The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

savingqueen

Lobbyludd, thanks for your post about your DD. I can identify with a lot of what you said. DS6 had his most difficult year at school at age 4-5 - largely we think because the teacher was very shouty, couldn't always understand his speech and marched children for time-outs all the time when often they needed more positive attention. Last year totally different teacher who "got" him and same again this year plus he sees a Learning Mentor who helped him identity and understand his angry and sad feelings better and how to cope with them. Do you think it's worth having another word with class teacher to see if they can offer any extra support? Good that the teacher is on board, that will help a lot.

A big turning point for me was realising that although DS's behaviour was not acceptable, he wasn't being naughty as such and there were/are reasons behind it. He is able to express himself better now and will talk about things more rather than bottling his feelings up and then exploding eventually.

You sound like you understand your DD really well which is the key to supporting her. If you need to talk further or need a shoulder please PM me, don't want to hog the thread, I tend to post long essays!

Hope you are feeling better today
sq

savingqueen

floss2 wrote: »

Is there anywhere locally that your parents could get to where you could meet as a family without your sister being invited? Might be less stressful for all concerned?

in theory yes if they took a cab, we couldn't fit them in our car anyway but my dad won't want to pay for one. thanks for the suggestion though. You know just typing this out makes me realise how much bending over backwards we usuallly do to see them

kezlou

Aot hope your feeling better tomorow.and you her some sleep xx

Aw thanks everyone

Honestly its amazing seeing the barriers being broken. Today we were chattimg about school trips and the worries that came with it, then on to ideas about what to do now the weathers turned. It was really good, spent most of our time laughing.

Honestly I truly believe this fast programme is brilliant and every school should do something like that. really has dispelled lots of ideas people previously had.


Thank you for replying to lobby, I completely forgot.
Fantastic advice.

Lobby anytime hun, I'm just a pm away

mcculloch29

Byatt- great to see you back, I was hoping all was well.

Shegar, will be thinking of you and your little companion. How lucky you have both been to have had each other for so long and how hard for you, as a result.

shegar

Thanks for all your thoughts of support, but Rosie has just passed away peacefully wrapped in a blanket in my arms at 3.15 am..................At peace now ..............................
I was so dreading taking her to the vets this morning to be put to sleep , as Rosie is the first dog ive ever had who as actually died peacefully at home instead of going to the vets.......... RIP sweet little ole babexxx...........Sheila

lobbyludd

hugs shegar. I'm so sorry she's gone, but glad she went in the best way possible, wrapped up in your love at home. lx

lobbyludd

thanks sq and kez, they are going to be giving her emotional literacy support, so hopefully that will help her (and help them understand her), sounds like you have a great thing going there with the school kez.

glad dd is going to the party SW, hope she has a great time and hopefully will be the beginning of breaking down barriers: I know it shouldn't be up to you to have to do that, but the kids in her class won't have to overcome that prejudice and ignorance in later life which is an enormous gift to them and for everyone's future.

Slept all day again today, woke up coughing at 3.30 and have moved downstairs as ds is in my bed having had a nightmare and I was disturbing him, but now having difficulty dropping off again, although very tired. I'm in danger of becoming a bat at this rate! hopefully gp can sort me out later on.

fuddle - divan beds are often on freecycle round here, if yours doesn't survive, sometimes white goods too and if it is just a bit wobbly most are only a few bits of wood underneath the covering - dead easy to fix (in fact it's dead easy to make a bed frame from scratch really if you're not bothered about "elegant" and can go with "rustic").

candlelight_2013

Sheila I am so pleased Rosie died at home with you. I know what a terrible decision it is to take them to the vets.

You loved each other for 16 years, what more can you ask for but an easy passing, and it sounds as though you had this.

Lots of hugs to you and your DH, it must be hard for him as well.because he knows how upset you are.

Take care

Candlelight xx

kidcat

Sheila am so glad you were able to be at home with her and let her go peacefully. (((Hugs)))

nuttyp

Sheila im glad your little one got the chance to pass away peacefully in your arms. She would have known how loved she is as she went. x