...OldMotherTucker wrote: »Or exercise my right to call a wank3r a wank3r and tell them to mind their own flipping business.
More like sadistic tendencies.OldMotherTucker wrote: »Maybe they have mental health issues of their own such as masochistic tendencies - after all a stick is a weapon;)
I get the impression it's partly to do with age, as in clearly of working age but using a stick, plus being out and about during "normal" working hours. Given how few people do actually work 9 to 5, it amazes me that anyone could conclude that someone on their downtime during those hours is "clearly not working". There just seems to be a section of the community that regards anyone who appears to be disabled as a con artist.OldMotherTucker wrote: »I have never been treated like that despite having far uglier and more obvious signs of illness and 'not-normalness' than a mere walking aid.0 -
I've had it all from intolerant people demanding to know why my OH hasn't been caught yet for working and claiming disability benefit (to which I snap it's DLA not ESA and he is perfectly entitled to work if he wants) to a debt collection agency I was having trouble with when I was off work just before having my op last year that said I wasn't a cancer patient and they would keep ringing till I paid as there was nothing wrong with me so there was no reason not to ring...*The RK and FF fan club* #Family*Don’t Be Bitter- Glitter!* #LotsOfLove ‘Darling you’re my blood, you have my heartbeat’ Dad 20.02.200
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LimeLight I've had the same things said to me. I have severe anxiety and am agoraphobic. My doctors surgery knows that I have mysafe areas and we sort appointments and stuff around that.
people say to me that im making it up as well because I do manage to leave the house what they dont see is how long and how many of my kids I need to help me get out of the house0
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