The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

kidcat

Kez - well done, if you dont stand up for your kids no one else will. If any animal is feeling so threatened they deserve a place that they feel safe and secure to wait out the visitors.

kezlou

thanks everyone
really appreciate all your assistance


i just feel sorry for the poor dog, he obviously wasn't happy but at the same time MIL should have made him feel safe and secure. Like i say he's a lovely dog when he's calm. But when he's not, well its a whole other story.

Other times when DS2 hasn't taken any toys with him instead he's just sat on the chair reading the book. The blumming dog still growls at him and anyone else in the room apart from MIL.
Maybe its just her animosity rubbing off on the dog so its growls at people. I've heard that happen before.The dog reacts protecting its owner, so being perfectly reasonable and doing what its supposed to do as it its natural response.

MIL obviously doesn't want us there, and last time we all saw her was during the summer holidays. When she said does anyone want to come and see the horses, ds2 jumped up all excited she just glared at him so angrily, it was awful. Poor thing just dived into my arms and wouldn't let go. She obviously just wanted OH to go with her . But he didn't he stayed and watched tv with us. This was after the dog incident.

Just went and picked a load of clothes for ds1 from a neighbour. So will get them washed tomorrow OH is feeling very jealous, so said he can have the leftovers that ds1 doesn't want :rotfl::rotfl:

gailey_2

evening guys bit of an update and catch up here.

kidcat-everyone makes mistakes and you have so much on your plate.

princess baba steps house overwhelms me at times.

thanks for relationship advice.

I just like to feel appreaciated by him and not taken for granted,

for him not to forget how hard being at home can be.

I sacraficed a job/career to raise our children and support his career development

His job made it hard for me to actaully get part time job which would love to do but childcare to pricy and no support structure .
Round here lots of mums work as have well paid part time jobs , wealthy husbands or family doing childcare.

Theres seems not much value in sahm these days discriminated in tax system, bashed on forums , not consdered by tories as hardworking and want to get on.

But childcare for 3 different ages is hard not even sure dd2 has a school place so maybe home educating.

I have no hobbies raly see my mates and have no backup if im ill o one to pick up kids from school if im late or ill that feels scary and if im ill i still have to get on with things some days feel under immense pressure that everythings down to me.

was frosty few days and rubbish wedding anniversary last week

hes being extra nice now make up for it.

Without sounding like deranged hippy lifes about balance.

for next weeks hes working 6days a week.

he starts new store tommorow and has spent hours at diing table stressed and moody over flipping rotas so now balance has shifted hes here but hes not and kow he needs to work and will just have to get on with things.

Halloween did costumes supercheap.
went round sevral shops.
treated kids to brunch at weatherpoons as was log awaited hubbys pay day.

Got some lovely baragins for girls in local charity shop and another £1 tie for hubbys work.

He got home early ad skipped seeing his mum and we just stuck to our estate and it was lovely kids enjoyed it , loads of sweets stuck to pumkin code only stopping at houses with pumkins some had made huge effort to decorate their porches was fab.

Said yes to clothes hanger fo9r 35 quite decent one and went to city redlight distrcit yesetrday between a brothel and a gay bar was sofa project got cheap graded like new drier for £100 so now playing cathup with laundry and will put smalls i clothes hanger make use of it.

Was hoping go chesnut picking today one last time but rained all weekend.

went nearly new sale this morning got younger 2 xmas toys, books and loads clothes for small boy for £10 was well worth going just need to keep bargain hunting and making limited funds stretch.

To make life a little easier kowing hubby be living in work and weathers crap plus not done large foodshop in months and bargain huting we try but cant always rely on reduced.

went to farmfoods with coupons ad done big shop.
scraped away and dustpan and brush chest freezer and put everything away now quite full and on rundown for december.

It struck me round farmfoods how expensive some stuff is I mean who the heck would but froze jacket potatoes for 2quid other stuff seemed pricy.

I got lloads of rozen veg as 3 for 2.

wondering if potato and leek soup would work and be nice with frozen leeks.

Got cauli and broccoli to make cheesy bake kids love that.

Got some froze meatballs to add to value spaggeti to make meal for kids.

Not seen any reasonably priced mince in ages so got quorn 2 for £3 to make sheperds pie and lasagne and those dishes make loads of portions.

Normally I would buy some plain frozen fish but had so many reduced fish bargains at mr m just got breaded,

Some decent sausages to make sausage casserole.

some cheap curry sauces, naan , tinned tomatoes and beans.

still have some reduced turkey fillets in freeze so thats another meal for this week planned.

so frozen does not have to be junk I tend to stick to birdeye and buy froze fish but not frozen meat.,

Some iceream to go with crumble-free apples.
some golden strup make cherry flapkjacks with free cherries.
enough cereal and crumpets until ext pay day so breckfasts are sorted.

Hubby went on reduced run later did sainsburys, co-op tesco metrol and morries no reductions at all today.

he did get chicken that looks like sparrow from tesco not sure how much rubber choicken can do with that but hopefully thats another 3meals.

roast
rissotto
chicken and veg soup.

got given free slow cooker last week.

no instructions.

have 2pork streaks defrosted.

if cut them up put in slow cooker with casserole mix and veg

how long will it take?
how much water?
should i add tomatoes?
what setting?

would be fab do it tommorow am then be ready in evening.

have beef casserole mix and stock.

so apart from lunches ie

bread
hams
crisps
yogurts
fruit
milk

we sorted so will continue to do reduced and might order veg box from dairy as weather really bad here.

I reckon we easily have months worth meals if not more.

*our local council has decided save money and turn off streetlights 10.30pm at night feels really creepy and dangerous being in darkness luckily residents are uniting and campaignig for light.

