The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

boultdj

FairyPrincessk wrote: »

Just enjoying a cuppa now and trying to decide which salad it will be for tea. One of them involves warm puy lentils and feta--its very nice but also involves chopping grapes in half. It doesn't take long to make, but the whole grape chopping thing always puts me off as I find it tedious.

Bu**er standing and chopping,take the grapes,a bowl and sissors and go sit down and cut the grapes in half, then you can catch up with any programs youv saved at the same time.

FairyPrincessk

Lovely idea boultdj. I'd probably manage to cut my finger (i'm a lefty but use scissors right handed). I am tempted to just not cut them and chuck them in.

PRINCESSX87

FPK. Leave them whole. Nice little burst of juices should go nicely.

Had a rough counselling session today. I don't feel positive at all. I burst into tears when i was there. I feel its too much too soon. But i guess she knows better. I felt really ashamed, As it was over so minor - Which is making me fearful of the bigger tasks ahead.

I can slowly feel my mood dropping again.I'm worried that with everyone finding this time of year tough, that i'm going to make things worse for the people around me....
I'm hoping it will pass....Sorry to drag the thread down

FairyPrincessk

Princess,

Don't apologize! You're doing a brave and difficult thing, this thread is all about supporting each other through tough times. Perhaps try to be proud of yourself for facing your fears today--it may have seemed like a minor thing but in the context of what you're doing it is a very big thing. It takes a lot of bravery to seek help and to push yourself. Almost every post you mention some new way in which you're working towards your goals and that is no small feat! Big, big hugs. A nice warm drink and a bit of you time is definitely in order.

boultdj

PRINCESSX87 wrote: »

FPK. Leave them whole. Nice little burst of juices should go nicely.

Had a rough counselling session today. I don't feel positive at all. I burst into tears when i was there. I feel its too much too soon. But i guess she knows better. I felt really ashamed, As it was over so minor - Which is making me fearful of the bigger tasks ahead.

I can slowly feel my mood dropping again.I'm worried that with everyone finding this time of year tough, that i'm going to make things worse for the people around me....
I'm hoping it will pass....Sorry to drag the thread down

Have you got any comdy[sp?] vidios? The boffins recon having a laugh a day can help lighten the black dog, also having a walk in the middle[brightest] part of the day[that's the 1 that help's me best,but everyone is diffrent] and if someone relly bug's you then the anger management self help of kneading bread dough and pertending it's the offending person's head is a good safty valve:o

Byatt

PRINCESSX87 wrote: »

FPK. Leave them whole. Nice little burst of juices should go nicely.

Had a rough counselling session today. I don't feel positive at all. I burst into tears when i was there. I feel its too much too soon. But i guess she knows better. I felt really ashamed, As it was over so minor - Which is making me fearful of the bigger tasks ahead.

I can slowly feel my mood dropping again.I'm worried that with everyone finding this time of year tough, that i'm going to make things worse for the people around me....
I'm hoping it will pass....Sorry to drag the thread down

Be proud of yourself for doing this. Counselling is not a soft option, and the fact that you felt safe to cry is a good thing. In my experience, it is a journey, and will be hard along the way, delving into your emotions and dragging things up you thought forgotten or at least dealt with. I was often physically exhausted when I finished a session, so drained that driving home was an issue. I also process things, it usually takes me 2 weeks (or more) so weekly sessions were just too much for me. I would sometimes have a low mood which lasted days or just overnight. When I was less tired, I felt better. Sometimes sessions made me feel I never wanted to go back, but that was because I knew I was going to deal with stuff I didn't want to face. It felt easier just to rumble along as I was, but I did go back.

Try and be kind to yourself for the next few days, if you had skinned your knees you would bathe them, put ointment on them, and maybe a plaster...people would say, poor you, take care of yourself. So, think of that with your brain, it's skinned its knees...

Try not to over worry about others,

grandma247

I used to read funny books on bad days. I like the humour in the James Herriot vet books and others of the same theme.
I also read old childhood favourites such as famous five. Books I enjoyed in the years I felt safe as a child.

Pooky

Lovely post Byatt!

Princess - just getting to the appointments is a huge deal - yay you!

FPK - life really is to short to cut grapes - shove 'em in whole!

Just had an apple pie yogurt....how yummy are they?!?! (YS of course - I'm not paying full price for them)

alfsmum

grandma247 wrote: »

I used to read funny books on bad days. I like the humour in the James Herriot vet books and others of the same theme.
I also read old childhood favourites such as famous five. Books I enjoyed in the years I felt safe as a child.

That is so true GRANDMA, rereading childhood books takes us back to a safe place and time and is very comforting, all that familiarity .
Very MSE too.

Well done PX87, as the others have said, you need to be kind to yourself and nurture yourself.

alfsmum

LYN, hope GP is a little better? Extra hugs to Dockydog.