*Said yes to free tv table as ours on last legs exited cat wait to pick up hopefuly make our lounge look better.

*agents said all outstanding jobs will be done over next few weeks:)

* book small boys detal appontment and my owne week after next but still in pain so need it

* mum and sister came over mums brought girls new curtains and bedding looks fab they dident drive me mad too much kids enjoyed seeing them small doses my mums makes me feel uselsss at times and sisters in uni ad always on holiday and drives mum around,

*booked hair dressers as special £10 cut and blow dry as its a mess hopefully make me feel better, home coloured it last week tried gets girls appointment but couldent get one so going to have to take all 3 down town ad get it done then was trig to avoid that situation.

Trying take one day at a time.
have good days and bad.
will try and make a ew toddler group even though the very thourght makes me nervous.

eldest goes back tue so might do something nice with her tommorow whilst 4 year old at preschool.

EstherH

Hi GAILEY, well done on your shopping trip. Yes, frozen leeks are great for leek and potato soup. I make loads of soup with frozen veg. So much cheaper than using fresh.

KIDKAT, sorry about the car but well done on getting oh to wait for the tow truck.

KEZLOE, agree that you did the right thing and didn't over react.

NUTTY, sorry to hear about the dress.

Sorry, I can't remember others that I wanted to mention

Just remembered FUDDLE, well done on clearing your mums. Now you can move with a clear conscience. Hope all goes well at your MIL for the time being.

wondercollie

It snowed all night. We were able to check on it from one of the patient's rooms. The roads were a mess coming home. I live in a place where there is snow on the ground 6 months of the year and for some reason people forget how to drive in it.

Sons are cooking supper. Pot roast. They even hovered.

I got 5 hours sleep today so life isn't that bad. Now, if I could just rain the husband to leave me alone when I come home after night shift. I just want to sleep when I get into bed, not spend "quality" time.

Pooky

Where do you live Wonder?

Morning all

Blimey, what a wet and wild night. I've not heard rain like that for ages. It's still throwing itself against the windows now. DD1 has her coursework deadline today so typically has a couple of large sketch pads and a final piece to get to college via 3 buses. Think we might need to bypass a couple of the buses and deliver her to the last one so it has a chance of keeping her work dry.

Need to pop into town for some bits and bobs, ran out of matches and lighter fluid last night so couldn't light my candles!! and want to pick up another frozen turkey crown whilst I can still find them. I'm also craving some chestnuts but haven't see them in the shops yet.

Kittens are running around like loons, they always get like this when it's windy, they're doing circuits of the house and taking it in turns to hide under the curtains and attack each other. Lots of skiddy paws and murrrps!

Molly41

M0rrisons seems to attract thieves - I had my beautiful, brightly coloured walking stick stolen out of my trolley when shopping in there. I mean who would steal a walking stick?

We are recovering from the fireworks. My husband had to stop me wobbling round to my neighbours to shove the remains of two huge rockets I found on my doorstep and the bag of doggy poo that poor Poppy did whilst salivating and shivering when said rockets went off:mad::mad::mad:

PRINCESSX87

Morning all.

Hope everyone had a lovely weekend.
Still feeling really rough. But, Needs is must and I cannot bare to look at this house anymore.

Busy week ahead, Starting with dentist with OH this evening.
Back at my support appointment weds -
Doctors for me Thursday. Its all coming at once.

I know for many that sounds like an easy day - But for me with a fear of heading out, Its a total nightmare.

I also need to speak to the council this morning to arrange final payment for our outstanding debt. Its amazing to think it wasn't long ago when I found this group and the people in it. You all supported us through our hard time and gave sound advice. Now, We're starting to benefit from listening. So thank you!! xx

FairyPrincessk

Morning all,

Its the start of a busy week for me and reading through it seems many of you as well.

I've been feeling a bit down and on edge lately, lots of little things going on, none of them unmanageable, but they do build up. So, I'm just popping in to talk about the positives. House is all clean and tidy and we've lovely healthy food in the kitchen. Last night I made a leek and cheese pie--closer to a quiche but without eggs and a shdredded cabbage, carrot and ginger salad. Also have an apple loaf cake. Tonight is stuffed peppers with a tangy cous cous and black bean filling since peppers were on super 6, as well as any of the salad that is left. If OH still has holes in his boots after football training there is peanut butter and fruit. I've pre-made my post-gym snack for today--hummus and veggie sticks and have treated myself to some oatcakes at Ald!. I always make sure OH has snacks to take to work but don't sort out the same for myself so I made it a point this week.

The house is warm, much warmer than where we were living last year--I can get by with socks and slippers and a fleece here! I've tidied my work space and am ready to get on with it today.

I've set myself some goals for looking after myself this week. Haven't been doing such a great job. The snacks, the gym, and a bit of time each afternoon, 15 minutes or so to sit next to the window.

Hugs to those who need them. Good luck to Fuddle and Monnagran with their transitional times this week. Good luck to you, Princess--be brave, we'll all be rooting for you! Bit hugs to Gailey, Kezlou, Stiltwalker, Ginny, Pink and Shegar. To those of you recently victims of theft...grrrrr:mad: And, Pooky, I do so love to hear about the kittens. We're hoping to get one in the near future. I've been looking at them online for weeks, but OH things we have too much on at the moment. I know if I show him enough pictures he'll be won over!:rotfl:

Pooky

Fairy P - show him the pic I've just put on my blog....;)

We've been asked to take in a new kitten but I really can't justify it at the moment, she's 5 months old and has had a terrible start to life. She's been very poorly with worms and hasn't been "done". As much as I want to help I can't afford more vets bills.